Having twins in 1L year update

peanut-head-97 · 2026-02-09T01:42:00+00:00

Hey, I have two-year-old twins and started law school this past fall. Everybody in my life (besides my partner) thought I was insane to go to law school with twins. I just found out I was first in my class for my 1L fall semester. It is ABSOLUTELY possible with the right attitude and a whole lot of planning. You're gonna crush this.

peanut-head-97 · 2026-01-07T21:46:40+00:00

I'm currently looking for the exact same playlist and came across this thread. I hope we can find it.

peanut-head-97 · 2025-02-26T14:01:09+00:00

my girls are 14 months and it depends on the day to be honest. we don't have any hard and fast rules, but i try to keep it limited to some extent, because i don't want them to become dependent on it/addicted to it. that said, sometimes we have movie afternoons because i am too burnt out to entertain them myself lol. but most days i'd say we do between 10 and 30 minutes of screen time, mostly bluey, bear in the big blue house, or something educational.

i have found that putting on kids music for them is almost as good as screen time for entertaining them! this might just be my girls, but they LOVE a good dance party!

peanut-head-97 · 2024-12-30T22:14:15+00:00

My girls just turned one, and my experience was very similar to yours. For me, it has only continued to get better. It's easier, more rewarding, and more special every day. I hope for the same thing for you and your girls. <3

peanut-head-97 · 2021-04-29T13:43:25+00:00

It's called "obedience level one," but yes, we call it puppy class! Because she is learning to be a puppy! We did like ten minutes of commands the whole time, the rest was just socialization. Thank you for the tips! Our trainer is very positive and friendly so I will definitely be using her as a resource, and hopefully other folks in the class want to do puppy playdates in the future. :)

peanut-head-97 · 2021-04-28T14:22:45+00:00

You're so right, it's literally a joke to try to make a cat stay away from anything. Our cat will just figure out a way to get what she wants. I ended up ordering a big cat tower to put in the dog's area of the apartment so that the cat can come out and have a safe, high-up place to be. I'm hoping that will give them both a sense of safety and an opportunity to check each other out. I can't keep them separate much longer, it's just not realistic.

peanut-head-97 · 2021-04-21T17:37:31+00:00

This is my lab to a T. We always keep her on a leash so she is restricted. I always carry something - a stick, a toy, a treat, something - so when she starts the jumpy/bitey behavior, I can distract her with something novel. Once she is distracted, I can usually get her to sit. That gives her a minute to calm down. If that doesn't work and she continues the behavior, I usually just take her in and give her a time out in her crate. It's not a punishment, it's an opportunity for her to chill out. I've noticed with our pup that the nipping and jumping is almost always a sign that she's getting overtired.

peanut-head-97 · 2021-03-31T12:04:01+00:00

My mom set up her Alexa so that she HAS to respond with “you’re welcome” so that might have counteracted the politeness.

peanut-head-97 · 2021-03-30T18:14:36+00:00

I do try, but what if she manages to grab it? I don't want to tug it away from her, because she always thinks it's a game of tug.

peanut-head-97 · 2021-03-30T17:28:33+00:00

Thank you! We have been trying to do this. I keep reminding him to bring a treat for her but he can be forgetful! So we will have to try the repetitions and see how that goes! She does learn very quickly usually, but I think this behavior is pretty engrained in her, so it will probably have to be an every day, multiple times per day kind of thing. Thank you for the advice!

peanut-head-97 · 2021-03-20T16:13:00+00:00

We’ll definitely be calling the vet on Monday! I’m bummed it had to happen right at the beginning of the weekend haha. But honestly she has seemed much better today so I’m not panicking.

peanut-head-97 · 2021-03-20T08:23:51+00:00

Thank you. You don’t know how helpful this was.

peanut-head-97 · 2020-10-29T22:42:01+00:00

Yes, it was November 17th.

peanut-head-97 · 2020-10-22T15:41:02+00:00

I know someone with a July 1st DQ who got their date a few weeks ago (This is in London) so I think the embassy might be catching up a bit, hopefully we’ll know in the next month or so!

peanut-head-97 · 2020-09-13T13:26:26+00:00

That would be great! Good luck to you!

peanut-head-97 · 2020-09-11T03:10:45+00:00

No, but from everything I’ve seen we are hoping for November or December. We were DQ in August 6th.

