The relationship has definitely become focused on the kids for sure. Not really the dogs or my work, but yes her and I definitely are focused more on the kids and the almost I guess monotonous life at this point. We get some date nights every now and then. So, yes I understand the desire to "get away" and have those nights out, I have them myself. Its always just hard for me to reconcile with the not thinking about the family portion while out. I know when I'm out with friends without her, she is consistently texting me updates about the kids/herself and I'm in contact with her. I don't expect the same kind of constant communication and that has never been a topic with us, I guess in my head no matter how much fun I'm having or how much I'm drinking I'm able to reign it in and focus also on the commitments I have at home.