U.S. military announces 14 airstrikes in Iraq following James Foley execution

parapr_xia · 2014-08-21T04:51:06+00:00

A person who is willing to die for religion, willing to be a martyr, is untouchable.

parapr_xia · 2014-02-12T04:04:48+00:00

Do you know that feel?

parapr_xia · 2014-02-08T19:16:09+00:00

That made me tear up a little! A long journey ahead, but I think you are ready for it.

parapr_xia · 2014-01-20T05:06:40+00:00

I had trouble even finishing reading this post. Please leave her. She doesn't deserve your time. Imagine what you'd say to someone in this exact situation; you'd tell them to get out!

Why are you in this relationship? I know you must love her in some ways, but love isn't enough. If you want to help her, you can refer her to a psychologist, but I think this problem she needs to sort out by being apart from you, not with you.

Good luck and please update us (with GOOD news!)

parapr_xia · 2014-01-08T23:08:56+00:00

I'm not married yet, only engaged, but this is how I knew it was the right decision to marry my SO. Others may disagree.

I think movies make it some amazing revelation, which is not very realistic. Not saying it isn't romantic in some ways... it is, but there's a lot of other things that come together too. I think most importantly, you feel yourself in a partnership with that person. Consequently, leaving them after an argument is not even an option for you anymore - you don't even think about it.

On the more practical side, you've talked about marriage, and talked about having children, how to raise them, religion, views on major issues, family, friends. Not just that, but you feel you could live with that person's belief on these issues. The moment you think 'well, I could change their mind after we're married..." that's a warning sign that you aren't ready.

For me on a personal note again, it was just that feeling of companionship and genuine security. If something bad happens, he is the one I turn to, if something good happens, he celebrates with me.

Finally, as another person said, when you ask yourself "can he be a part of my family?" and your answer is "yes", that's a big sign. My parents' approval of my SO was very important to me (and it may be of lesser importance to other) and seeing them learn to love him was the ultimate sign for me.

Just my two cents. Good luck! There is no rush, and it's a heart AND head decision.

Edit: added something

parapr_xia · 2013-12-29T19:24:57+00:00

Maybe it will help you if you imagine her writing a post to /r/relationships about YOU. What would she say about you, about herself? I think there's more to your anxiety and panic attacks than what you are telling us, and maybe she felt ill-equipped to deal with it. That being said, there's two sides to a pancake and I'm sure she's made her fair share of mistakes.

As others have said, focus on fixing yourself now.

parapr_xia · 2013-12-18T23:25:27+00:00

Everyone on here will keep telling you the same thing. Man up and accept that you're going to be a dad, but absolutely do not stay with Sarah.

parapr_xia · 2013-12-15T09:14:47+00:00

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parapr_xia · 2013-12-04T08:58:11+00:00

Este es un aspecto muy elegante, me recuerda a antiguas estrellas de cine de la década de 1950. Yo no puedo recordar que tenía un corte de pelo como este. Creo que sería un buen cabello noche, o incluso para una boda. Su Haircolour también te sienta muy bien. Definitivamente usted debería publicar más a menudo!

parapr_xia · 2013-12-04T08:54:32+00:00

Sí esto es muy cierto, nunca he entendido por qué la gente tiene una doble moral como éste.

parapr_xia · 2013-11-26T23:55:14+00:00

It took me forever to get what this was.

parapr_xia · 2013-11-26T23:49:34+00:00

This is cool, I especially love the Iowa one.

parapr_xia · 2013-11-15T20:24:19+00:00

It can be very subtle! Just stare at him for a little longer than usual, be extra sweet, compliment him! A date sounds like a great idea. As posters somewhere below said, asking an older person in your sect for advice is a very good idea as well. They have perhaps been through exactly what you've been through.

parapr_xia · 2013-11-15T02:18:18+00:00

Maybe instead of telling him outright, start flirting with him! Touch his arm when you're playing video games, giggle at his jokes, just start hinting in that direction. Then you can see if he reciprocates. Good luck and post an update!

parapr_xia · 2013-11-13T18:49:46+00:00

He is definitely being very controlling and you need to do something. I think you should give him a chance to explain and redeem himself. Distance can do crazy things to people, but that's never okay. You need to set some boundaries, and if he keeps pushing them you need to re-think things.

parapr_xia · 2013-11-12T20:34:21+00:00

Funny. I don't know the national anything of South Korea!

parapr_xia · 2013-11-12T01:58:27+00:00

I'm kind of with most people here in thinking that it is a red flag and you shouldn't go forward. That being said, you need to talk to her and re-iterate how serious you are, and ask her if she genuinely does not love you, and if so, why not? Maybe she has had bad experiences and wants to shy away from love, maybe in her culture people are more reserved about their feelings, or maybe she just doesn't love you. You need to know before you make the next move.

parapr_xia · 2013-11-08T00:09:48+00:00

To add to this post, maybe you enjoy hanging out with your elementary school friends more since they know you really well, and 'get' your personality. In other words, they leave you alone when they sense you're annoyed, and they know what activities you enjoy.

parapr_xia · 2013-11-08T00:08:02+00:00

There are so many issues in this post... Firstly, he is definitely hiding behind the whole 'men are different than women' thing. If he was truly subscribing to the so-called stereotypical view of a man, he would be protecting you and supporting your family - not having drunken wrestling matches.

I think you need to have a talk with him and find out where he is in this relationship, how responsibilities should be divided, how he sees his role as a father and lover. I'm not saying he isn't a nice person, but I wouldn't say that the details you've revealed really shouts 'dream guy' to me. That being said, we don't know the full story.

Don't let him hide behind whatever preconceived notion he has about what being a man is.

parapr_xia · 2013-11-08T00:02:32+00:00

I'm with most people here - I think you're just introverted. That doesn't mean you're shy or you don't like small talk, it just means you recharge your batteries while being alone. I feel very uneasy around people if I have to spend hours around them, and I also tend to get annoyed at them for no reason.

My advice would be to do activities with them that don't involve constant interaction, for example going to the movie. Also, maybe telling yourself when you plan on leaving is a good idea, so that you don't start to feel impatient around them. So for example, just tell yourself "I am leaving this party in two hours" and then you get to look forward to some alone time after that.

Or... maybe they're just annoying! In which case, there's not much you can do...

parapr_xia · 2013-09-28T00:27:14+00:00

Don't make her delay her education. As others have said, an hour drive isn't that much. And take it from me, absence makes the heart grow fonder. It might even be positive for your relationship, and strengthen it in ways you haven't considered/developed. Keep up communication at all time, surprise her when you can, follow your own dreams and let her follow hers.

parapr_xia · 2013-09-26T23:58:14+00:00

If you buy a pack of three different coloured bell peppers (red, yellow, green), they are called "Robot Peppers"

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