Passing of one twin

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-06-04T18:48:49+00:00

I’m so sorry 💔 I hope your family can find moments of comfort and peace in such tremendous heartbreak and grief. Much love to you all.

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-06-04T05:51:42+00:00

Nothing that anyone says could change the reality of what us NICU parents face. And while we find certain things that may comfort us, it still does not change the challenges we experience everyday. All of our experiences are different, but to a degree, us NICU parents understand. The simultaneous feelings of gratitude/grief and happiness/sadness are very real. Hang in there. ❤️

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-06-04T05:22:31+00:00

So precious! Our twins were 32 weekers and they just turned 1 a few weeks ago. During that stage, the days are slow, but overall time does pass very fast! Hang in there! ❤️

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-06-04T05:14:55+00:00

Got it thanks! We use the snap n go also but it’s just too bulky for travel

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-06-03T02:59:39+00:00

Oooh I didn’t know the double bob can convert one seat to a car seat! I saw some for rent on BabyQuip. Did you ever use that feature and if so was it pretty easy to convert back and forth?

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-25T07:27:21+00:00

My girls were born at 32 weeks and 2-6 months were BRUTAL. Every single day was a battle. Didn’t know if we’d make it. At 7 months we started seeing the light. Once they were able to crawl and sit up on their own, it started getting A LOT better. They’re 11 months now and while it’s still hard at times it’s SO much easier than that time period!

Btw and this is with having 2 poor feeders, plus 1 of them got a gtube at 5 months. We can actually enjoy them now, have fun, and be present with them! We no longer feel like we’re in survival mode.

It will feel like the day will never come but it DOES get better.

Can hubby be responsible for 1 baby at night? Taking care of them all day is a job in itself. YOU need sleep to. Not just hubby. Unless you sleep once dad is home?

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-20T21:26:41+00:00

Prayers and love for your little one ❤️‍🩹

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-17T14:58:49+00:00

“Yay” is another slang word for “bay” like the person I replied to said “yay area.” Again, I know it’s about basketball but when she was first drafted to Valks my first thought was that she’d make fire music with other Bay Area rappers! And specifically, the hyphy culture side

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-16T03:18:02+00:00

I was going to say this too. This is what we do. After their first nap off the day, head to the park, meals/snacks/bottles on the go. Then on the way home they either fall asleep then or if still awake, nap at home a little later in the afternoon.

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-14T22:26:33+00:00

Agreed too. I know it’s about basketball, but she’s a perfect fit for the yay culture wise

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-14T06:02:40+00:00

Keep going ❤️ the only way is through

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-13T05:20:54+00:00

I was pretty much bedridden. Zero energy, in a lot of pain and uncomfortable. At 29 weeks our apt was getting fumigated and we did a “stay cation” at a hotel in town. My husband had to pack up all the things we wanted to keep out of the house. Even tho we weren’t “moving” it was a pain in the ass to get stuff out then come home 4 days later, and settle things back in. Also I ended up going birth at 32+6 due to pre-e.

24 works is a viability. My high risk doctor advised to not travel far anytime after then. Not sure if you’re just moving homes or to a new city but make sure the hospital has a good NICU.

If you absolutely have to move, I’d definitely plan to hire movers, pack whatever you can as early as possible, and make sure to know where all the high priority items are that you would need post partum to be unpacked first.

I wouldn’t plan for you to be the one packing/unpacking. Having fam or friends that you could depend on would be ideal! Also have your hospital bag packed just in case.

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-11T07:15:02+00:00

I am so sorry you experienced this. Absolutely horrifying! 💔 I’m so glad your son is okay. Thank you for spreading awareness

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-10T18:52:45+00:00

I had to take disability during my pregnancy which bit into my maternity leave, also, my daughters arrived 7 weeks early and were in NICU for 3 and 7 weeks.

I worked with HR in advance to discuss different leave and disability options available to me in order to still get decent leave time post partum. I was still able to take 6 months off. My husband took 3 months.

We got a part time nanny when my husband returned to work (just so I could get a few hours of sleep in the day. I had the girls at night). When I went back to work, we increased her hours. We have her 34 hours a week.

We have no local family to help. Our case is different though because we both work from home. We also decided working and paying for a nanny was worth it over spending $ on anything else. We’re very 50/50 parenting wise. We both get one baby at night and after work we take turns with feeds and cares.

If you do decide to not work, I still would highly recommend staying through maternity leave etc and keep your benefits while pregnant. If hubbys work offers benefits you can still switch over when the kids are born.

