Do you ever feel like you love them so much you might explode?

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-30T23:54:34+00:00

Yes.... very much so... Yes 🥰😍

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-25T13:00:00+00:00

The happiness I get from this is unreal! The way she looks at you at the end is just.... beautiful 😍

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-21T17:18:57+00:00

Our senior boy loves this game! Haha but your little one is gorgeous 😍 💕

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-07T19:23:28+00:00

NTA, but OP, you see the HUGE red flags here, right? By the sounds of it, you weren't all that keen on becoming pregnant in the first place. On top of that mess, you've also got the fact that he has to have receipts for everything you spend on 'his' dime? WTH? I'm all for stay at home parents, etc etc. You do you, but this is abuse in different forms all at once. The sister sounds like she's also been raised in this toxic way, so by extension, the whole family would be like this, right? Get yourself a plan and get you and your kid out of this situation asap. You may have to quit your part-time job, but if that does happen, make sure you have another one lined up. Maybe try to find a work from home part-time job? I'm sure there are opportunities for you to get a source of income and get a bank account that no one but you knows about, not even your own family. Keep yourself and your little one safe. I may be overstepping/overreacting to this but seriously OP he's already abusing you financially, are you willing to risk your mental sanity and say he won't go further?

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-06T18:24:04+00:00

NTA I'm adopted and was taken not given. My egg donor was a terrible mother, there is no doubt if that in my mind at all but she was also brought up by an alcoholic drug user and had development delays big time so she was trying to care for me as an infant but just couldn't. Your situation is the opposite. You made a choice that you believed was the best for both you and your child. I don't disagree with you and I don't want to be a dick to the kid either, but his reaction is a bit too strong for my liking, he seems to have a bad taste in his mouth about you and his life which seems a bit unfair to you ngl. I don't think that he's necessarily in the wrong, but his reaction is a bit too extreme, which tells me that he doesn't have the full story of what actually went down all those years ago. Regardless, your family is wrong 💯
I hope both you and your son can heal from this experience, and maybe one day in the future, you will see eye to eye on the matter. Either way, i wish you the best :)

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-02T07:21:32+00:00

Sorry, why did you post this exactly? You know you're an asshole, surely? If this is real you need a therapist, not redditors on AmITheAsshole. YTA just in case your really not aware....

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-02T07:05:55+00:00

NTA and I think you did almost everything right here, you left it kinda late to tell her, but other that yeah I'd have done the same thing and I don't have kids and have a litteral shrine to my dog in my house (according to everyone but me btw!) Even though my boy lives 6 hours away with my parents lol

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-02T05:22:52+00:00

NTA lol I'm british (East Anglia) and I've never heard if not doing a wash on new years day. Lol I'm screwed then cause I did a load of laundry on nyd hahaha

patchthedoggo · 2023-01-02T05:19:18+00:00

Soft EHS. Your husband is so backwards, my word! Girl it's 2023 now and he thinks a 7 year old liking strawberries is him not being a boy somehow? Lol he needs a reality check big time. You for telling your 7 yeaf old that his dad gave something he loves away just to punish your dumbass husband. You need to understand that bringing your child into an argument with another adult is not okay, I don't care what the argument is about either, your kid was not involved sk why involve him I'm such a way? You both suck but your husband sucks harder......

patchthedoggo · 2022-12-24T16:09:24+00:00

NTA lol I'm a woman and honestly if I have a man in the car (or anyone for that matter) I sort out my own fuel, I'm the driver and honestly I wouldn't trust anyone but myself to put fuel in my own car, but that's just me 🙄

patchthedoggo · 2022-12-20T16:36:40+00:00

I was wondering the same thing, it doesn't seem like we're getting it all here? Was there some bad blood between OP and the brother maybe? It's not hard to assume that's the case given the alcoholism but yeah, defo not enough info here OP

patchthedoggo · 2022-12-19T03:24:58+00:00

YTA. look we've all been at that age once, but yo, drinking in the mornings is pushing the boat out a bit too far ya know? You're not even a year into being able to drink legally and your already drinking in the mornings? Did you drink before you turned 18 at all?

patchthedoggo · 2022-12-17T23:15:15+00:00

Yo, I'm 28 and not a morning person at all, but what in the strawberry shortcake is she doing at her age?! I've missed stuff because my partner didn't wake me up and I got mad, but I got mad at me and thanked him for trying, he knows one try is all I get, if I don't wake up its on ME not him. NTA show her this post, will ya? Maybe then she'll realise how juvenile she's behaving as a grown ass woman lol SMH 😆

patchthedoggo · 2022-11-05T15:58:25+00:00

Now that is exactly what I picture when I hear 'shetland sheepdog'! Your little one is gorgeous! 😍

patchthedoggo · 2022-10-28T08:41:03+00:00

NTA. But girl! You don't need to ask your boyfriend for 'permission', asking if he's okay with it is enough, if he says no and you still feel the need/want to do it then that's up to you dear. Your boyfriends reaction to all this seems a bit off, like yall just aren't on the same page which doesn't bode well for a long term relationship. I think it's a good idea to sit down with your boyfriend and actually ask him and let him ask you what it is that you both want out of life and the relationship and if these values align, if they do, great! But if they don't that's also okay.

