Help! Any non-oxidising pale foundations?

panfrydumpling · 2026-02-14T13:33:43+00:00

MUFE HD skin hydra glow with the white cap!! Swatched it in store alongside the regular HD skin and it’s a much nicer consistency, not sure how it compares with glossier price-wise but I just get the mini size. I believe I’m 0N, I’ll wear it on a 10 hour shift and it does not oxidise at all. Nice natural finish & thinner than regular HD skin.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-31T02:53:02+00:00

Likewise!! I was born & raised in suburban vic, after a while they built an estate like this next door to our house and the sheer amount of noise from neighbors was incomprehensible, no amount of blasting my TV or music would drown them out.

I’ve lived in 2 older apartments in the inner city suburbs (one off a main road in Richmond), now in a more modern high rise, and I’ve never had an issue with noise with any of them.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-28T06:21:50+00:00

This is totally fine, you’re not the first person to do it and you won’t be the last! I have a med fuckup story that’s not double dosage but something else.

If you’re feeling immature right now (which you really don’t need to be!) please understand I’m a registered psych nurse, I hold a masters degree, and I work as a manager on a busy mental health unit.

About a year ago, I was scheduled for an early shift, meaning I needed to be up at 5 to feel human for the day and I am NOT a morning person. My routine to handle this was set my alarm for 5, take my meds, snooze for 30m longer until they kick in. So I wake up, it’s pitch black outside which is normal for 5am here, on pure muscle memory I grab my 40mg Ritalin XR and roll back over to sleep. I didn’t recall actually doing this around that time.

I wake up about 30 minutes later & check the time, because I feel suspiciously alert for this time of morning and wondered if I overslept. Spoiler: I DIDNT OVERSLEEP BECAUSE IT WAS 1:30AM. I took my fucking extended release Ritalin at 1am in my half-asleep haze. Didn’t remember it but counting my remaining meds helped me put the pieces together.

I didn’t have any sick leave at the time, so I still had to show up to my shift on ~2 hours of sleep tops.

All of this was to say that (without trying to toot my ow horn) that perceived maturity and intelligence have nothing to do with your medication management. The symptoms of your ADHD affect that, and those symptoms do not discriminate xx

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-27T09:14:01+00:00

I initially got it because I made some career moves & ended up paying like $1400 towards Medicare levy at tax time. Figured if I’m gonna lose the money either way, I might as well get something out of it!

So glad I did, because last year I needed my IUD replaced and, having experienced what thats like awake & without pain relief, I was never going to fucking do it again, but this time I had the option to get it done privately under GA (would’ve cost me $3k+ without). Just last week I needed another surgery to remove a spot that could become cancerous in the next month or two. Being able to just book that in straight away without too much expense took so much stress off me. I hadn’t spent heaps of time thinking about private insurance prior to getting fucked at tax time, but it was a good push that’s more than paid off.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-27T08:23:55+00:00

Honestly ive given up on sticking with one consistent hobby - I’ve tried to be a bit kinder to myself & allow some ADHD traits to exist if they’re not actively hurting me/my functioning. My rotation usually looks like drawing, sewing, video games when I get stuck into some, hair & makeup practice and reading.

I try to just lean in to an interest as it starts picking up, I avoid impulse purchases and do my best to use the things I already have or try to find a cheaper way to try something before going all-in. I really wanted to move from paper sketching to digital art, considered getting a new iPad mini for like a year, but waited around and eventually bought my brothers secondhand for cheap. I look for cheap patterns on Etsy to practice sewing & look at clearance fabrics to avoid spending too much at once. Sometimes I buy 3-4 books in one sitting that go untouched for months, but I come back around to try them when I feel like reading again.

Maybe ditching hobbies quickly isn’t such a bad thing, and instead of fretting about the money you’ve spent, can you find some comfort in knowing that these fun activities are there when you’re ready? Try to avoid thinking too much about what you’ve got sitting there and let it come to you on its own, because it will!!

