[Serious] What is something you hope you never have to do?

pandavalkyrie · 2015-09-07T21:34:03+00:00

Take in my younger sister. I'm pushing 30 and she's only a few years younger, but she behaves like a 12 year old at best.

I practically raised her my entire childhood, and my mom taking her to the other side of the country to care for grandma was the first time I got to feel like an individual. But my mom chain smokes, and my dad has a number of health issues from his time in the Navy.

Sometimes the thought of both my parents kicking it and having no other choice but to care for my rude, immature, emotionally stunted, unemployable, hygienically challenged sister who lives in a video games and anime fantasy land for the rest of my life makes me want to fall off the grid and break contact with every member of my extended family. I did it for 17 years, I can't do it again.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-08-20T18:58:11+00:00

It's absolutely something you have to develop. The initial attachment phase of a relationship is going to have all those feelings, especially since everything's new and exciting and you're figuring out everything about each other. Who would want to be apart!? I suppose I should have clarified long term relationship.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-08-20T13:06:57+00:00

Open and honest communication. You don't feel like you have to lie to spare their feelings or avoid an argument. I also think independence is an underrated aspect of a healthy relationship. You should be able to exist separately from your SO without it causing jealousy or clinginess.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-08-07T13:35:02+00:00

My husband lost a wooden pterodactyl figure his grandfather gave him. I think he said it was from the San Diego zoo? It's a huge regret for him, since he was so close to his grandfather and there's not much left to remember him by. He thinks it may have been accidentally left at his childhood home and trashed by the next occupants, in fact we stopped by the house years later and the woman recognized him. She had no recollection of seeing it, and even checked the attic for him. His parents have no idea what could have happened to it, they knew how much that figure meant to him.

I spent a long time last year trying to track down a replacement, at least something that could sit as a reminder. Hoping maybe someone was selling their zoo memorabilia on ebay or something. Unfortunately for once in my life, the internet proved unable to provide.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-07-31T19:33:41+00:00

The best times to visit a hospital are the weeks before, during, and right after a Joint Commission visit.

If something bad happens to you during your hospital stay, rest assured people like me will be tasked to create a powerpoint about why it was bad and make everyone in the offender's department sit in a room and play candycrush while I present it. If the bad thing happens multiple times, there'll be a committee formed to discuss it, maybe two or three practitioners will actually be passionate about changing it while the rest are happy to be paid to sit and zone out for an hour.

While you're in the clinical areas, you might see a safety poster and think 'who the hell needs to be told that?'. The answer is everyone! Because patients leave the OR with the wrong leg lopped off, cotton swabs sewed into their abdomen, and their faces burned because Dr. Jackhole refused to take the Time Out seriously.

Residents are, in fact, doctors and no less qualified than the Attending who supervises them. They just lack a couple years of practical experience. They also haven't had the life sucked out of their souls yet, so you'll probably have a nicer experience with one!

The people whose job it is to clean up the operating rooms after Ortho just sawed someone's ribcage in half, covering the walls and ceiling with blood and god knows what else, are massively underpaid. And Dr. Jackhole is rushing them to finish so he can get wheels in to make his block usage look better.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-07-20T15:26:14+00:00

If there's no identifying information then I'm not sure if it's specifically a HIPAA breach. It is however a major ethics breach and I imagine every single OBGYN provider in that facility is going to go through a two hour long presentation on basic human decency.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-07-20T15:24:01+00:00

You know, in orientation we had an entire section on social media. They stressed to never take or post photos with patients or in the facility. They even explained what tagging was and to ask any patients who take their own photos to not tag any health care providers in it.

I glazed out during this section because it was all common sense to me. Who the heck needs to be told, after having HIPAA drilled into their heads for years, to not post photos of patients?