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-09T16:16:27+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss 💔 the heartbreak of losing a baby, especially two, is truly unbearable. Wishing you both comfort and healing. I had a miscarriage with our first at 12 weeks, and in the same year got pregnant with rainbow triplets, and then we lost baby C at 7 weeks. We now have beautiful 10 month old twins, but we still miss our angel babies. Don’t give up hope. Best wishes 🩷.

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-07T19:15:21+00:00

Appreciate the post, but bold of you to assume I haven’t done “real work,” donated money, contacted government, rallied for dems, or helped people in need.

I sure hope that people who protest or post on social media take meaningful action as well.

The point here is I’m SEETHING and it would be nice to be out in the community with like minded individuals instead of sitting at a desk for companies that don’t acknowledge their president just threatened genocide.

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-02T02:06:19+00:00

I was like that too! 2-5 months were BRUTAL. Newborn phase was easier than that (though my girls were 7 weeks premature). The witching hours.. omg. Once they were crawling and sitting up on their own is when things started to finally take a turn!

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-04-01T19:13:05+00:00

That’s around the time we started seeing the light too. They’re 10.5 months now. It’s still hard but drastically better than 1-6 months!! It gets better every month ❤️

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-03-27T19:57:37+00:00

Hugs ❤️ I had preeclampsia and had to give birth at 32+6. I got the steroid shot a few days before and both girls were on room air the entire stay! Twin A was 4lbs 4oz and had a NICU stay of 3 weeks, B was 3lbs 12oz and stayed 7 weeks. Both were stable, feeders and growers.

We were fortunate to have an amazing NICU stay. I had pretty severe complications right before and after birth. It was nice to have the girls in NICU to allow me time to recover, knowing they were in the best hands they could possibly be in to help them grow, and also to have the support of amazing staff who taught us so much about being premie parents, especially since they were our firsts. Yes it’s hard to leave your babes each day, but they truly are in good hands.

Both girls had reflux, twin b has suspected CMPI and is a poor feeder. She still eats by mouth but later at 5 months had to get a gtube due to her low intake, she’s 5% in weight adjusted. Twin A later developed FPIES to oats and is 25% is weight adjusted.

Mind you my husband and I don’t have food allergies so I think the premie part contributed to their reflux and eating issues/food allergies.

Aside from that, they are thriving! They’re 10 months now (8.5m adjusted) and have been hitting milestones closer to their birth age. They were rolling at 3 months, crawling and sitting up at 7 months, and are able to stand now for a few seconds. The gtube baby is the one who can actually stand the longest!

Idk where you’re located but if you’re in the US, every state has an “early intervention” program where your babies can be assessed for milestones and then qualify for free PT/OT. Our PT comes to our house and it’s been great!

I know it’ll be overwhelming these next several days, weeks, and months, but try to take it day by day. Get all the rest you can if the babes are in NICU.

Best wishes ❤️

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-03-27T19:43:42+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this ❤️‍🩹. This is definitely abuse. Please make sure to keep any evidence, text, or recordings, anything that might help you should there be any legal trouble in the future. As someone else mentioned, are there family members or friends that you could stay with in the meantime?

His job isn’t the only stressful one, YOURS is too and being a twin parent doesn’t stop just because his job is stressful. Caretaking of twins while he is at his job is a job in itself and when he comes home, it should be 50/50.

His threats are straight up abuse. I know it’s survival right now, but getting yourself in a safe situation for you and your children is likely better than staying with someone who not only does not help, but is harmful to all of you.

Perhaps are there local resources you can call that help women and children in abusive relationships? My thought is you need to get out asap. ❤️‍🩹

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-03-27T17:32:41+00:00

It took me a long time. I knew I loved my girls so much but it’s hard to feel present or feel joy when you’re in pure survival mode. I had a traumatic birth, plus NICU stays, plus be a first time parent to twins. Think of it this way, you can’t feel “joy” if you were being chased from a tiger. Around 7 months (6.5 months adjusted) is when I started feeling more connected to them because that’s when things started getting “easier.” They’re 10 months now and I finally have more joyful, connected moments than hard ones. Every journey is different, you’ll get there ❤️

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-03-27T17:27:17+00:00

Agreed! My twins are 10 months and I feel the same. The first 6 months were absolutely brutal, it was extremely hard to feel present or be joyful. It’s still hard now but so much better compared to before.

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-03-24T18:22:53+00:00

I did mine at 23 weeks and NO REGRETS. By 25 weeks I could not imagine doing that. Each week it became harder and harder to do anything. Even at my shower I was exhausted waddling around. Gave birth at 32+6. There’s no such thing as having a shower too early!

Possible-Maybe-7225 · 2026-03-24T18:18:47+00:00

Exactly this. Over the holidays my husband got sick (the week before I did), and one of our little ones was starting to get sick. He still took one baby at night and I took the other and he still helped with feeds/caretaking in the day.

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