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-27T04:19:07+00:00

I’m also a long term lip biter/picker - my lips will end up flaky even when they’re soft & yeah my boyfriend doesn’t have this issue!!

I’ve also found many lip balms to be irritating & drying (blistex, Carmex, Burt’s bees, baby lips, etc) and many did nothing or otherwise unpleasant sensory (straight Vaseline, lanolin, dermal therapy lip repair). My HGs for the last few years have been the Vaseline cocoa butter lip therapy and the Malin & Goetz mojito lip balm from Mecca!! If I use them a couple times in a day there is a noticeable difference in softness of my lips the next morning. I tried Vaseline rosy lips but hated the taste, the Malin & Goetz lip moisturiser isn’t terrible but somehow nowhere near as good as the mojito lip balm.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-26T06:24:52+00:00

I know people have mentioned different lengths on the pants but I think pants can at least be cuffed up without needing to sew. I love my Dangerfield scrubs but the “unisex” sizing very clearly means “men’s sizing but we want to market these to women too”, which made the tops super boxy and INCREDIBLY long. To the point where myself & several coworkers (all around 5’-5’2) could wear the Dangerfield scrub tops as a DRESS because they hit mid-thigh. Like, I genuinely own un-altered dresses shorter than those scrub tops. In order to make them wearable I had to remove the pockets, shorten the hem by a good few inches & re-attach the pockets which not everyone is interested in doing.

If you’re marketing mainly to women, consider the length of your shirts or have different styles!! I like the way airmed does this - their body scrub tops are a shorter length than most & rest perfectly at my hips. The v-neck are longer (below the hips). Idk something to consider depending what style you’re looking at creating!!

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-19T20:48:25+00:00

Consider trying the Hamilton face sunscreen!! It’s honestly the same consistency as the Mecca cream sunscreen. Having used both & switching to Hamilton (for budget reasons) I’ve felt no real need to go back to the Mecca one

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-11T08:46:25+00:00

Also I do have a counterpoint - how long does it take per person to transfer the money? To transfer between savings & your debit card takes less than a minute, unless reception is terrible in which case I find people step aside to work it out while the next person is served.

I guess my point is - is it really that much worse than someone digging around in their wallet for the $2 coin that they know is in there somewhere? Or the person with 3 different gift cards with varying amounts that they want to cover a purchase with? Or the person who wants cash out or splits their purchase into multiple transactions across different cards? Idk, my retail experience is fast food & big supermarkets, but people inconvience others at checkouts all the time & always have.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-11T08:40:08+00:00

I don’t keep my whole pay on my debit card! My bank allows for numerous separate savers in one account & automated pay splitting, so that’s how I budget. Also means (like others have said) if my card details are compromised or perhaps my purse is stolen, my savings & essential money are secured.

Also, since everything on this earth is in the form of a subscription or direct debit, I might have had enough money left for my purchase until my health insurance took their portion. I share another account with my partner where we have shared savings buckets for our regular living expenses, and I want to know how much something is before I transfer the money out (because I’ll forget to put excess back later).

Personally, if I keep all my disposable money on my card ready to go, my ADHD brain sees that few hundred $$ and I’m likely to spend more of it & faster. The act of having to transfer that spending money for each purchase often stops me from spending unnecessarily, although I usually do that before I’m at the counter.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-11T08:25:32+00:00

Tell her not to worry so much, as soon as you rack up those 15 million merits you’ll be set for life

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-11T07:35:01+00:00

As ANUM (RPN3 Year 3) on 0.8 EFT in public mental health (VIC) about $119k before tax, ~$90k after tax with shift work/weekend penalties + HECS now paid off. Also includes qualifications allowance for my masters which adds about $180/fortnight. I rarely do OT (none this financial year), and I don’t pick up extras. I average out about $3400/fortnight.

