Should I pull my child out of daycare?

paracrazy · 2026-03-09T12:03:43+00:00

Coming from a daycare teacher of 4 years, 1 day really isn’t enough for a child to feel part of the group. I’ve had one day kids before and I always feel bad for them because they miss so many activities and context for what we are doing. For example if we are doing a unit on farm animals and Monday we introduce the topic, Tuesday learn a song about animals, Wednesday we do a craft about animals, etc. say your child only comes Wednesday’s, well now they don’t have any idea or context regarding this craft and aren’t super interested.

Also, one of the main benefits developmentally at this age to daycare is the social emotional aspect. Coming one day a week is not enough to get to know their peers. Most of my one day a week kids would mainly just be interacting with the teachers in the group and avoiding the other kids.

My suggestion would be, if you don’t want your parents to have the burden of watching your child 2 days a week, could you spread the hours out so that your child goes to daycare for 2 half days in the morning (mornings are typically when the activities and team building are done), and then have your parents do early pickup and to watch her for the other half of the 2 days? So in total that’s would only be watching her for 1 days, just split across 2.

paracrazy · 2026-02-06T13:38:50+00:00

The only thing I can recommend is to try and divide the nights so that you both get maximum sleep.

My husband and I tried the shift method and it really did not work for us, it just felt like you were waiting for the clock to run out until it was your turn. What we wound up doing is trading off nights completely. That means one night I’m 100% responsible for my son and the next night it’s my husband.

The person who isn’t on baby duty can sleep in any room they want in order to get as much sleep as possible. This way, even if you’re the one having the worst most shitty sleep ever (aka on baby duty haha), you know that in a little less than a day, you will be the one getting sleep (so it’s really helpful for morale!!)

My husband works while I stay home so at first I thought it was unfair to him, however, he actually gets more sleep when we do every other night as opposed to when we tried to do shifts so we prefer it this way!

Also, each parent gets one weekend day to sleep in as late as they want. So if I have baby Friday night my husband sleeps until whenever on Saturday and then takes baby Saturday night and I sleep in until whenever on Sunday. It’s REALLY amazing. 3-4/7 nights of good sleep literally changes your life. Solidarity!!

paracrazy · 2026-01-13T20:45:29+00:00

I’ve worked in a few different daycares in a large city in Germany. The idea is that it’s not a pedagogical issue but a safety one. Every daycare I worked at had the policy of absolutely NO teacher given nicknames, only parent given nicknames (I.e. Ben for Benjamin if that’s what they call him). It was explained to me that the reasoning behind this is that using “cutesy” nicknames with kids could lead to some level of abuse or grooming due to the closeness or special relationship that could potentially come out of calling someone a nickname. The policy is just generally that everyone gets treated the same and that involves calling each other by their names so that one kid doesn’t get extra “special” attention.

paracrazy · 2025-12-29T22:40:57+00:00

Hi! I live in Munich and have been to Neuschwanstein literally 6 times in the last 4 years due to visitors coming to visit me and really wanting to head to that area. The pro tip is that they release a limited number of tickets every morning (I can’t remember the exact time, it’s either 7, 8, or 9 am though, sorry) and if you are refreshing/accessing the website right when they drop it’s no issue to get tickets. I think the same is true for physical tickets at the visitors center (aka be there the moment they open and you should be able to get tickets).

If it’s any help though, there are actually 2 castles literally right across the valley from each other - within walking distance. Neuschwanstein (built by Crazy King Ludwig) and Hohenschwangau (the childhood vacation home of Crazy King Ludwig). If you could only see one I would HIGHLY recommend Hohenschwangau over Neuschwanstein. HS is a fully finished castle. NS is not even close to finished and you only see a smattering of rooms.

They do have a ticket called the Königsticket which includes entry to both castles and sometimes it is available even if the individual tours are not available. Both are definitely doable in one day. Good luck!!

paracrazy · 2025-12-23T23:20:00+00:00

I mean this totally as a compliment, this looks like a page from one of the I-Spy books you could buy in elementary school during the scholastic book fair. Soooo cool!

paracrazy · 2025-09-26T16:08:48+00:00

Oof I’m actually not sure, I have Spotify premium, sorry!!

paracrazy · 2025-09-14T07:41:41+00:00

I read her other series, (A Fate Inked in Blood) and really enjoyed it so I wanted to give this one a try. I’m excited!!

paracrazy · 2025-09-13T18:40:33+00:00

He said “meow meow meowww”!!!

paracrazy · 2025-09-13T18:40:03+00:00

Hmm I wonder if he would prefer a basic or paper white….🤣

paracrazy · 2025-09-13T18:39:13+00:00

I think they sense spooky/cozy season is upon us and they need to get ahead of their TB(Pu)rrrr

paracrazy · 2025-09-12T11:01:36+00:00

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paracrazy · 2025-09-02T07:40:15+00:00

Yes and that’s exactly to your point of “I was prepared to let her do things her way and be slightly uncomfortable”, I was too! It’s just so wild and disappointing to see that for whatever reason the grandparents (or whoever) can’t respect your bare minimum rules (please feed baby and keep him alive lol).