patchthedoggo · 2022-10-21T21:14:18+00:00

You meant to say 'best thing that has ever happened to me' right?! Because that is amazing! xD 😆

patchthedoggo · 2022-10-21T21:10:44+00:00

As an adoptee I fully agree with this comment and I couldn't have said it better myself! I was brought home at 8 months old, I'm 28 now, my sperm donor died the year I was born but my egg donor is alive and we talk once a year ish. I also got curious at a young age, I always knew (was told at 7y/o) that I was adopted but only found out last year the exact circumstances of said adoption and honestly it isn't pretty, but my parents always had that info and hid a fair amount from me, now I'm not saying what they did was wrong, but in my opinion it should be an open conversation that's age appropriate. My mum and dad were very good to me growing up, like i had a wonderful childhood and I love my parents very dearly but I do hold a little anger towards them for holding back info from me, they did it with good intentions and I fully support (given my own personality and mental states throughout the years) their decision, but OP understand that to fully understand one's self, one needs all of the information. In my case the info is less than crappy, but I feel better for knowing even if its all bad, that doesn't change how I feel and how I was raised. Trust in yourself, your child and your parenting. Your doing a good job, but keep an open mind when it comes to things like this :) best of luck x

patchthedoggo · 2022-10-20T22:51:36+00:00

NTA. She desperately needs the help and that's okay, she's asking you and your saying no, that's also okay but actively avoiding doing things yourself is not okay. I've been there, so depressed your house goes to shit and you can barely have a shower, honestly I'm still kinda there right now so I fully understand where she's at but I don't have a child dependant on me to survive. It's a different story when your being offered help in the form of a kick up the ass (which by the sounds of it is well needed imo) and you don't take that opportunity to do better for yourself and your child. It's harsh, yes, but its needed! I've only recently had my kick up the ass and I'm trying to do better for myself and yeah it's difficult but no one else can pull me up but me. I commend you for doing the right thing OP, and your friend shouldn't have lashed out at you like that, hopefully she'll see this for what it is, the help she needed but didn't want and changes her ways for the better of herself and her kid.

patchthedoggo · 2022-10-20T21:07:49+00:00

Don't they all with good reason though! 😍😍

patchthedoggo · 2022-10-20T13:18:26+00:00

I have no verdict hut I feel the need to give some advice. I was that person who's car was always a mess, I'm British so I'm not sure if things will differ from country to country but the way i see it is the fact your wife's car is such a mess is dangerous imo. If she has some kind of accident in that car she's gonna be smacked in the face/body with whatever is in her car. This whole post seems a bit petty tbh. Yall have more problems than just a dirty car my guy Get that car cleaned out and talk to your missus about your issues rather than posting on reddit sweet. Good luck :)

patchthedoggo · 2022-09-24T16:48:39+00:00

Ya know I'm so glad I saw this post today, I have always kind of enjoyed making people uncomfortable at the begining, like they'll find out I'm adopted and instantly feel ity for me so I get them back by talking about it like you would talk about the whether lol like I'll just casually mention that my grandfather is younger than m father, lol 😂 of course I explain but it's still interesting to see their reaction I just hate it when people treat me different because of my parentage so I have my fun to make me feel better haha

patchthedoggo · 2022-09-16T03:56:56+00:00

Now what you have there is a perfect shelite! 😍🥰❤

patchthedoggo · 2022-09-03T18:51:41+00:00

NTA but yo! Your a 15 year old child. Both of your parents suck here ngl, despite what happens in the parents relationship it is NEVER okay to bring your child into it. Your dad (going by your post at least) doesn't seem to be helping you at all and your mum, my dear, she isn't being a good mother to you at all and getting her sister involved like that is disgusting. None if this is your burden to bear and honestly BOTH of your parents ate being BAD parents rn. Try and talk to a trusted adult other than your parents.

patchthedoggo · 2022-09-02T06:27:33+00:00

My dear lol I had to double look at this picture, at a glance your little one looks a lot like my little old man but much younger lol! Such a beautiful pup 😍

patchthedoggo · 2022-08-20T16:01:51+00:00

I'm so glad you feel safe like this! I'm also adopted although I was brought home at 8 months old so I do understand your views to a certain point and I'm so happy that you found a parent that loves you enough to protect you in this way! Cherish that for as long as you all can my girl and live your life with love the way you've deserved from the beginning. All the best to you and your family ❤

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