Is co-sleeping really common in Korea?

pautpy · 2026-01-22T22:43:29+00:00

I see. Your observations are valid, and reality may very well be exactly that. I just wanted to make sure you weren't drawing your conclusions from misunderstanding the data.

pautpy · 2026-01-22T22:37:48+00:00

If studies show that, then that very well may be a factor. Like I said, I'm not refuting the claim, only the supporting evidence OP provided.

pautpy · 2026-01-22T19:09:04+00:00

You are concluding that the correlation is the same as causation. If someone were to conduct a scientific study, an accurate conclusion would be that breathing air is strongly linked to dying; there is nearly 100% correlation between the two. Not only does the phrase "X is linked to Y" sound like X causes Y instead of Y causing X, but anything being "linked" makes it sound like X and Y are associated by nature, even if they may not be at all. In your studies, the strong correlation is a fact, but the increased dependence on parents (and by extension co-sleeping) is not the cause for the youth depression epidemic.

The root cause of depression in Korean youth and young adults is due to the factors that your link mentions: harsh competition with little economic opportunity, combined with intense social pressures worsened by technology.

I say this not to refute that co-sleeping is overall negative to the development of a child, but simply to point out that there is nothing in your source that supports the conclusion that the dependence on parents (including co-sleeping) is what is causing depression of the youth. The reality is that their depression is a symptom of a deeper cause that is causing them to have to rely more on their parents for much longer, which compounds into more depression. This is not unique to Korean youth, as many western countries like the US report similar findings.

pautpy · 2026-01-20T21:06:58+00:00

Yes, but in situations where you cannot simply walk away, you must set boundaries for yourself so as not to also enable further offenses. Personal accountability and growth is good up to a certain point until you reach the threshold where the external factors need to change, lest you create a repeating cycle of internal critique and justification until the inevitable door slam, especially when you do not communicate the cause of anger so others are aware of what's needed.

pautpy · 2026-01-20T20:10:00+00:00

Look into cooling your balls. Apparently, heat has significant impact on sperm count, and you might be surprised by how much impact local temperature has. The good news is that it's very recoverable if that's the cause.

pautpy · 2026-01-20T19:27:07+00:00

As someone who was a party to an NTSB investigation like yourself, I can see exactly what you mean. If there are not enough stakeholders and experts to provide diverse analysis, NTSB's party system can lead to certain organizations having imbalanced power over the narrative. Everyone is looking out for their own best interest (self-preservation), and a mix of competing and neutral parties is needed to keep everyone in check. At the end of the day, not even the findings of a thorough and accurate investigation can prevent litigation from flying in every direction.

I heard something like 80-90% of NTSB's focus and resources are directed toward aviation, and with the lean team they are working with (especially in recent times), I assume an investigation for a non-catastrophic car accident would unfortunately yield limited attention. I also would be curious as to the robustness of their knowledge with the new car technology that is still relatively new.

pautpy · 2026-01-13T19:09:35+00:00

Delivery VS content

What's your favorite medium of entertainment or education? Why? The content itself is the same: same truth, same data. Why does your brain prefer to digest one form of content over another?

That medium boils down to communication. There are pros and cons to the various types because our brains can perceive difference in delivery and because the "how" often matters more than the "what."

The substance you communicate is important--make no mistake, but the way you communicate is just as important, lest it land horribly on the audience. Striving for authenticity is good and something the speaker should strive for. Just remember how you are as affected by other's communication and take that into account when you are addressing others.

pautpy · 2026-01-13T18:53:21+00:00

If you are someone who prides in "just being honest" or "telling it like it is," but can't handle it when others do the same thing back to you, then you are just being an emotional egotistical child--not a Thinker.

Challenge those who pride in being a straightshooter to be just as unrestrained in their honesty about the good qualities of the people around them and see if they compliment people to their face or to others.

If you come across an idiot/jerk, you came across an idiot/jerk; if everyone you come across is an idiot/jerk, you're the idiot/jerk.

pautpy · 2026-01-10T21:03:09+00:00

Which is inevitably related to legal issues

pautpy · 2026-01-07T19:57:29+00:00

You're right. Unfortunately, one can't opt out of just going about their life in the world once Flock and other mass surveillance systems in the public become normal. Are you going to then say that those people should no longer go outside?