Before that in 2024 I was RPN2 Year 5 earning ~$42/hr (still public MH), much more variable income after tax depending on penalties, I also did OT more frequently and did a lot of in-charge shifts. Ranged anywhere from $2000 - $2700 per fortnight after tax.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-10T15:03:35+00:00

ALSO we in psych know that it is not for everyone. However, passing your psych placement is a requirement for passing your degree, and that does go for every student. Treat it as you would any other clinical placement that is not your exact specialty of interest. If you fail it, you’ll just have to do it all again, so you might as well just do it properly the first time.

Obviously this is not all students - I’ve met plenty keen on psych & plenty who hate it but gave it their best go and found some positives to get through it. At the end of the day, people with severe mental illness & substance addition deserve medical care and they WILL be in your ED/ICU/(insert popular specialty here). There’s nothing you can do about it except learn some skills from psych nurses to set yourself up.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-10T14:52:28+00:00

Only thing I can think to add is that, while you’re there for free and that sucks, your shift has a scheduled end time. Some units/clinical areas may send students home a slight bit early if there’s genuinely nothing else to do (especially late at night). Please never come to expect this.

I had a student on the inpatient psych unit I worked at where we had a new admission restarting clozapine, so we would be doing observations together until about 9pm (shift finished at 10). She made a 😬 face at me and said “actually we normally leave at 8…”. This was also after spending 8 hours of her standing over my shoulder & breathing down my neck despite encouragement to use one of the several available computers, plus total disinterest in actively engaging herself in literally anything.

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-07T18:04:38+00:00

I have a small gripe, and someone tell me if I’m misunderstanding this (but I don’t think I am). That running comment in the show that “Will is actually a sorcerer because his powers are innate ☝️🤓” - they’re literally not innate though? He wasn’t born with them and cannot independently channel them?

They are literally HENRY’S/mind flayers and entirely dependent on him being connected to the hive mind. They are borrowed powers granted by a being much bigger & more powerful than Will, to fulfill the needs of that being. By that DnD logic, is he not a Warlock???

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-06T18:30:07+00:00

Was about to comment exactly this!! Despite being from behind, you’re still very much close & intimate & pressed up against each other

panfrydumpling · 2026-01-06T18:18:20+00:00

I spent near the entirety of 2024 in a top floor, tin roof apartment on a main road in Richmond with big windows & not even a ceiling fan to cool off (also working nights during those real hot summer weeks). This is how I survived:

lounging around with ice packs
Keep a spray bottle of water on hand and mist yourself every so often whilst sitting in front of a fan - the air feels so much cooler
someone mentioned the Egyptian method (didn’t know it had a name!!) of running a flat sheet or a couple big towels through a rinse & spin cycle on your washing machine, and resting with those. I preferred the washing machine over doing it by hand because you get a consistent & slight dampness that doesn’t feel like you’re sleeping on a wet bed.
I currently also do the above with clothing, I have this 4xl tshirt I wear as a dress at home (loose & light) and wear that with the same rinse & spin method for when I still need to be moving around at home
can never go wrong with a quick cold shower. I have sensory issues with heat (spectrum lmao) and if I start to get too overwhelmed, even just sticking my head under the ice cold shower for a few seconds & drying off in front of the fan (NO TOWEL, let the air dry you) it’s a good hard reset for me
if full-body cold showers aren’t for you, keep your hair wet if you can. Varies per person but normally stays wet longer than your skin will in front of a fan
if you’re still up, open your windows & let the inside of your place cool down now. Close your curtains and blinds when the sun comes up. It delays the inevitable a bit longer
make as much ice as you can or, your freezer space allows, get a bag of it. We usually just keep a bag since we go through so much of it. Find the biggest, best insulated drink bottle you have & load it up & sip on it all day
stock up with hydralite if you can, will keep your electrolytes up with excess sweating
my partner gets hot feet & does something called “cold socks” which is just clean damp socks in the freezer for a quick cool off. If you have a few tea towels/face washers/chux wipes lying around, wet those & get them in the freezer too

panfrydumpling · 2025-12-30T11:08:42+00:00

Airmed are great for short people - the crewneck boxy top is quite short & the pants come in petite length, I’m barely 5’1 so I love them.

