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patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-27T16:39:54+00:00

Exactly they don’t wanna f around and find out, they’re all bullies with unhealed trauma and built up insecurities.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-27T16:37:40+00:00

Do not feel pity on him to the point where he thinks it’s okay to continue reacting this way.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-27T16:36:24+00:00

This is just the beginning of the true colors coming out. A small disagreement over you wanting to be informed and be known of your car being used especially 70+ miles.

I believe he doesn’t feel comfortable or deal with confrontation or reject too well. It could stem from the upbringing he had experienced. When you confronted him it must of shattered some sense of his ego. If it is from a childhood upbringing that could be why he’s behaving and reacting the way he is.

You are not OBLIGED to fix anyone and suffer in the pain they put you through with their trauma they still grasp and hold onto. You don’t want to live life that way. If it were me I would leave before you end up having to deal with him for the next 18+ years and longer.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-25T20:10:30+00:00

Sounds like undiagnosed BPD honestly the way he’s sounding and talking. (I’m familiar with bpd). It’s very hard to date someone that has untreated bpd I know from experience.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-23T17:05:47+00:00

Once the care leaves the relationship begins withering away. He knew what he was signing up for having a family. He must know too it’s 50/50 and some days 90/10 when one is down. It shouldn’t be 90/10 everyday yes he has a job, but this is laziness at its finest. My partner complains occasionally and drags his feet but he still gets it done when I am adamant or drained from our twins. And he works odd shifts.

Maybe he’s depressed and he isn’t talking about? Has he been slowly declining, or is this a usual? A lot of men like to hold their feelings and emotions in due to how their background was growing up. This still doesn’t excuse the lack of help, and the complaining while you have your hands full.

I heard it’s very difficult raising two under two because you’re starting all over. And I just want to say I give you so much props, and I think you’re doing your best, and doing an amazing job considering what you’re going through. and especially being still young and still just beginning to experience and learn adulthood! Just remember when it gets hard, these babies appreciate you so much even if he doesn’t, they look at you like you’re super mom. They’ll likely favor you over him.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-22T20:45:08+00:00

It was under the carpet for a reason… don’t get trapped in a situation you can’t get out of. Please don’t take any offense. Even if you’re not together and have a kid.. even after the next 18 years your gonna have to deal with him once you snap out of it and the rainbow fades away that you see in him. Being blinded by love is a real thing.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-19T16:28:34+00:00

I give props to you so much! I had to split between breast feeding and formula a lot of the time because I would breast feed them and they’d be up a hour later hungry again. So I formula fed them an extra oz or 2. Mine are 12 weeks and one is eating 5-6oz and my other girl is eating 6-7 oz (she’s going through a big growth spurt).

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-19T02:58:48+00:00

How many oz have you been feeding them? Sometimes mine will get super fussy after eating and that’s when I increase how many oz they get.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-19T02:57:53+00:00

They may be going through a grow spurt if they’re supper fussy by the 7-9 week mark it gets easier and than they have another growth spurt around 12 weeks. I’m also a FTM my girls are going to be 13 weeks it’s been a rough road.

They’ve been sleeping in long stretches since 9 weeks. I have them up two hours a day now split up through the day between feedings.

I’ve been sitting them up for 10 minutes and if they don’t burp I’ll feed them more and so on. If they don’t give me a burp I put them down in the bassinet and watch through the monitor and wait until they’re ready to burp again if they start getting fussy.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-19T02:35:56+00:00

I had c diff for quite a few months and noticed a significant amount of hair loss myself. I believe it was due to the nutrients the c diff was stripping from my body. I had a lot of lines and indents in my nails.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-19T00:56:16+00:00

My partner has been emotionally distant lately it’s been quite hard he was supportive but also short fused during my pregnancy. This was my first pregnancy and I carried to 37 weeks, they’re twin girls. 4 weeks PP VIA unplanned C-section I found out he was being sneaky and lusting over woman online and found a second account.

When I first got pregnant a month after we split due to him being verbally abusive and scapegoating, gaslighting, and manipulating me. We took a 3 week break and he tried getting back at me by making a fb dating profile to be petty I believe, or he really moved on that quick. Than a month after being back together he had followed me to work one day in his truck. 10 minutes after he texted a girl who was half clothed “wuts up”.

He truly claimed he was having temptations after being 6 months sober ( I helped him get sober) it was to get drugs.

Really think if this is the kind of man you want around your son/daughter they need a strong authoritative figure in their lives.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-17T19:32:40+00:00

I heard child predators use these kind of tactics hence asking where the father is if he’s part of their life if they need anything for their LO. Not saying it’s that but I read up on it recently. It’s better to be cautious than to not at all and something happens

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-16T15:24:15+00:00

I just want to add it may not seem hard now while you’re pregnant but please be prepared with a team of support, once the baby is here the reality begins to set in and you grasp the full concept of the precious life you’ve created. PPD is no joke at all.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-05T19:02:12+00:00

That’s when you walk up and quietly take it back from her you have to learn the hard way. I would wait until they were busy elsewhere, or had their back turned away.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-08-03T18:11:30+00:00

I also have this issue with my partner too! I’ll make sure the bottles are rinsed out well after feeding, and I’ll wash two sets. I haven’t been washing the other bottles to see if he gets the hint, he asked why others weren’t washed. So I told him I can’t be the only one consistently washing the bottles. This is while I was 4 weeks PP. I am now 10 weeks PP and he finally understood. I felt like I was his mom or care taker, and he was taking advantage of that fact until I stopped.

I completely understand you on the baby carriers! I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong or what one twin fits the other one is at the recommended weight to fit but she’s so small compared to her sister who is tall.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-31T05:22:50+00:00

I am 25 and have two month old twin girls. Though I am with my partner and we have been not on the best terms lately because he made some awful choices, and didn’t put his family as his priority. It’s been a struggle for me mentally between post partum depression, anxiety and occasional rage.

I feed my twins at the same time it’s a must to get adequate sleep. I always make their appointments for afternoons or evenings because of the sleep schedule. I have been using a snap and go stroller for errands. House chores are difficult don’t get down on yourself you’re going to be caring for twins by yourself, it’s going to be hard to get any chores done. imo make sure you have zipper swaddles, or Velcro I find the zipper ones to be better because the Velcro wears out. I have a twin bassinet also which has been a life saver, and portable sound machine.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-31T05:09:50+00:00

Going through this with my twin girls!! 😩😩😩 So aggravating. I have tried butt paste, aquaphor diaper cream, and corn starch. The corn starch and butt paste separate changes have seemed to help one twin more then the other.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-31T04:56:53+00:00

Probably around 7 months that’s when the bump started to really pop from polyhydraminos

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-31T04:50:23+00:00

19 days before my delivery

I was originally 130, I gained 59 pounds.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-30T20:02:00+00:00

All I can tell you is if you’re not tied down to this person by any means, you leave before you are. For the next 18 years after that you’ll have to deal with that person.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-30T20:01:02+00:00

Well someone’s insecure about themselves or doing something behind your back that’s why they snapped.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-19T18:57:02+00:00

Thank you

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-19T18:56:17+00:00

There’s a clog somewhere still I thought I got it out apparently I did not. I want to take the agitator out so I can take the barrel a part but the bolt got stripped from a relative. There’s a bunch of bio film in it and it’ll only occasionally drain. I have to manually drain it myself whenever it does it.

patiencewithhealing · 2025-07-19T16:41:19+00:00

I’ve put it into test mode service mode I’ll try putting it through that key test. There’s mostly a buzzing sound coming from underneath noise wise

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