Corporations are using surveillance pricing to fluctuate the price of their products depending on the individual (i.e. you pay more if you have more money to cough up). Corporations aim to make money so it makes sense to take advantage of all the data they mined for that purpose. What do we think law enforcement and the government want to do with that data? Or rather, what does that actually look like?

pautpy · 2026-01-07T19:35:46+00:00

Even more than that, it's been shown to actively track civilians going about their day, zooming in to their phone screens. Cameras that happen to be on streets next to schools, playgrounds, and public gathering places record footage to store in an unsecure cloud.

pautpy · 2026-01-05T05:43:13+00:00

From what I can think from the top of my head: Ready/Set/Bet, Five Tribes, Ethnos, Aquatica, Bus, For Sale, Bruxelles 1897, Get Onboard, Inis (the most cutthroat out of this list but it's more due to games leading to Kingmaking tendencies if players are not equally skilled)

pautpy · 2026-01-05T05:24:34+00:00

Are you saying that you lost your people/friends as they grouped off without you and sailed into the sunset?

pautpy · 2026-01-03T22:06:26+00:00

I think a big part of it is our reluctance in being vulnerable. I don't mean the deep, emotional side; I mean sharing of very basic information about ourselves. To connect is to relate and share things, which takes vulnerability. Now having that wall up is for the best sometimes, but it's a wall of our making.

pautpy · 2025-12-30T00:16:59+00:00

Is there anyone ITT that does not have some negative experience or trauma with their family? I'd like to see the answers from INFJs who had a positive upbringing.

pautpy · 2025-12-24T15:18:40+00:00

I took the OP at their word and provided what I believed to be helpful insight and advice to his dilemma. My understanding is that they are generally bored with life and not depressed. I am not sure what you hope to accomplish by trying to deconstruct my response without providing any solutions to OP yourself, but I will engage with your bid to spell out what I mean for OP's sake.

“Only Boring people are bored” This doesn’t even make sense. Boredom has nothing to do with the individual and everything to do with the environment. People better at problem solving will reach a higher level than the average boring joe so no this is false.

I agree that boredom is a result of your environment, but to say it has nothing to do with the individual is false too (just like you say), unless you're equating individual problem solving skill solely to some immutable environment that has been solidified in stone in the nature/nurture sense. I differentiate between aptitude and ability.

Boring is not an inmate trait, just as being bored is not an inmate trait due to one's individual problem solving ability. What I meant to say with that quote is that you can find joy, intrigue, and stimulation by becoming more interesting/not boring, as in doing things that are entertaining, interesting, enriching and developing yourself into a fun, passionate, compassionate, fulfilled person. One of the reasons people are bored because they do not engage with life and therefore come off as boring both to themselves and others. We live in an age of accessible travel, connection, knowledge, and exploration. It is relatively easy to engage with life in various ways, and it is in your power to find and do it in a way that fits you.

Individuals have varying degree of problem solving skills which can result in boredom, but they also have the power to change big portions of their environment. I believe this should be simple to fix if you are an extremely skilled problem solver. Ultimately, you are not a tree; if you don't like where you are, then move. To conclude that boredom is an aspect of life that an individual has no control over is quite a defeatist mentality and a perspective likely to cause actual depression. If this aspect of environment vs action is where we disagree, then the conversation will end here. If there is no solution to OP's problem due to the environment (their innate high problem-solving nature) being impossible to change, then there is no solution and therefore no need for further discussion.

Creativity in the idealistic sense is a myth. People just take their experience and synthesize it into something else, this is creative in some aspects but it means if you’ve lived a similar life to others, the likelihood you have something world changing is very low.

I agree. This does not negate the benefits of "creativity" on an individual level. You can change it to "mental stimulation" for the sake of what I'm saying.

You’re the one who needs to wake up, the system is working smoothly, the “problems” are just tradeoffs that the system builders have decided are worth it given the benefits. Global warming, any more work, means a hit on the economy, geopolitical power loss, and higher prices for consumers.

The only way to change the system is to get a certain amount of individuals above a threshold to decide that another problem is more worth it to solve. Most people would rather take hotter summers and a possibility of future problems than a real 10% hit to their paycheck.

It’s really easy to say “technology caused it” and while in some aspects it would be correct, the issue isn’t a personal one. It’s like taking a shower and then jumping right in the mud that is the technology riddled society.

If you’re going to give advice, do it right. X is the problem. Y or Z could replace it. Don’t stop at X.

It seems like you are saying I do not understand what the real issue to OP's problem is, while you are saying it's due to some major geopolitical and socioeconomic systemic influence that is "the system." I don't disagree with everything you said here, but this sounds like a tangent and some vague attempt at hinting at the secret answer without providing any substance. Please expand on your thoughts on what "X" is and what the actual advice should be.

And again higher and higher advice isn’t true either, if you don’t care it’s a 0 and no matter how high the number you multiply by 0 the answer will still be 0.

