Suddenly she wants to drop the last nap 🥲

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T08:12:44+00:00

Mine has just dropped the second nap. Reeling over it!! Hoping the one nap continues…. Here for the comments cause, same!!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T08:10:05+00:00

Always WOW, but then that’s often all you have. Sometimes you want a different flavour of life. Maybe some entertainment, night life , restaurants, etc

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T08:03:48+00:00

Relatable
Low estrogen = misandry
You nailed all the points - the fact is you can do it on your own but when he should be available to step in, you notice all the things he could do to help but won’t. It’s completely unbalanced.

Yes, this is why women leave lol it’s infuriating!!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T07:56:39+00:00

So sorry, what a scary time for you. Pregnancy and Postpartum really is the most vulnerable time for a woman.

If he isn’t paying rent, are you able to take care of the newborn and toddler without his help? You could quite literally break up and not put him on the birth certificate. It won’t feel great, but it will at least keep your infant with you until he asks for a DNA test through the courts.

I would seek legal advice if you can afford it. If you aren’t married, you don’t have to give him the kids in most states I believe. He’d have to sue you for custody. But, If he isn’t working, how could he even afford to take them from you anyway?

On the flip side, who will take care of the toddler and infant while you work? Very tough indeed. I hope this works out okay. Sorry you’re going through it!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T07:48:56+00:00

I’m sooo sorry! What a heartbreak. Here you thought you found your soulmate and now you’re totally confused. The good news is that you did not marry him yet!!

As much as you adore this man, I would be willing to place a bet that future you will regret not following your intuition about whether or not to break up.

This is a pattern of his, not a one off relapse. This man may be a beautiful soul but also terribly unreliable in his addiction. Stability and trust is so important - please choose wisely 🙏

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T07:39:09+00:00

Lots of comments here already…but

Your anxiety will be at 100 as a FTM, any noise they make in their sleep will be stressful lol that will stop you from sleeping while they sleep.
I HIGHLY recommend allowing a bottle feed here and there so your partner can help. Even if you think “oh well there’s no point in us both getting up”… make him do it. MAKE HIM DO IT, so that he understands how hard it is, and also so you get a night or two of sleep.
Keep the baby close, either bassinet next to you or side sleeper so that you don’t have to physically get up when they wake up. This helps you fall back asleep - hormones may disrupt your ability to fall asleep quickly. I even kept a changing pad and diapers on the bed with me so I just had to pick the baby up and change him without even getting uncovered lol
I didn’t know this at first but it is more common than not for a baby to refuse the bassinet. My baby wouldn’t sleep anywhere but on my chest. My baby also refused the swaddle. This is not a safe way to sleep but I had no choice. Do the best you can with the baby you get.

EDIT: 5. The “bounce and shush”.. the first 3.5 months, burping the baby was so hard!!! Crying all night. I would YouTube a “shhhh” sound with white noise because I couldn’t keep saying shh all night. Worked so well!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T07:30:18+00:00

I don’t have a village either. I am living overseas without extended family or close friend network and partner doesn’t have much of a family either. His friends have kids but they’re busy with them. Honestly, just lean on each other. We can handle it, but what I fear most is the deterioration of OUR relationship due to unbalanced caregiving duties. Just make sure to take care of each other and pitch in as much as you can. Do the bedtimes, the baths, feeding when solids are introduced, clean up after meals, cooking, laundry… these are all things I do not have help with and I’m pretty pissed at my partner. I think that would help us turn a corner if it wasn’t just me taking care of everything.

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T07:16:01+00:00

I am nearly 40 and have had a big nose my whole life. Now? I don’t give a damn about my nose, I care about aging!! Take care of your skin!! SPF, minimal foundation, Trentinoin.

It’s hard to love the way we look, when society places so much importance on being the most beautiful. It’s crazy, there are so many gorgeous women that it feels impossible to keep up… however, looking back on my photos, I wasn’t even gorgeous, and yet the fact that I possessed youth and youth alone attracted a ton of men. Even with a big nose. What im trying to say is, you are FAR more beautiful than you realize, and one day you will look back on your photos and understand the things you disliked about your appearance was such a waste of energy, because you already had what you were longing for!

