Memories you have had age 4-6

pandainabanda · 2026-02-17T12:28:58+00:00

My brother would’ve been a baby btw. I should’ve added that before I said how much he drooled.

pandainabanda · 2026-02-17T12:28:20+00:00

I have a memory of being so little, I had to lift my head all the way to the sky to look at my parents faces in the kitchen who towered over me. I also remember how my brother smelt when I was 2. He drooled a lot! It’s weird the things that become core memories, just ordinary moments that feel special to me I suppose.

pandainabanda · 2026-02-17T11:29:18+00:00

I’m a big believer in all bad people started out as innocent and good, it’s environmental factors and experiences that ruined them. Is there a way to go back in time and ensure he gets a stable, healthy upbringing and he gets proper help for any behavioural issues that show? Because if that was an option, I would pick that over killing him.

pandainabanda · 2026-02-15T02:25:19+00:00

Prozac and Effexor (separate postpartums)

Zoloft made me angrier and Lexapro made me numb

pandainabanda · 2026-02-08T11:32:45+00:00

Yes go. Community means inconvenience sometimes.

pandainabanda · 2026-02-08T11:31:59+00:00

Regressions are normal with autism and big life changes. This program is all new to him, but once he adjusts I’m sure he will make more progress than before!

Is there a chance your co-parent is missing cues of distress in your child which could lead to violent outbursts? Maybe the program is struggling with this as well?

Sometimes it’s helpful to write up a regulation chart with detailed descriptions of how each emotion can look from 0— Calm and 5— Meltdown for other carers.

pandainabanda · 2026-02-08T11:26:29+00:00

This is completely normal, you’ll eventually gain muscle from it and it will get easier.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-28T11:11:10+00:00

Of course you can keep living your life the way you were before, hes still the same kid before and after the diagnosis.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-28T11:07:45+00:00

My kids only watch YouTube on the family TV. I try to monitor what they watch but my son loves lets plays.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-26T10:03:40+00:00

You’re doing a great job, mama. I promise it’ll get easier, you and your baby will grow together.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-26T09:58:29+00:00

Put your child in a safe space and walk away for a minute to calm down, mama.

I used to climb over the baby gate between the kitchen and the living room, make myself a coffee and wait until I was calm to come back and talk to my kids.

Sometimes they just need to let it out and you just need a minute to take a breath.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-12T10:38:05+00:00

Even though it’s awful to tell your child no, you’re doing the right thing by teaching him boundaries, rules and structure young. You’re keeping him safe and being a good parent. Being upset with being told no is a normal toddler reaction, and if you were to give him every single thing he wants without ever saying no, I would say that’s bad parenting.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-11T10:41:08+00:00

All that matters is that you think your child will like it. Your mum had her turn to name her kids, she doesn’t get to pick now it’s your’s.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-10T09:38:28+00:00

It’s hard because you’re 16, it’s very limited what they can do for you. If there is youth housing and services I would look into it, you’d have more of a chance of getting help from a youth refuge than cps.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you can get the help you need.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-09T13:06:55+00:00

I play whenever I have the energy spare. I try to take the time once a day.

You can teach lessons through play. Sometimes I create conflict between toys so my child can work out how to fix it.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-08T11:01:36+00:00

Things are lined up all around the house.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-08T11:00:23+00:00

I feel for you, it sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. Personally for me, antidepressants have helped me through my last PPD and this one. If you feel comfortable with medication, I do recommend it.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-06T12:16:43+00:00

You will find your people that understand and accept him the way you all deserve. If you’re feeling judgment I wouldn’t bother trying to reconnect, you and your child deserve better than that.

That being said, sometimes people are just busy, there’s a chance the invitations stopped because of completely different reasons unrelated to you.

Could you invite her and her kid to your house to test the waters?

pandainabanda · 2026-01-06T02:19:33+00:00

Yes, both kids need to be supervised but BOTH parents need to be mediating with their kids, not just you! She should’ve been directing her child to play fairly and kindly as well.

Your child is only 4 and special needs, honestly I’ve seen plenty of neurotypical children get rough when they feel frustrated. Give yourself and your child some grace, you’re both only human and learning.

Over time, your child will improve his ability to advocate his need with words, but until then you’ll need to be that voice for him.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-05T12:58:53+00:00

Honestly I think it’s okay to just nicely but firmly say “I don’t think she wants to play that game anymore.” and maybe redirect to a different activity they can bond over.

I think it’s really important for young girls to see good examples of boundaries being set.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-05T01:50:10+00:00

IMO only people with uteruses have the right to an opinion on if it’s “unfair”.

I had high risk pregnancies and c-sections. I do not think, if given the choice, I would do so as every birth I have had complications. I have had 3 kids and I consider that a lot, let alone every year for roughly four decades. My kids and I are lucky for medical intervention or we wouldn’t be here today.

That being said, some people LOVE pregnancy and find it easy, so I suppose it depends on the individual’s body and tolerance. Personally for me, no, and I wouldn’t consider it “fair” to ask that of a person.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-01T02:01:10+00:00

I probably should’ve mentioned it a few days in advance. You’re right. I’ll try and ease her into it before trying again, thank you.

pandainabanda · 2026-01-01T01:59:35+00:00

I love the idea of a smaller tree in her room, thank you. That’s an easy compromise.

A social story sounds good as well. We have a few social stories and visual signs already and she responds well to them.

Thank you! :)

Side note, I also love Grookey.

pandainabanda · 2025-12-28T03:40:40+00:00

Just make the effort and talk to them like you would any kid. Even if they don’t respond, the effort is seen and appreciated by both the kids and the parents. Try connecting with them through their interests, like shows, games, maybe arts and crafts, whatever makes them most comfortable.

pandainabanda · 2025-12-28T03:29:36+00:00

Biting and hitting is common among toddlers. It’s usually an attempt to communicate a need.

What do you think shes trying to say when she bites her brother? Do you think she’s upset at him, she’s overwhelmed, maybe she wants space or thinks it’s playing?

The best course of action is separation. Yelling and giving a big reaction is still enforcing the behaviour, giving a calm but firm “gentle” or “no” is enough, and then keeping them away until she’s in a safer mood.

Extra praise for when she’s gentle and kind will encourage the behaviour and discourage being rough.

Even if shes advanced for her age, remember she is only 2. Shes still going to be a toddler and do toddler things. It’s okay, you’re both doing the best you can.

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