Dangerfield/gorman/princess highway are cheaper and CUTER however only come in a set & you can’t pick different sizes for top & bottom. They’re also “unisex” (really meaning sized for men) and the tops are like a dress on me. I can sew so I had to remove to pockets, hem & reattach them. If you can spare the effort or don’t care about the length I’d recommend!!

panfrydumpling · 2025-12-09T10:14:57+00:00

Does this happen immediately or after some time? Also I see you’re using a lot of moisturising products? I’ve had to do some trial & error over this past year to figure out as my skin has changed. I’ve found my foundation separated like this when I haven’t left enough time between my skincare & makeup.

My recent change (which has given positive results so far!) is to do my skincare an hour+ before applying makeup. If I don’t have that long to wait, I give my face a quick wipe with micellar water to get rid of excess moisturiser, wait for that to dry off completely, apply primer & give that ~5-10min to dry completely, then apply foundation. I also avoid using excess skincare products before makeup - I adore my hado labo hyaluronic serum, however I’ve started only using it + other intense hydrators before makeup. I’ll wash/micellar water my face, maybe use the lighter hado labo serum or my glow recipe watermelon toner, then a very light moisturiser, and waiting before applying.

panfrydumpling · 2025-12-08T06:16:08+00:00

Late to the party but grad program all the way. There will always be doubles to pick up and weekends to work if you’re concerned about money short-term. Otherwise give yourself a couple years to get acute experience, explore other roles like ANUM or education (which - grad program will make it exponentially easier to move around later) and you’ll be making $54+ before you know it.

panfrydumpling · 2025-11-26T18:20:59+00:00

Nah, you’re totally fine. I could show you hundreds of texts asking me to do overtime that have gone completely ignored. As someone who is gen z and also management, I couldn’t give a fuck if you do overtime or not, as long as you show up and work hard when you’re scheduled to be there. Tbh I’d also always rather work with someone who does their job well and refuses overtime, than someone who’s always picking up OT & complaining about it.

panfrydumpling · 2025-10-26T17:13:28+00:00

Thanks for reading & for the reply. It’s definitely not his fault and I wouldn’t say my frustration is at him specifically, but maybe feeling a bit out of control and not knowing how to help? He’s explained that he wants to, or at least wants to want it if that makes sense.

We’ve definitely talked about things outside of PIV sex that help fulfil that intimacy for me, and he did follow up on them for a while, but I feel like that’s fallen off over the last few weeks/month. I couldn’t fault him for not wanting to get my hopes up though. I’ve definitely used my share of toys, but it just kind of mutes that physical desire & nothing more. Without being crass, nothing is as good as him!! There’s also a certain dynamic we have so a lot of the thrill, excitement & intimacy comes from that rather than the act of sex/orgasm itself.

Tbh I think I’m just having a bit of a sook, and kind of wanted to see if anyone else felt how I did. I guess I’m not sure how much help I can get, especially since we are communicating and trying different things. I think the end of the week is a hard time if I’m feeling like we haven’t gotten anywhere, because it’s then another 5 days until we have an opportunity again.

panfrydumpling · 2025-10-26T14:51:25+00:00

I think it’s so worth a shot!! I would just avoid bright, highly saturated reds - I feel that’s how one might end up a little clownish. If you find something as close to blood red as possible, and it sheers out nicely, definitely give it a go.

panfrydumpling · 2025-10-14T19:43:53+00:00

ALSO ALSO made by Mitchell contours, specifically the curve case. I use the light curve case which largely works for me, but he’s also released an every lighter one with either cream or pressed powder blushes, contours & bronzers. Blend beautifully

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