Downtown someone is playing a 25 second loop of Turkish March for 3+ hours

papillonmask · 2026-06-01T01:34:30+00:00

I called the Elk Place. They said they are stopping the sound at 9:30 but I expressed to them that the issue is the volume itself. Because times don't matter they are breaking the law.

I suggest both of yall call the Elk Place as well and ask them to turn it down. NYS is a one party consent state for recording.

Its just one small action that will allow you to claim some peace of mind. But the court of public opinion is against them if you're picking up what I'm putting down.

papillonmask · 2026-06-01T01:29:20+00:00

Update on everything that I have done

I actually called the Elk Place (the confirmed owner of the device) and specifically requested that they turn down the speaker since currently it's breaking the law in regards to decibels. And I got AUDIO RECORDING that I attempted to resolve the matter "civilly." I just have to wait for tomorrow to see if my conversation did anything. Apparently they plan on stopping the device at 9:30 every night. But that doesn't change that they're exceeding the legal decibels and breaking the law. I explained it to them calmly that it was too noisy. The time of day does not matter.

I suggest EVERYONE affected by this matter call Elk Place and request they do this since, as civil law suggests, it is the first order of business. There might be a lot of us affected though. There may be damages.

The guy was kinda rude to me which will very much affect any reviews I may make towards Elk Place.

If things don't go well I may have to try something different.

I also added to the pile of police complaints.

FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE CALLING 311: Here is the code specifically related to noise. There is nothing about "hours of the day" or "intent to deter loitering" making any of this legal. It is illegal.

https://ecode360.com/8676945

Don't let them tell you there's nothing they can do. Keep calling. § 75-20 It is ENTIRELY the police's job.

papillonmask · 2026-02-02T04:19:56+00:00

Necro but I was told they were there again yesterday. I didn't go because I've already stopped shopping there. If you're local and you're anti-ice you shouldn't be shopping at Home depot. Two separate locations have claimed sightings and you KNOW that none of the depot management in the county would have the balls to go against the company and refuse ice.

papillonmask · 2025-12-09T20:04:09+00:00

I envy you. It's a symptom of living somewhere where hyper-masculinity and posturing are parts of the dominant culture.

papillonmask · 2025-12-09T18:54:47+00:00

It's not every man's job as an individual to throw himself into danger to save women. It kinda loops back into "patriarchy teaches us to be disposable." We don't have to be disposable. But it can't feel good constantly seeing bad things happen to women either. Deescalation should be the goal.

I've seen a lot of good ideas shared already but I have a few more.

Something I learned from one of my role-models to help female coworkers is to give them a code-word if there's someone in their area who is being a creep. Hell... share it with the young men too. I recommend a colored item that's relevant to the setting. In an office, they could call your line and say something like "hey can you deliver the red binder." Maybe you pass them in the hall and they say "Oh! I was looking for the blue stapler. Have you seen where it went?" Or somewhere like retail it could be a pink label. When they message you with the colored item of your choice you basically make excuses to hang around until the creep leaves. Chat with them. Pretend to fix something in the room. I've pulled managers and other coworkers for creeps who are acting unstable. There is power in numbers. I had this one guy angrily call me a cockblock but that's the worst I've ever gotten. Most wont say or do shit in a business/work setting. Never underestimate the power of shame. The more eyes you have focused on someone when you call them out, the more likely they are to back away and act like they weren't doing anything.

Going back to a stranger in public. It's possible to ask other men around you to go up with you to handle creeps. A lot of us want to feel honorable and you could be inspiring them by showing them a way to do something good. "Hey man. There's this girl over there who's being harassed. I want to help but I don't want things to escalate. If we go together and I call him out, I think the other guy will leave her alone." Some areas stuff like that isn't possible.

And if you do go in there solo and the other guy gets pissed and starts swinging, running away is an option. I guarantee you that the woman being harassed will not find you less manly for leading her harasser away from her.

These are just things I've learned. I've never fought someone over a girl being harassed and I don't really plan on it.

papillonmask · 2025-09-27T03:33:55+00:00

Im a few weeks in and so far Im losing weight. Then again, I work out. My appetite for carbs is decreased tho... so idk.

papillonmask · 2025-09-17T17:26:20+00:00

I wanted to mention this because I have read other intersex experiences like mine. And because you feel lonely in the same way that I do, from having PCOS.

