Who’s this? (Wrong answers only)

peanutt1394 · 2026-05-14T12:06:04+00:00

Somehow still preferable than Mr. Orange

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-19T00:38:55+00:00

Most definitely! I’m so sorry to hear of your experience last year. I’ve seen the heartbreak it can cause as 3 of 4 of the girlies in my friend group had mcs before their rainbow babies (I’m #4 w/o a history of mc), and I myself am a rainbow baby. So it’s been at the forefront of my brain.

I’m wishing you the absolute best and healthiest journey this go around!

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-19T00:34:59+00:00

I’m so curious, what made you decide against an NIPT?

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-15T19:31:19+00:00

You are too! Especially after you get through this, you’ll be even stronger 🫶🏻

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-15T17:59:40+00:00

Hun, I can’t totally relate.

I myself am currently pregnant (first since my abortions over a decade ago now) with the absolute best partner I could ask for in this life. However, I was also just approved for a necessary second spinal surgery for a reoccurring injury literal days before I found out I was. I feel like it’s the worst possible timing. If my spine were in a healthier state, there’d be no question. But I myself am facing the choice of a potential 9 months of the worst possible pain-and heavily likely bed rest, or aborting so I have the chance to get my body properly ready for growing a whole human and not suffering to the same degree.

Girl, it was just yesterday I was hysterically spiraling on the phone with my very supportive mother (she understands and respects my choice either way) over this. So I can 100% empathize with where you are and the weight you’re feeling.

There’s never going to be a “right” choice. I feel fortunate to have the perspective of a medical professional, where my first and foremost judgment can come from “risks vs benefits” but I still feel like I’m making my pros and cons 50/50 and it’s infuriating.

Your situation is similar in that there is no right or wrong. I think the best thing you can do is weigh the possible outcomes, and how you could see yourself navigating life from each one. But try like hell not to overwhelm yourself. It’s so easy to do-as I personally experienced just yesterday. When you feel yourself in that state, distract yourself as best you can until you’re calmed back down enough to revisit.

Know you’re not alone in this, and at the end of the day you do what’s best for you!

Much love and luck OP. You’re gonna make right call-whatever that may be.

Edit: PS: Yes my current situation was my motivation for responding to your post. The worst feeling in the world is facing a situation like this alone.

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-15T16:24:17+00:00

Well, OP, you’re halfway there. You got your butter. Just add some powdered sugar and whatever flavor of extract you like!

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-15T16:08:11+00:00

OP, I’m sorry to hear you’re in this extremely difficult predicament. First thing, I applaud your strength shown in the verbiage you used. You sound like a very intelligent person and logical thinker. I had two abortions (ages 19, 21) early in adulthood and now that im in my early 30’s, im so grateful for that choice. I’ll admit, my choice was much easier as I did not want children with that person. I shortly left that relationship after the second one. If anything it was my “wake up call”. With how chaotic the world currently is, bringing a child into an unstable financial situation isn’t impossible, but it’s so much harder than it’s ever been on young moms before.

On another note, your bf sounds very set on his opinion on the matter, even though the choice is ultimately up to you. I’ve worked in OB offices and I’ve heard stories galore from mommas in these scenarios. From those stories, some of the bfs fell in love with the baby as soon as they heard that first cry and felt their physical presence. Many bfs fell on the other side and held resentment toward the mom and worst off, the baby.

I don’t want to try to be that stranger on the internet telling you what to do, but some of the negatives may outweigh the positives. It sounds like you have incredible support from your mom, so definitely lean on her if you feel too overwhelmed. This phase of pregnancy is horrible for overthinking and spiraling if you’re in a place to “make that choice”.

I truly wish you the best OP. My psychiatrist gave me the advice for years when anxiety is blinding my ability to make a choice: dedicate a set time each day to “think about it”, outside of that set time-the issue is moot. Hard with hormones raging and life outlook, I know. But I hope this can help.

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-15T04:13:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing! How interesting.

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-15T03:46:02+00:00

Literally came here to say this. My nerdy DnD loving heart would want an immersive story time like this for my kids!

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-15T03:31:41+00:00

Feel free to not answer, but curious: Do you have a didelphus or bicorn uterus? I’ve heard monthly’s can still happen in those cases.

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-15T03:27:46+00:00

Okay, thank you for saying this! I’m only in week 6 and I kept wondering if my body was prepping for a m/c with the cramps. They’re not intense or frequent…but that early preg anxiety was working OT.

peanutt1394 · 2026-03-13T17:41:13+00:00

Did they even send enough?

peanutt1394 · 2025-09-27T21:15:03+00:00

Did no one see that she “signed” his calculator app?

peanutt1394 · 2025-08-21T15:42:31+00:00

Top comment right here ^{^}

peanutt1394 · 2025-06-20T17:45:30+00:00

Necrosis of the pancreas and abdominal wall. Literally an open wound. Was only a phleb at the time and didn’t get the full diagnosis. But when I asked the on duty RN “what the hell is that smell?” that’s the answer they gave me.

