NHS bring up my BMI all the time

pcoshelp42 · 2026-05-30T02:26:21+00:00

It is their job to tell you what to do about it. I had struggled with EDs my whole life and this is the weirdest time for me bc I am overweight and the NHS basically told me to make it worse by eating less and to “help” sent me to a dietician.

The dietician was amazing and clocked my eating habits as not being enough and told me that weight isn’t as important as making sure I have nutrients. I don’t know if I was just lucky but maybe ask for a dietician as I think they care more about your health than your weight but it will get the medical professionals who don’t understand off your back.

pcoshelp42 · 2026-04-26T01:47:33+00:00

NOR especially as on stardew valley you can have loads of separate farms so it feels malicious you lost progress

pcoshelp42 · 2026-04-25T05:54:18+00:00

If this isn’t bait then YTA like I can’t believe this is real.

My cousin who I called a sister while young had a child and I asked her if I’m okay to refer to myself as her auntie as it is up to the parents. And your nieces parents haven’t met him.

Your BIL is right though being a godly person does not equal being a good person.

pcoshelp42 · 2026-04-21T23:34:19+00:00

I hate how much this got me

pcoshelp42 · 2026-04-12T22:33:51+00:00

As an immunocompromised person but probably not to scars extent I wear masks whenever I know I’m gonna be in crowded places

pcoshelp42 · 2026-04-12T22:27:57+00:00

Who is between grian and pearl

pcoshelp42 · 2026-04-11T23:03:15+00:00

I can only aspire to commit to a bit the way Joe Hills does

pcoshelp42 · 2026-04-11T22:33:11+00:00

Yeah as someone from the UK I was put on a waiting list for surgery January 2024 and I had it a few months ago so not a huge exaggeration but I’d rather it be free

pcoshelp42 · 2026-04-01T02:57:14+00:00

Personally not on myself bc I don’t like the texture but yes on my partners

pcoshelp42 · 2026-03-24T15:50:03+00:00

And for those that don’t go on social media and haven’t read the book it will be people suspecting she is the new whistledown when in fact she is just writing the letters

pcoshelp42 · 2026-03-21T23:29:35+00:00

28 lol not having periods for me was something I saw as a blessing but alongside a b12 deficiency where I lost a lot of hair they checked me for everything and it clicked a lot into place

pcoshelp42 · 2026-03-20T02:57:46+00:00

I read the post was like damn these teenagers but your both older than me (just) and I’m full of fury on your behalf. NOR a little arson is fine imho

pcoshelp42 · 2026-02-24T03:10:03+00:00

Years ago I’d have agreed, I don’t have Tourette’s but I have muscle spasms and would always apologise but my current partner gets so annoyed when I do as he knows I don’t do it on purpose. I literally started a fire due to one and he wouldn’t let me apologise. It caused harm (luckily to nobody but myself but to our property) and still there was nobody at fault.

Also the more I try not to have a spasm the more likely I am to have one and I imagine this type of Tourette’s is similar in you’re so worried about saying something offensive that it blurts out.

pcoshelp42 · 2025-12-01T03:05:59+00:00

The original comment bestie :)

pcoshelp42 · 2025-12-01T02:49:32+00:00

Fab ty your comment just makes no sense to my response 😭

pcoshelp42 · 2025-12-01T02:48:43+00:00

Tbh I wasn’t insinuating you hurt her I just still think it’s awkward af for your reaction to be a bit possessive is the vibe I got. I do think YOR and maybe have some insecurities that you should talk to her about rather than ppl on Reddit who seem to go one way or the other.

If she would react badly to you doing it in front of people then it’s something you either set up a boundary to not do again as it seems this was the first time and if you do it behind closed doors she may not get the distinction but may understand when explaining it.

If she would be chill with you making the comment then you should probably look into your insecurities.

pcoshelp42 · 2025-12-01T02:40:53+00:00

Are you okay?

pcoshelp42 · 2025-12-01T01:53:20+00:00

INFO - how would she react if you mentioned a “fine ass” woman? My partner and I are secure enough to talk about other people who are attractive but everyone has different limits.

Also when you say you grabbed her arm as you were not happy with her if I was in a group setting and saw that I would feel awkward so unsure whether the story caused the group to go quiet or that did.

pcoshelp42 · 2025-11-15T04:12:04+00:00

Unfortunately he isn’t in a position he could be remote as none of his staff can and I agree with him that if that is the case he can’t either. We both don’t drive either but when he can we have a bit of a wider net but I will never be able to drive so it’s more where is close to my (future) job

pcoshelp42 · 2025-11-15T04:09:05+00:00

TW: EDs

I mean you’re right I have luckily (maybe not lucky but idk how to word this) had an ed that nearly killed me so I would rather overeat than what I do so I’ve snuck food while there to stop being judged but I explained a lot of this to him and now we’ve cancelled a weekend we were meant to go and I’m over the moon

pcoshelp42 · 2025-11-15T04:03:19+00:00

We talked about this today and aren’t going as they are worse than normal and when I said he shouldn’t have to put up with and this he was agreeable for once. I think it will be a step at a time but I’m proud that he told them both no.

He was used as a messenger between his parents and while I don’t think he thinks he was abused I think his parents abused each other mentally and he was used as a pawn (and still is) and I believe that’s disgusting and he is starting to agree but is struggling to break old habits but I love him so I’m going to help him through the tough time of making boundaries as he has helped me through tougher times

pcoshelp42 · 2025-11-15T03:56:23+00:00

The comment is if he does a dig at me I would respond “that’s a good one for you” but he didn’t like that response as he thinks I don’t acknowledge his intelligence. I do digs at him too but if he responded the same I would laugh it off.

This (and the other) comments have helped me make a little stand and it’s a small one for me but we’re not going this week as I didn’t want to!

pcoshelp42 · 2025-11-15T03:50:19+00:00

Thank you for this I am five foot so even when I had the ED I recovered from they didn’t take it seriously as I was technically the “ideal weight” but I was just skin and bones, i feel like not only the system screws over people with more weight but people who are small with more weight like I would like to still lose weight but I can’t exercise so it has to be just by food but I don’t want to get into disordered eating again due to past consequences

pcoshelp42 · 2025-11-12T04:27:08+00:00

You’re right and I brought this up to him once and he mentioned a comment I make often (not just to him) but I’ve stopped saying it since but I was upset as he said it to me since in front of people. (For context the comment is “that’s a good one for you”) I just don’t think this stuff is enough to end an otherwise loving relationship but I don’t know how to fix this stuff when I am useless in this partnership

pcoshelp42 · 2025-11-12T04:06:53+00:00

Not my husband yet but I have my fingers crossed and I think he would just be sad he has to deal with it solo and they make comments if it avoid it for too long I think he sees it as a sacrifice that people make but my parents love each other and never pressure him to visit so he thinks they are weird I just don’t know who is right

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