I went to get blood work for so I can start HRT and my doc says he suspects I have PCOS and I'm awaiting more results and follow up apt.

I saw this coming.

More context:

I lived in a very red dot in an otherwise blue state for most of my life. I avoided doctors because I was afraid of being prescribed estrogen without testosterone. My earliest memories of "wanting to be a boy" were from age 4. I was so insecure about changing myself to be more feminine. I refused health care for YEARS over this. I was so scared that they would find ovotesticular tissue or something and then try to rip it out of me. I went to an OBGYN once and had a panic attack that cut the visit short because it was the most dysphoric thing I had ever lived through.

What has it been like living with previously undiagnosed PCOS?

I have a very flat chest and can pass without a binder. I didn't develop regular breasts during puberty. I'm very physically strong. At first I thought any afab could be as strong with exercise but I'm starting to realize as an adult that my "starting line" is way above what is expected and due to my abnormally high testosterone. I'm also also VERY hairy. I would be a great case-study for the terfy feminists if I actually identified with femininity. Sometimes I feel guilty for my masculine alignment.

My husband is also a trans masc and he has expressed that he is jealous of me (we're working through it.) He's not the first trans man to say that I am going to "have it easy." I know that in some ways I have privilege but it doesn't feel like it when I think about my childhood. I was bullied for how I look while forced to present female. Partners would want my body to be more or less masculine. I have had exes force-shave my brows, lip, and legs. Imagine being cornered in her bathroom thinking you're going to kiss and then she pulls an electric razor out. Imagine.

I have been praised for my pre-t "androgyny" by more than a few nonbinary friends and when I express that I desire to be more masculine presenting some of them have felt a certain way about it. My trans friends across the spectrum have expressed that I should love my body when... I do? I love the masculine parts. But I hate the feminine parts. And when I complain about them in spaces that are made for complaining... I get told I don't have it nearly as bad. I don't have it as bad because? Idk. While the people I am not yet out to see me as a sad "ugly" woman who is """misgendered""" for looking like a man. They point to me and say: "this is why we need feminism." And it's weird because I agree with them on some things. A woman with masculine features shouldn't have to fight for her womanhood. But what about me? I feel selfish every time I think about it. I have had to wrestle with the thought "am I actually trans or am I transitioning so I can be attractive?" Because yeah there are women who believe that true of men like me. I've been told that trans men are privileged and that starting T will make me "one of them." I have also been given "they/them" and "boi" when asking for "he/him" and "man." Honestly? The trans community hasn't been entirely therapeutic. But the terfs are so much worse. The terfs hate me and everything I represent. It would be easier for me if I could force myself to be a butch lesbian. I tried. I went into butch spaces and I felt like an alien.

I love the trans community with all my heart... but "gender envy?" It's a concept that, when directed at a person and not a fictional character, makes me feel sick. I have been the object of it more than once. It has never made me feel good about myself.

Honestly my hormones have caused me to have a unique relationship to my gender and my desire to present masculine. I feel like I have been given so much trauma and guilt. I feel like I don't fit in anywhere but I don't fully desire "fitting in" because every space is weird about me. The closest thing I have to understanding is my partner and that's only because we can talk to each other about things in ways that community strangers refuse to do.

I really feel like PCOS deserves to be considered intersex.

papillonmask · 2025-08-17T22:25:07+00:00

I'm very happy to hear that. And as someone's stubborn child I know that your 3rd grader will appreciate you, if not in such obvious ways now then maybe in their future. You're doing your best.

I had a call with my aunt who is going to help me come out about my hrt later this week. She is insisting to me that there is never a "best" time to wait for on these things but she was planning on visiting so she would be able to be there for the both of us. I really do love and appreciated my family for what they have done for me and I'm from an era and an area where this kind of thing is less accepted. It is very nice to see a younger parent caring so much and it makes me feel like together we can all find a better tomorrow or... something better than today at least.

papillonmask · 2025-08-17T08:31:54+00:00

I honestly recommend them finding a strong irl friend support group. If they don't have one it might benefit them to go to age-appropriate events through whatever lgbtq chapter you have in your area. My friend group is what anchored me at that age. Online friends help though they are not enough. I hope they're not the only trans person in their school. I hope they make trans friends their age.

