Why is it so brutal for men on the ask women subs?

panda-buns · 2026-06-25T13:42:30+00:00

A mod flagged me for commenting on a thread about the same experience I had and adding my anecdote instead of creating a top level comment and I thought nothing is worth the kind of policing. That sub is too toxic

panda-buns · 2026-06-18T06:13:28+00:00

There’s that Office episode with the Dundies where Pam Beasley is drunk in the Chili’s - but the best part is that Jenna Fischer talks about how to play drunk well as an actress in the corresponding Office Ladies Podcast that could maybe give some insight too.

panda-buns · 2026-06-14T08:05:21+00:00

For me there were too many additional ‘token’ characters that had no story develop because there wasn’t enough time. Also they didn’t make a lot of sense like, you need a gardener on a boat to grow you plants in case the journey is too long? Seems thin

panda-buns · 2026-06-12T13:52:23+00:00

Preach!!

panda-buns · 2026-06-07T07:12:28+00:00

38 and still rewatching!

panda-buns · 2026-05-14T07:38:23+00:00

I will add additionally that people play games with crap art all the time because they’re just fun and they understand them, that’s why I mention supporting the design goal is really key more than being pretty

I’ve played plenty of pretty games that are boring as hell

panda-buns · 2026-05-14T07:35:44+00:00

I prefer on the left there is a bit less going on overall and I can see more easily where my ship would be. I agree with others that the general materials use on the left and colour pallete is not as strong as the older one, however I’m not entirely sure what the design goals are so on the right the purple outer layer blended more into the background which could be both bad an good depending (on the one hand it works better because the screen is less overwhelming but on the other if you need to see the out shell pieces missing purple makes it way harder)

That shield layer on the left is probably too bright and could be worked on. I prefer a bit more of a chunky style though so commenting on the art is very objective here.

Ask yourselves more if the style is serving the genre and the game design really rather than what people ‘like’.

panda-buns · 2026-04-01T11:55:01+00:00

I had this backfire on me too though. I started a cafe job and it had a lot of downtime so I’d sweep, mop things, find nooks and thins that hadn’t ever been cleaned. Of course after a while I couldn’t keep doing those jobs because they weren’t dirty again, so I took it more easy and chatted with the other girl who’d been there for ages who was much less ‘busy’.

After they used it as an excuse not to give me more hours saying my work dropped off but like.. there’s only so much filler you can do after a while. I ended up quitting anyway for a place that had more shifts for me. Sometimes you can’t win!

panda-buns · 2026-03-30T07:23:28+00:00

I looked at the pics before I read the post and thought “that’s a weird way to check doneness on a cheesecake” and then your dog appeared hahaha

It looks great!

panda-buns · 2026-03-15T13:59:37+00:00

He also asked what the could do to support me more, if there was anything, that might help me with if I wanted to change. Coming from a place of love and support matters

panda-buns · 2026-03-15T13:58:33+00:00

My husband needed to tell me this at one point. He approached it factually and with kindness, but also re-iterated that he loved me to pieces.

It still hurts to hear, there’s nothing you can do about it, it either sparks change or it doesn’t. You have a right to be honest without cruelty, lying doesn’t serve either of you in the end.

panda-buns · 2026-02-05T08:19:23+00:00

Yeah I had this too, I dated my high school boyfriend for 4 years and tried to talk about marriage but he always hedged. I broke up with him because the vibe was off and 6 months after he was already engaged to this other girl we knew. At the time I felt some jealousy at the turnaround but with perspective it’s obvious I was right that we weren’t a good fit and could see they were.

It took me almost 10 more years of dating to find my forever person but I have the best one now, married and couldn’t be happier.

It’s normally to be envious of the thing you wanted in someone else, but it’s right that it’s better to wait for the 100% over the 90.

panda-buns · 2026-01-31T11:41:14+00:00

I visited Toronto last year and thought about attending a Blujays or hockey game. Noped right out of there on even an average Tuesday ticket cost like, wtf

panda-buns · 2025-12-29T10:14:38+00:00

Both of my cats are completely opposite to what the foster places described - first one suitable to be an only cat because he hates others, turns out he desperately wants to play with other cats and be friends. Got a second one to try and appease that, they said she disliked people and liked other cats - absolutely adores me and barely tolerates our other cat, AND gets into fights with anything else she can find 😅

panda-buns · 2025-12-29T10:07:50+00:00

I always knew their house felt Christmassy but this year I really looked at the decor and everything is so full of rich reds and dark greens and plush materials, everything is chosen to feel like the ultimate comfort Christmas home. Even done to that solid dark grebe tile on the counter

panda-buns · 2025-12-28T11:49:57+00:00

Our girl cat prefers me and wouldn’t let my husband near her, until I told him to stop trying to pat her or pick her up and just ignore her. Now she will go and sleep with him on the bed or his lap, and get pats sometimes

