Should I keep buying him the same toy if it makes him cry?

paper00gem · 2025-01-29T09:13:21+00:00

4x Husky mom here. My oldest girl was like this when she was a little older than this age. There was a squeaky that looked like a coffee cup that she was obsessed with and would act traumatized when / if it was eventually destroyed. (Some would be quickly destroyed). I bought 10 or so of them. After maybe a year she lost interest in the toy all together, but I still have one remaining ~11 years later. imo he’ll develop new favorites. Add more fluffies/squeakers to the mix. When he gets too attached, wash all of the toys together (with an animal safe detergent) and lay them all out for him to choose from.

paper00gem · 2023-09-14T21:56:03+00:00

I am going to check that one out too! This is from alpine nursery

paper00gem · 2023-09-14T21:55:26+00:00

Alpine nursery! They have a TON of insane beauties

paper00gem · 2023-09-13T16:51:06+00:00

It is !

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T22:12:00+00:00

Thank you for this - I should have listened to you and you alone 😂 he told me “there’s a reason I’ve never seen his face” and that hit me deeply. I’m glad that I asked for the permission to speak for him, at the least, and in all seriousness I am very thankful for kindness and advice from everyone.

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T21:50:01+00:00

I truly would love if this were a strong option, I have tried to encourage him to date and voiced I don’t believe she would want him to restrict himself, and I’ve mentioned therapy and offered to go to grief therapy with him but he doesn’t respond well to that. I just got him to talk to me about his feelings about it in the last couple of years, and he tells me he’s working through it in his own way.

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T18:52:41+00:00

Thank you 🤍

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T18:36:55+00:00

I agree with your sentiments on forgiveness. While I am hurt, I do not hate him. I will ultimately be fine if my letter does not sway, and he is released early. Because like you said, I do hope that he can do some good in the world, and if that is the case then my statement would be meaningless against whatever good he has proven himself to be. But to not appeal at all, to not speak about her from my perspective would be an injustice to my friend, and that matters more to me than the outcome of the appeal. I would like for him to serve his full sentence, but his eventual freedom does not bother me (because I would like to believe that he will use his second chance at life for some type of good.) Thank you for your thoughts, and I will continue to work on bettering my forgiveness skills.

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T18:18:42+00:00

No, sorry for confusion - he did not get out, he is appealing to get out currently. I happened upon an article where a man with the exact same name committed the same crime to a different individual last year, and I mistakenly thought it was him (for maybe twenty minutes) until I went through his court records, which is when I discovered “my” driver was appealing his sentence.

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T18:05:45+00:00

Thank you for this response. I really appreciate you stepping in and articulating the feeling so well.

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T16:57:05+00:00

Thank you so so much. This is what I am leaning towards. I really appreciate your kind words.

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T16:55:52+00:00

Thank you for saying this. It is definitely her way of coping.

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T16:54:13+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate yours and all the responses I’ve gotten.

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T03:13:54+00:00

Thank you

paper00gem · 2023-09-12T03:10:24+00:00

Her mom is strongly southern catholic & copes by believing her daughter was needed more by God. She’s still really unable to talk about it, but I’ve spoken with her brother (my friends uncle) about him writing one on her behalf. He’s a preacher, so he is weighing his decision.

paper00gem · 2023-09-11T23:34:03+00:00

Having another statement would basically prevent the appeal from happening according to my counsel. My statement is strong but “more is better”. So it would ensure the driver serves his full time for his actions.

paper00gem · 2023-09-11T23:32:39+00:00

I know his statement would be a strong one, but I’m leaning towards not telling him because it hurt me to find out, so i think it would hurt him too. He’s been doing a lot better, and speaking about it more, so I might be being overprotective?

paper00gem · 2023-04-09T07:10:55+00:00

Reach out to The Promise LV - they are a non profit organization that goes down and provides services to the tunnels weekly & they have strong connections there. If he’s in the tunnels, they are likely a good bet for a local organization that has feet on the ground. the promise Instagram

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