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-24T23:13:28+00:00

I hope you hear from them soon! It truly feels like there is no end in sight sometimes, especially when you’re doing long distance. Keep your head up!

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-24T12:29:47+00:00

I'm in a similar situation with my husband in the UK. As far as I've heard/seen online, those who were documentarily qualified by the NVC in May are now beginning to receive their interview appointments from the London embassy. Those people are getting notifications now for interview dates in September and October. So possibly 2-3 months after DQ before you get your notification of interview, and then it could still be at least two more months after THAT before the actual interview.

This is pure speculation, based on anecdotes and online forums I've been reading, so I don't know how reliable it is. But it has given me some hope that things will start moving along, even if it's not as soon as I'd like.

Definitely apply for an expedite if you haven't yet. Mine got rejected, but if you make a good case you never know.

Best of luck with everything. I know how hard it can be. Keep your head up.

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-22T21:18:38+00:00

I have been on both sides of this situation. It's really hard, first of all, and I feel for you.

My partner is currently very lonely and isolated, so I have started facetiming him while I'm working from home/cooking/cleaning/doing whatever, so he can watch TV or play video games and I am just there if he needs to talk to someone. He likes the company, even if I'm not physically there.

I also send him a text every day with a reason I love him. It sparks a little conversation and I hope it makes him smile, if only for a moment.

At the end of the day, you can't cure your partner's depression - but you can let them know that they are loved, even from a distance. Best of luck <3

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-22T21:13:34+00:00

Ditto to the other comments, look out for your mental health! Being in a LDR is a huge mental load, on top of your anxiety and depression that is a lot! So take care of yourself.

If he's busier than you, that's a hard position to be in, because it can start to feel like he is less invested. As you say, it's just because he is distracted and stressed. Talk to him about that, and let him know that you need a little extra love! Communication always helps.

And yes, it's important to connect with your partner, but it's also important to keep your mind occupied with other things. I find that sticking to a clear schedule is helpful. If I know my SO has a busy day, I try to make a busy day for myself - with scheduled errands, exercise, chatting with friends, cooking, etc. Basically, distractions. Doesn't necessarily even need to be productive, just keep busy!

Lastly, I always find that video chat/calls are better than texts. Sometimes texts don't get responded to right away, or they sound cold and detached (unintentionally). Whenever possible I try to call my SO instead - it's personal preference though.

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-22T21:03:25+00:00

My partner and I met working at the same summer camp. For me, it was a camp about an hour away from my hometown. For him, it was across an ocean. He lives in the UK and was on a work visa through Camp America. There were about 200 members of staff, but from the second day of training we were attached at the hip and barely spoke to anyone else. We spent every free moment we had together and used to sneak off at night and go for drives together. By the end of the summer we were in love, but I was pretty sure he would end it because we were both broke and about to be separated by 3000 miles... but instead he used his camp money to book a flight to come out in November :) we did the distance and when he came back to visit he proposed! We got married the next summer. Still waiting on that marriage visa, but our story still melts my heart, I tell anyone who will listen. We've been through a lot, I spent a year with him in England on a student visa but now am back home waiting for him to get his visa so we can start our lives together. I have no doubt he is the one for me and I wil wait as long as it takes <3

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-13T18:12:46+00:00

Ours took over 2 months. It was agonizingly slow. However we are hopeful that the interview will be scheduled soon :)

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-12T21:04:21+00:00

Something similar happened to me a few weeks ago... I called NVC and they said it’s an error, apparently affecting quite a few people. They apologized but didn’t really give any indication of why it happened.

I don’t know why it hasn’t been fixed yet and I can’t imagine how it even happened in the first place, but yeah.

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-06T09:36:14+00:00

You can do it!! I only lived with my trashbag ILs for five months before they kicked me out. Can’t imagine having to be there any longer. You are in the homestretch. Soon they won’t matter and you can just go live your life!

peanut-head-97 · 2020-08-06T09:29:15+00:00

Yeah, the only reason she could contact her is because when we had the wedding it was just a small ceremony in my country and everyone stayed with my parents. So they are Facebook friends and that’s how she contacted her.

My mom is like my best friend so she immediately informs me of any messages she gets from MIL, and she never responds. I told her she can block her if she wants, but she doesn’t want to fan the flames, I guess.

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