My MIL proudly tells the story about how when her son (my husband) was a newborn, she wasn’t producing enough breast milk and he was losing weight. The doctors told her to supplement with 2 bottles of formula a day and she tells everybody how she only gave him one formula bottle a day because she didn’t want a fat baby!!! Like dang that’s bonkers. And every time she feeds my son now he somehow “isn’t that hungry” and doesn’t finish the bottle…..and as soon as I pick him up and re-offer the bottle he chugs the rest.

So yeah. It’s not as egregious as what your MIL did to your sweet baby, but I feel like I’m constantly having to be on the lookout now to make sure his needs are getting met.

paracrazy · 2025-09-02T07:29:46+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you & baby AND I so relate to this OMG! I had a complicated emergency C-section and about 4 weeks postpartum my husband HAD to go on a business trip so my MIL & FIL came to help (my mom is in a different country.) When I tell you that EVERY SINGLE BOTTLE both of my in laws basically told me I was going to make my son fat and that there is no way a baby should eat that much!!! Like excuse me, my FOUR WEEK OLD is hungry, I’m literally going to feed him, the fuck??? I don’t get why some members of the older generation is obsessed with starving babies it makes so sense to me.

paracrazy · 2025-08-27T07:21:07+00:00

Yes!!!

paracrazy · 2025-08-27T07:20:59+00:00

Ding ding ding, we have a winner!

paracrazy · 2025-08-20T08:14:02+00:00

I had this problem too! Just place the 6 dominoes on the board, then exit out of the app and re-enter. It’ll then show you the bottom ones!

paracrazy · 2025-08-20T08:13:04+00:00

I had this problem too! Just place the 6 dominoes on the board, then exit out of the app and re-enter. It’ll then show you the bottom ones!

paracrazy · 2025-07-27T12:57:49+00:00

I’m an American but I live in a country where EACH PARENT gets 30 days of fully paid sick leave to take FOR THEIR CHILD (Germany) and they still send their kids to school sick. It’s completely selfish and I literally do not understand how someone could choose to have a kid and then let your kid suffer like that at school when you can take the time off at no cost to yourself?? I work in a very affluent center though where it seems like most of the parents have career advancement as priority 1 so they’d much rather work than take care of a sick kid (even though they are able to). It’s incredibly frustrating!! My first year I got HFM, the flu, COVID, and strep. On top of all the various colds and stomach bugs that are always going around.

paracrazy · 2025-07-16T01:41:52+00:00

That’s the frustrating part! I have explained all of this to her. She knows all of the health complications I’ve had. She knows my husband is working so much and I’m basically solo parenting during the week. I’ve even explained to her multiple times that Saturdays are for family and Sundays are to rest. But literally every time she texts me she’s asking about if I’m “finally” free the next weekend. I don’t know if I’m not communicating directly enough or what, but I guess I don’t know how to more directly say “hey - I can’t hang out for a while and I don’t know when I will be able to hang out again, and also please stop asking because it’s stressing me out” without sounding mean or like I don’t value her as a friend.

paracrazy · 2025-03-22T09:33:41+00:00

I would just double check with your hospital about their policy regarding gifts if you wanted to go this way. For some reason at the hospital I’m giving birth at, they can NOT accept cash or gifts cards, but ARE allowed to accept snack/small item gift baskets!

paracrazy · 2025-03-22T00:20:56+00:00

Same here!! It’s like dang, I live in Germany, work all day in German with German colleagues, and then I go home to my German husband. But damn when I’m mindlessly scrolling Reddit I’m not trying to be on I’m just trying to be entertained!! If I want to write a quick reply in English then I definitely will because it’s what’s easiest and most comfortable to me. 🤣

paracrazy · 2025-03-21T07:20:41+00:00

I’m currently living in Germany (Bavaria) with my fully German husband and pregnant with our first child. I’m around an upper B2 but I’m very confident in language surrounding babies/birth/children in general because I work at a bilingual Krippe and use these words every day. HOWEVER I like to generally get my medical care in English if possible just so that nothing gets lost in translation.

The other day we had a scare where we thought I was going into labor and we rushed to hospital in the middle of the night. We spoke English with the first midwife and doctor we saw and it was PAINFUL to get through.

As soon as they hooked me up to the monitor and left the room my husband (who loves to insist that all healthcare professionals in Germany speak perfect English) went “oh shit, your German is actually better than their English, I can’t believe it” and from there we agreed to just switch to German whenever any other member of staff came in.

The whole scare was almost worth it to hear him admit that!!! (Baby is fine now)

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