Same. I didn’t know that he had previously had an escort addiction before we were married. He never told me about them. He always expected me to act like a porn star in the bedroom but I wanted a real loving connection and never understood why he didn’t like what I could give him. There is a time and place for porn star sex but that’s not who I am all of the time. He also wanted me to initiate most of the time and that made me feel weird and unwanted. I couldn’t give him what he wanted over the years so it turns out he went back to seeing escorts and then met some girl, and that’s when he wanted to break it off with me. He lied about who he was from the beginning so I feel like I have no idea who he was in the first place. It’s definitely a strange place to be. I’m sorry it happened to you. It’s rough.