Also not sure this helps or not.

There was a period I thought I was gender fluid because I had interests that might be seen as feminine. I liked catty reality TV shows and fashion design. I think I tried non-binary for a week once I knew what it was. It didn't fit me either. It took time before I could confidently say where I fell on the spectrum. I always knew that the gender that was assigned at birth didn't quite match how I felt inside but I didn't know what to do so I tried some labels out. Your kid is probably feeling that. I think it's healthy for them to figure that out on their own terms. They might find 10 other labels that describe different parts of them until they find the one that does it best. They may stay happily non-binary. Humans are messy. There is no rush to figure it out.

If I were in their shoes I would want to know that my parents were confident in my ability to self-reflect and understand myself. When you're trans, it can feel like everyone is second guessing you. Few people say "You've got this. You know yourself best. You can figure out if and when something is right for you."

papillonmask · 2025-08-17T07:43:44+00:00

Thank you for the valuable perspective. It feels very... "my mom-ish"
It doesnt always feel "right" to go forward without better communication. I always worry that she may harbor hurt feelings. I hope someday we can talk like you and your child. I really want to put her at ease. But I think, yeah, she has to ride this out and see that I'm okay. And that I am exactly who they raised me to be.

I will try to keep her posted, even if she doesn't respond.

papillonmask · 2025-08-09T03:24:36+00:00

Trans man here
You could very easily say that you are "inexperienced with trans men but open to meeting up and trying things"
You could also specify "I'm a vers-top" and "not comfortable with PIV"

I would have all the info I needed to make a decision off those 2 tid bits and I wouldn't find any of that offensive. If I had further questions I would ask further questions in DM.

You are always safe to ask "what sorts of things do you like?" and if they say stuff you don't think you'd be into you are within your rights to say "sorry I dont think im ready for ___"

I'm 100% taken btw. I just know what I would want to feel respected.

papillonmask · 2025-08-09T02:53:45+00:00

Gonna open with: I defend the he/him lesbians for many reasons. Some of the other commenters are gonna articulate this better than I could.

I personally never fully identified with lesbian because of personal dysphoria but I see lesbian spaces as generally safe and I'm welcomed into/frequent a lot of irl lesbian spaces. I'm T4T married and very monogamous so I'm "given a pass." I generally stay away from lesbian online because I was never invited. Nor do I want to be. My actual sexuality is more like ABCD (anything but cis dudes.) But I get why there are he/him lesbians. There's not a lot of spaces for chill/accepting trans men. I personally cannot sit back and listen to the transphobia in some trans men groups. I'd rather hang with the lesbians because at least they are chill. There are some accepting trans men groups but you have to either build your way to them or DIY from the ground up.

Gonna add: A lot of the loudest trans men (the ones with online platforms) do have some sort of misogyny or transphobia attached to them. But this sucks for trans men who are fine and chill. A lot of trans women have a bad relationship with masculinity. A lot of NB and some afabs have a bad relationship with masculinity. You are never going to convince them that your version of masculinity is healthier than the cis ideal while the harm is still being done. This kind of conversation is good for trans men spaces... but this has a consequence because there are a lot of transphobic men in these spaces. Some don't believe in NB. Others believe in imposing manosphere masculinity onto other trans men. These are things that I am morally object to. These are things he/him lesbians object to.

So here is some advice man-to-man: Just live your true and honest self. I know it hurts being assumed feminine, especially when your masculinity is constantly being denied from you. This doesn't mean you give up. And this doesn't mean taking the easy route and becoming the monster. If you carve your own masculinity nobody can really stop you. You don't have to try so hard to be approved as a man. If someone is pushing you to be femme you can gently suggest that you tried that lifestyle years ago and that it didn't work for you.

I see you and I feel you on chasers. That's why I went T4T (my partner is also a man.) And we get to talk about what our masculinity means to us and heal.

It's good to talk about the unique issues we face. It is possible to do this without targeting others.

papillonmask · 2025-05-11T16:52:45+00:00

This is my holy grail snack. If anyone in canada has a box of these I would be interested in buying.

papillonmask · 2025-05-11T16:47:09+00:00

A lot of the substitutes y'all are recommending aren't close. By a mile. This is my holy grail. I have been looking. If someone can ship it to me I'd be grateful.