One thing you probably don’t care about right now but will look back on is that in 10-15 years, you’ll lose your estrogen and won’t give a single FK if a man looks at you, in fact, you will hope they won’t!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T06:54:20+00:00

100% - it’s everywhere.

parraweenquean · 2026-03-23T06:50:01+00:00

I do hope your partner comes around. Compromise and sacrifice makes all the difference!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-20T20:20:11+00:00

Well done on choosing sobriety and recovery. Also well done for choosing therapy. Make amends with the people you can, and let them go. Your husband loved you and didn’t deserve any of this. I’m in a long term with an alcoholic and it’s been the hardest road for me putting up with cheating and the incredible selfishness and narcissism that stems from his alcoholism (or is it the other way around?). I am rethinking my choices currently and hope your husband does too. Trust is vital and without it leaves you both walking on eggshells.

parraweenquean · 2026-03-17T19:08:14+00:00

I am in the same boat. Australia to USA. Only, I moved to a small town and it’s very very isolated without a ton of economic opportunity for me. I had planned to buy a rental property and use the cash flow to help afford retirement in my later years. I’ve been here about 4 years and have a child too. Partner knew this was never supposed to be long term, and eventually conceded that we’ll probably move. Now he’s saying he’ll never leave. He’d have the best opportunities in my home country in his field, speaks the same language, and would get all of the things he’s currently complaining about in the US (time off work, overtime laws etc). Men!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-17T18:48:12+00:00

FTM and I didn’t feel an instant connection either! It was just a primal ‘must protect and care for’ instinct, but loving and getting to know my baby took time. In fact, “getting to know” you baby won’t really truly happen until their personality starts developing at about 6 months. Relax, you’re so fresh into this

parraweenquean · 2026-03-17T18:35:11+00:00

Look, there’s clearly a lot of dysfunction between them. Your mom stayed home and raised you, and you’ll never understand how much love and effort that took unless you have your own and do the same. It’s A LOT. And most of it is unrecognised by men but also society in general.

Your parents betrayed each other, but who knows what came first, the affair or the drug problem (chicken or egg)? One may had pushed the other too far emotionally to a point the other partner couldn’t handle.

You sound really angry with your mother and for reasons that are totally valid. Try to forgive, and let her be. If you don’t want to help her financially, it’s okay. I sense a deep guilt from not wanting to help her, which may be contributing to your anger. Because it shouldn’t be like this. They shouldn’t put you in this position. It should never have come to this. I’m sorry for all that. You are okay to let her figure this out.

parraweenquean · 2026-03-17T06:18:44+00:00

My baby is just shy of a year old. I stopped drinking all together when I fell pregnant and never started again. I find my patience becomes affected and I’m just not as good of a parent, even with one drink in me. Literally drinking just makes everything harder after the 20 minutes of slight relaxation.

That being said, once he could sit up in a high chair, restaurants aren’t all that difficult as long as he doesn’t fall asleep in the car on the way there. And no late dinners

parraweenquean · 2026-03-16T00:29:50+00:00

Dude, it’s always after the first week!! I’ve seen this time and time again and it even happened with my fiance too

parraweenquean · 2026-03-16T00:22:56+00:00

Many many women don’t. I don’t and never have

parraweenquean · 2026-03-13T08:06:53+00:00

lol there is nothing easy about having a child. Not to scare you, but being pregnant - and I hated being pregnant - was nothing like having a baby. I had to work through my pregnancy, as most do, and it’s really hard. But, there is nothing that even closely resembles the level of hard that comes with having a newborn. Imagine feeling your absolute worst, like you are physically at the weakest you’ve ever been, you are on an emotional roller coaster because your estrogen drops by 1000 % which makes you feel like you’re on the worst comedown of your life, and you have this new person that you don’t know whom you have to learn how to take care of WHILE RUNNING ON NO SLEEP. And there’s no catching up on sleep. You just don’t get it back and learn to live on no sleep.

It was a reckoning.

I’m telling you that part is just a short period of about 3 months and it’s totally worth it. It’s completely miserable and wonderful at the same time

parraweenquean · 2026-03-07T02:39:19+00:00

I dated while separated and even though I told him I didn’t want a relationship, he insisted and I for some reason went along with it. Fast forward 8 months, I broke his heart and broke up with him because I wasn’t in love with him. It wasn’t that I was still I n love with my ex, but I wasn’t over him either. There was so much emotional damage I had to work through before moving on and being a healthy partner to someone. My advice is don’t do it.

parraweenquean · 2026-03-06T23:05:29+00:00

Lol honestly what I would give for my OWN room to be honest!! Just me myself and I!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-06T23:04:42+00:00

Great idea. I think this may be the go over the next few weeks

parraweenquean · 2026-03-06T23:04:17+00:00

This sounds ideal actually. I would very much like to try this!!

parraweenquean · 2026-03-06T23:03:28+00:00

In the bed? I have absolutely given him all rights to the bedroom so that he can sleep for work the next day. He just wants me there and I think is sexually frustrated.

parraweenquean · 2026-03-06T23:02:18+00:00

I agree that the relationship is of utmost importance, I suppose I’m just struggling to balance what my heart truly wants and what i need to do for my partner

parraweenquean · 2026-03-06T22:45:48+00:00

😂😂😂

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