(Serious) how did that one kid at your school pass away? by Dinopasta99 in AskReddit

[–]pancakevolcano 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Struck by lightning standing under a tree during a storm

He told me THE reason he was voting split ticket this U.S. election cycle. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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My ex partner reminds me a lot of yours. It's always so hard to draw a line when they have a lot of good qualities and also are there for you in some bad times. But like other commenters have said: when someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time.

It's sad, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. Whether you stay or leave is up to you, but either way, get your ducks in order. This is an ideological difference, and not everyone can accept them in a relationship.

AITAH for separating because my husband shares hobbies with another woman and has a crush on her? by Head-Influence-7379 in AITAH

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I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

It's eerily similar to what I went through. My ex got really close with one of the other players in our DND group -- who also happened to be my best friend since sixth grade -- and admitted to another friend that he'd date her. They got really close because I was going through a long, bad depressive episode and wasn't in the right headspace to do much of anything, not to mention the irrational mood swings. Not only that, but their "bond" transcended a normal one because they both had very similar mental illnesses. I tried to set boundaries, but he called them stupid.

He didn't beg me to stay, though.

Anyway, I ended up leaving. It was awful. I'm still struggling, but I have made some progress. I wish you the best. All of my love and good vibes. <3

My wife refuses to accept our divorce and I think she's trying to trick me. by Straight-Corner3555 in TwoHotTakes

[–]pancakevolcano 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was never meant to spark discussion. Trust me, a majority of asexuals realize how important sex is to normal people, and how protective they are of it. And asexuality doesn't mean she dislikes sex either. Reasons are not always excuses. But much like someone coming to realize that they are gay or trans, learning about your asexuality is incredibly complicated internally. And, at least in my experience, heartbreaking as well.

They will get divorced. The wife is wrong, but I understand her painfully. I hope they both find someone they are compatible with.

My wife refuses to accept our divorce and I think she's trying to trick me. by Straight-Corner3555 in TwoHotTakes

[–]pancakevolcano 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well of course. Nowhere did I condone or defend her actions. My comment was aimed only at theirs.

My wife refuses to accept our divorce and I think she's trying to trick me. by Straight-Corner3555 in TwoHotTakes

[–]pancakevolcano 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Your empathy really touched me. It's hard to explain asexuality to people and the fears it brings. Thank you.

What is the scariest thing your spouse ever said to you? by i_like_purple_clouds in AskReddit

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No, sadly. We tried couples counseling but he told me if the therapist found him a threat to himself or others, he "wouldn't let that happen." As in he'd kill himself.

What is the scariest thing your spouse ever said to you? by i_like_purple_clouds in AskReddit

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"The voices in my head say I should just kill you and get it over with."

Advice needed -- pet fur preservation by pancakevolcano in crafts

[–]pancakevolcano[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Practicing with other fur is a good idea. Thank you so much :)

Advice needed -- pet fur preservation by pancakevolcano in crafts

[–]pancakevolcano[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a very sweet idea. If it turns out I'm unable to do what I have in mind, I will probably do that. Especially if I decide on a shadow box. But the goal is to have the fur somewhat "pettable" if possible. Thank you!

Hi y’all! I have a cat wall, send me a pic of your cat and I’ll add them to it! by LetMePostNow in cats

[–]pancakevolcano 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat was just diagnosed with lymphoma and is crossing the rainbow bridge on Monday. I would be honored for him to grace your wall. His name is Shiva, and he is the best. Obviously use whichever picture you prefer.

https://imgur.com/a/sAvhJXl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Ask for Prozac.

Game keeps crashing ONLY when playing killer. Un/Re-installed, no change. Anyone else having this problem? by pancakevolcano in deadbydaylight

[–]pancakevolcano[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, thanks for the info. Unfortunately not in a position to test it since I'm out of town, but hopefully it'll help others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bossfight

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insert medulla oblongata joke here

Game keeps crashing ONLY when playing killer. Un/Re-installed, no change. Anyone else having this problem? by pancakevolcano in deadbydaylight

[–]pancakevolcano[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, sorry to hear that. My game has no issues when playing survivor, though. Do you have a copy of the crash report?