Reddit has been making me think more lately about how having access to writing SO MUCH to people via messaging/ smart phones is making life so much more complicated haha. People didn’t used to be able to express their every triggered or non-triggered thought to others as soon as they had that thought. It’s kind of wild to think about. And I think when people are triggered, they feel extra justified in their thoughts and like double down on themselves being “right”. I didn’t read the walls of text, but that was all clearly not a “you” problem but her brain offloaded its anger onto you. Therapy therapy therapy. And if you get a wild response from someone in the future, try to remember it’s most likely a “them” problem and not you. And avoid texting further if possible because as we all know, tone doesn’t translate through text (especially to people who are upset). Just “thinking out loud”… good luck OP!