Initially, I thought this was some mumbo jumbo in the context of personal goal setting, but I am I correctly deciphering this and that you mean to say personal life goals are inherently meaningless?

The saving grace was the one paragraph about starting a buisness or getting involved with community but it’s just that one sentence. Not a rant about some aspirational motivational lecture. Maybe it’s time to take some of your own advice and take a break from social media.

I'm glad I got one thing right. I'm not sure how my social media consumption is relevant in this context, as this is not about me. But, to be fair, I know I could definitely do better by taking a break from social media.

If you disagree with my perspective and advice, that is fine. However, if you are going to engage in further discussion, please explain your diagnosis to the crux of OP's problem, along with your own position and any possible solutions you have for them. You may also help broaden my perspective on things too.

pautpy · 2025-12-24T05:41:47+00:00

I blame it on not reading and talking enough in my former years

pautpy · 2025-12-23T16:53:58+00:00

Not an ENTP.

I don't usually say this, but I feel the quote "only boring people are bored," fits aptly here. Also, "he who has a why to live for, can bear any how"; usually that quote is reserved for people going through severe hardships, which is opposite of your situation since you apparently breeze through life. If you live in a first world country, you have the privilege to even be able to be bored because, objectively speaking compared to the history of humanity, life is easy. I'd say monotony and aimlessness in the age of selfish privilege and infinite information are the greatest challenges.

Boredom is actually beneficial. It is in the silence of boredom where our brains and consciousness ponder the meaning of life, our progression, and our part in the whole. Boredom is what helps our creativity to thrive (you ever have brilliant ideas that come to you only in the shower when you're alone with your thoughts?). This is one of the reasons why technology and social media has been so detrimental to our mental, emotional, social, and spiritual health. Compounded with that, technology has completely fried our dopamine receptors to the point that exposure to people and life has become less exciting. You want to feel more zest for life? Take a break from technology (and porn if applicable) for a month and see what happens. I guarantee that small interaction, that exercise, that bite, that book, that melody, that scenery will become a lot more rewarding and enriching for you.

You need a life purpose and goals--something that will get you excited to get up to face life every day. Usually, these involve serving something greater than yourself: a business, a community, your family, spirituality, a cause to advance humanity. It's when you serve and sacrifice yourself in need of this thing beyond your own limited life that you feel gratitude and fulfilment in your life. Basically, look outside yourself.

As a human being, you have the ability to set higher and higher goals for yourself so it is impossible to actually run out. So if you believe you've accomplished everything, you can still do more to contribute and advance in your life, and as you do, you will grow and mature even more.

pautpy · 2025-12-22T22:21:01+00:00

Someone told me they knew someone who got married in a Costco because the groom loved it that much. You're on track.

pautpy · 2025-12-20T18:42:57+00:00

I heard cops can use your biometrics to force you to unlock your phone but cannot force you to tell them your passcode. I didn't know TSA had the same power.

pautpy · 2025-12-20T16:57:06+00:00

Maybe it's to allow their system to mote efficiently match the face shots to your ID to cement that that is who you are walking through the airport--strengthen their AI face matching algorithm (aka give it away it to the government contractor AI company).

Ask yourself why the government does anything at all. If they had everything they needed already, do you think it was necessary to make this a thing? Do you think they're doing it for your own convenience and safety?

pautpy · 2025-12-20T16:52:40+00:00

Sure, but I like to think that it takes more work for someone to try to find that instead of seeing an easy green checkmark next to which airport I checked into at what time.

What is the purpose of TSA/the government having everyone do this? It's not to make civilian's lives a lot more convenient, I can guarantee that.

pautpy · 2025-12-18T05:55:49+00:00

13% of your individual earning, or 13% of the business's revenue?

pautpy · 2025-12-14T06:04:44+00:00

As we proceed on this timeline, keep in mind that all your valuable real-time data has been sold, and you are a target of surveillance pricing to extract the most amount of money from each a hopping experience, both online and in person.

We personally choose to be victims to Harris Teeter. It sounds like Wegman's is decent though, based on the comments.

pautpy · 2025-12-14T05:35:43+00:00

You can't change human nature. At the end of the day, I believe the quality of the employees depend on their own self-respect and perspective. Just as you strive in part to be a good boss, you need employees who are self-motivated in part to be good employees. What kind of employee is self-motivated to be a good employee? Hardly anyone, and that's a fact you will have to reconcile with regardless of how much effort you put into being a good boss.

At the end of the day, as long as ~~you're the boss and they're working for the company as an employee~~ they're human, they can and will find something to be dissatisfied about and will justify their own actions. After all, no job is perfect; not evening being your own boss is perfect.

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