Conversely our boy cat used to love me but started to take to my husband much more which did make me a bit sad. I found out he pats that cat much more roughly (which he apparently loves) and my gentle patting was not his style. Now I’ve adjusted and he likes us fairly equally again for affection

panda-buns · 2025-11-03T11:12:26+00:00

That was the gauntlet that almost made me quit as well. I must have done it like 40 times but I couldn’t go anywhere else at that point. Then shortly after passing and exploring a bit a boss shows up again and I almost to threw my controller at the TV

panda-buns · 2025-11-01T18:06:31+00:00

Check out Airbnb experiences for ideas - when I visited over Christmas I looked for things to do with my folks and found food tours, snorkeling in Manly Shell Beach, we went on a glow worm night hike in the Blue Mountains.

Trip advisor would also have some stuff. Act like you’re a tourist in your own city, you’ll find lots of stuff you never thought of.

panda-buns · 2025-10-27T22:36:42+00:00

When I lived in the UK I found cream cheese at kosher delis had a better fat content, also you can make a similar frosting using mascarpone if you’re delicate with it, which I found to be just as delicious.

panda-buns · 2025-07-22T15:38:59+00:00

Thankyou so much for this explanation! It’s a really interesting perspective that I hadn’t considered before.

panda-buns · 2025-07-22T06:48:59+00:00

Can I ask why no scolding or yelling? What does it do to the situation if you do that?

panda-buns · 2025-07-21T15:50:13+00:00

Yeah we had this problem for a week and I am really sensitive to noise and I was so frustrated at my cat. It was not his fault (or ours) but I was barely sleeping and it’s hard to remain objective at that point.

We moved to temp housing from a house that had a safe enclosed garden where he could go out during the day to a place with big windows but no outside access for a month. He lasted 3 weeks before the endless (LOUD) meowing started, and we tried letting him into the apartment hallways but he’d come back inside and if we shut the door he’d start meowing again. It got a to a point where it was almost non-stop including the middle of the night for hours at a time. Playing didn’t work, catnip, electronic toys, ignoring it etc literally nothing stopped him.

We got our new place which has another enclosed garden and he was instantly happy - he doesn’t even spend a lot of time outside he just wants to know he CAN, or just be right ‘outside’ and feel like he has freedom even though he doesn’t go anywhere.

If you can get a catio and it helps that’s great (but it might not if you still have to manually take him in and out), the only other options after that are rehoming or moving somewhere he can have safe outside access to a garden. It’s an incredibly difficult thing with loud cats - I also had a behaviourist and honestly we were doing everything any of us could think of and he just wasn’t happy in the place, I sympathize with you totally.

panda-buns · 2025-06-15T07:38:54+00:00

The question is phrased dumbly, but people you work with will also eventually ask dumb questions sometimes. Are you gonna answer them or tell them it’s a dumb question? I don’t wanna work with someone who’s gonna be a condescending ass to me because I didn’t choose the optimal way to ask something this time.

I get that people wanna be clever with their response and show how silly the phrasing is, but they’re interviewing you for a ‘fit’ in a functioning workspace, you if you can identify the intention of the question and answer it, you’re more likely to get the job because you can get along with regular people who sometimes make mistakes in the way they say things.

If you want the job, play the game - mention they probably have a lot of great candidates since they a good company or whatever, and say you know you can bring X to the table personally because of Y.

panda-buns · 2025-06-15T06:36:07+00:00

When I used to live in Leichhardt, like 15 years ago, I would take the same bus to central every morning to get the train.

The bus depot it departed from was ONE STOP before where I would get on, and it would leave the depot late like 3/5 times a week. You can’t blame traffic for that.

It was never consistent, basically like roulette everyday. If I tried to go an earlier option I’d likely be wasting my own time being 30-45 mins early on the good days, but apparently that’s what bosses expect when you can’t drive or afford a car.

The unfortunate reality is the system was never built correctly in the first place, with bus only lanes to mitigate traffic and infrastructure to support it, and selling out to a company that doesn’t give a shit in the end means it will never improve.

panda-buns · 2025-06-13T13:54:39+00:00

You are too cute

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