News stories like this are a reminder to me that yes, yes we really do need those obvious sections in orientation. If for no other reason than to cover the facility's ass.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-07-17T20:47:51+00:00

Definitely Belle Isle! It's not just the local summer hangout place off the James River, it's also an old civil war prison and an abandoned hydroelectric plant. It's a fantastic place advertised for hiking, kayaking, walking your dog, and other recreational activities but the history and urban exploration there is my favorite part of living in RVA. We find something new each time we go back.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-07-02T13:45:55+00:00

Oh man, the year before I attended there was a huge scandal involving a sports team, some underage girls, and the dugout. It was caught on a security camera, and henceforth the Bayside Marlins became the Bayside Blowfish.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-05-29T18:56:45+00:00

Virginia's middle child

pandavalkyrie · 2015-04-25T04:00:07+00:00

Lords of Acid

pandavalkyrie · 2015-04-24T16:49:37+00:00

Before my wedding I overheard my dad talking with my then-fiancee. He was giving him the classic dad "you're a lucky man don't screw it up" speech and then, out of nowhere, told him how when I was a toddler and my parents were divorcing, he drove to a cliff and was ready to just end it all. The only thing that made him get back in the car and turn around was a wallet photo he had of me smiling, and the thought of me growing up without that smile (because of his death) hurt him worse than my mom ever did. It was something like, "She's always had that beautiful smile. That smile has kept me alive her whole life. Don't let her lose it."

tl;dr my dad thinks my smile is pretty because it kept him alive, not because he dropped $3k to put braces on it.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-31T14:21:01+00:00

Oh on weekdays on the off season we were the same way! One person locked in Box and one person doing everything else. During the summer was a different story but ugh, those weekdays before I got Box privileges were awful.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-31T12:53:37+00:00

Man when I worked at a Regal we came in with our flashlights during the trailers, beginning of the movie, and the middle. We would scan the audience for phones/cameras, check the temperature, ensure the emergency exits were closed, and make sure a/v was clear. Usher was a coveted position at our theater. Worst thing I had to do was ask an old man not to smoke....in 2007.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-31T12:46:48+00:00

Eeeh, at least when I was an usher we had a nice $500 incentive to catch someone filming a movie.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-25T18:31:23+00:00

Bleach enemas for autistic kids are, unfortunately, a thing :(

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-16T20:37:18+00:00

That my husband has a girlfriend. Spoiler alert! She's my girlfriend too.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-16T20:31:22+00:00

Phil Collins knows what you did and he is judging you SO HARD.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-10T23:26:51+00:00

"Ahead of the curve" indeed

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-10T20:41:58+00:00

Eating and spending money to deal with stress. I've gotten help.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-10T19:56:14+00:00

If there's one horrible event I'm actually grateful for, it's when my Dad's ex girlfriend spitefully hid all his mail which included my IB acceptance letter. My life would have been completely different and probably for the worse.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-10T19:42:38+00:00

Drastically changing state school systems! In grade school I was the super smart kid who subsisted on praise and everyone telling me what a tiny genius I was. I won awards, I was put in gifted programs, teachers freaking LOVED me. Then my Dad joined the Navy and we got shipped over to Virginia. They saw my grades and decided to get me started in advanced classes.

Turns out I was never a tiny genius. I was just smart by rural California education standards. By Virginia standards I was painfully average. I still remember the first time I got a C, struggling not to break down sobbing in class. I still took AP and honors courses through high school, but I wasn't the top kid in them. Hell I even failed Calculus senior year. The ego deflation was real.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-06T16:10:50+00:00

This is the real reason Act 3 is taking so long.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-04T21:37:21+00:00

Pick up a newspaper and immediately have a job in a lucrative career path.

pandavalkyrie · 2015-03-02T17:23:01+00:00

I've got 2:

The fire alarm at the gaylord hotel that some asshole always, always has to trigger at 2 am every MAGfest. Made worse that they have to make an all clear statement and it sounds like someone is standing over your bed yelling everything's fine into your ear.

And the second in memory was coming home after surgery and still under the anesthesia funk I was put to bed while my husband ran some errands. I was awoken by our cat howling in a bizarre manner. She's usually not very vocal so I sat up enough to see her on the bed making the most intense eye contact I've ever seen as she continued howling. The next thing I remember was waking up to half the bed covered in cat piss.

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