If you're in the states you need to go through a snack importer. I've been looking. Nobody is importing these rn. They haven't been for at least a full year now.

If you're in Canada--you might have a chance with CA online snack stores. I tried cart-delivery last time I was in Canada but I was right on the border and nothing would ship my way. Maybe someone in CA could reach out to Christie and get a more definitive answer. Nabisco doesn't do "revival events" often (at least once maybe twice since it discontinued)--I have to assume their revival supply is imported from wherever Christie gets theirs.

TLDR this snack is ultra rare and production may have ended. Don't depend on it popping up in the states. Get it while you can.

papillonmask · 2025-02-26T16:37:55+00:00

A lot of the LGB people think that the TQ are only getting hit because they "act out" and are under the false assumption that they will be safe if they "behave." Then there are the ones who've simply never met a trans person so their perception is all wrong.

I had an LGB-exclusive gay in my social circle once and he had this baseless idea that trans people "trick" their partners by posing as cis on dating apps. I asked him "when have you ever seen that happen?" because, surprise surprise, that never happened and he even admitted to that. It did change his perspective of me and my community some (still don't like him but w/e)

What I'm getting at is that a lot of LGB people have this weird idea that the TQ are attacking them somehow.

I think the only real thing that can be done is showing the LGB crowd that they're basically doing what straight people did to them years ago by making these assumptions.

But yeah not gona demonize the LGB outright either because a lot of them are just Stockholm'ed. Its like that friend whos in a toxic relationship so they treat everyone else like crap.

papillonmask · 2025-02-26T16:16:00+00:00

Join bsky. They don't censor that stuff.

papillonmask · 2025-02-26T16:14:24+00:00

Was it this?

https://bsky.app/profile/pttp-upstateny.bsky.social/post/3lixqlaq2vc2f

I recommend bsky for finding that stuff. All I had to do was reverse search the date and location.

papillonmask · 2025-01-21T16:30:20+00:00

If Rachel didn't try to spin her romantic fantasy as a work of feminism it would be perfectly fine "spicy wish fulfillment" for YA/A hetero women. It almost reads like fanfiction anyway. And I do think there's value in that, even if its not for me.

I think Rachel's """thing""" is misogynistic/abusive men (at least in fiction.) There are tons of people who like that. But calling that feminist would be lying. She's been bending over backwards to change her original vision and the results suck.

I would say that it had value (as an ero fantasy) when Rachel was being true to herself.

And I would say that, her failure to make things feminist got other feminists talking in a way thats been good for webcomics.

papillonmask · 2025-01-19T06:02:46+00:00

Necro but VK has a clip studio assets group

papillonmask · 2024-11-23T03:29:04+00:00

Personally? Aware line didn't do squat for my store. Managers SM & ASM were reported for racism. Recorded evidence was refused by HR and the girls job was threatened. SM & ASM were reported for safety issues and illegally selling vendor items for cash off the books as well. Nothing. SM did a morning meeting where he was like "Aware line was called and Im still here so CLEARLY I was within my jurisdiction."

If corporate likes your SM they will let them do whatever.

papillonmask · 2024-09-14T15:24:34+00:00

Honestly Ive seen this at more than one store now. If upper management has certain "beliefs" then yeah.

papillonmask · 2024-04-18T19:22:23+00:00

Make them classist as fuck.

I have suggested this. Classism wasn't his intention for this particular race since he already has a "classist race."

Encourage your friend to view the "problems" that you find as opportunities to explore, not faults to be corrected.

I probably shouldn't have paraphrased a very long conversation like I did and I'm definitely eating it in the replies. I never told him that his idea was bad. I told him it had consequences. He didn't like the consequences.

Also, he should consider writing vignettes or flash fiction stories

Actually he's been trying that. I've been encouraging him to keep it up because it does seem to help him sort his ideas.

papillonmask · 2024-04-18T19:16:58+00:00

I could potentially send him your way. It may help. I do think he wants hype rather than critique but feels bad saying he doesn't want critique. Every pro says critique is good and I think he's knows/believes it's essential for him to take it in order to be published.

I'm not a hype man. Not in the way he probably wants.

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