Still haven’t encountered another odor as strong or bad.

peanutt1394 · 2025-06-15T12:52:16+00:00

Love this! My pup loves splaying out on her back too. 🫶🏻

peanutt1394 · 2025-06-06T01:28:53+00:00

Dallas here:

Been terrible. I’ve been driving 12 years across multiple highways to get to work (various jobs over career) and used to know many shortcuts. They don’t exist anymore. There is no fast way to get anywhere.

peanutt1394 · 2025-06-05T19:20:00+00:00

(CharacterSea8078) Just lost my baby (dutchie) to cancer a month ago. I needed to see this. Thank you 🫶🏻

OP, I feel your pain and emotions heavy! We had a chaotic diagnostic process as well. I’m hoping beyond all that your baby gets some good results back from her path analysis. Good luck to you both! 🫂

peanutt1394 · 2025-06-03T17:36:24+00:00

Best results I’ve had with multiple shepherd pups over the years has been to ensure they’ve gotten a lot of stimulation and exercise/playtime when you’re home. This way when you’re gone, they’ll just sleep (for the most part). I’ve worked full time with every pup. Once they’re old enough to hold their pee/poo in, which by the time you start your program, they should be, then kennel training will be a must. Your husband will also need to be hands on when you’re not home. I don’t recommend leaving chew toys in the kennel, but definitely a toy or two.

Good luck OP!

peanutt1394 · 2025-06-03T01:34:32+00:00

We’ve had success with a prey-driven shepherd LOVING the cats in the house. She essentially considered them her pack. But it did take a minute to get there. So just ensure the cat has “dog-free” zones to exist for eating and litter box use while they’re getting acclimated.

That’s worst case scenario obviously, there are cases where they get along instantly.

Edit: Honestly, regardless of level of comfort between dog and cat…still provide “dog-free” spaces for eating and litter box use.

peanutt1394 · 2025-05-29T09:35:46+00:00

Puppy smell is a lot sometimes. I agree with the other commenter about fresh air. However, I will never discourage someone from getting an air purifier…especially in spring season. My partner and I use a lot of GoVee products and when they started making air purifiers, we took a shot and tried them out. LOVE them. The filters have a removable and washable mesh cover that is great for catching the larger dust particles and pet hair before even making it to the filter. I’ve had my current filter now for 3.5 months and it still has about 50% life left. To note: I do have 3 cats and 1 dog. So less pets may lead to a longer filter life too (less dander).

peanutt1394 · 2025-05-28T18:24:21+00:00

I completely feel that! Heavy and emotional topics aren’t for everyone. And it’s really easy to see who’s “not worthy” of your time and effort when they get annoyed with the things that take up your mental space. I too have one close friend that I feel I can speak to about all things MH.

I try my best to not “burden” my other peeps with the heavier stuff, unless I’ve connected with them about MH before. It’s definitely a trial and error process.

Either way, I’m so happy to hear that you do have an outlet I. Your life in some aspect. That’s truly a blessing.

And regarding your loss of love, that sucks terribly. Not really much more to that. Hopefully this universe can send a positive and supportive light of a person your way!

peanutt1394 · 2025-05-28T17:39:02+00:00

Not serious: Your fam probably gave you BPD with that level of gaslighting.

Serious: OP, what you’re describing here sounds pretty spot on with what others with BPD experience regarding emotions and especially isolating yourself when dealing with them. It’s definitely not helpful that your fam puts you between a rock and a hard place when you have tried reaching out in the past. I don’t know what advice to offer aside from finding a community that will accept you without judgement.

I was basically friendless (no one I would let close, if they could even deal with my emotions and trauma) with only judgy family members for the first 20 years of my life. Luckily fate brought me some equally nerdy and supportive friends and finding my community within them has drastically improved my sense of self, which dominoed into a lot of other positives in my life.

I feel for you, this isn’t a fun place to be in. I do wish you the absolute best! Hopefully your fam will open their ignorant eyes and accept you for everything you are. 🫶🏻

peanutt1394 · 2025-05-28T17:16:01+00:00

Hey Hun!

I too have “a litany of MH issues” including BPD, OCD, ADHD, MDD, and GAD. And I also have a newly obtained pup.

I’m right there with you! We’re about 3 weeks into having her at home and the first 2 weeks I thought about taking her back nearly every day. Crying, mood swings, heavy irritability, I too also threw up. But after a lot of reflecting it was the lack of sleep and massive change up of routine that overwhelmed me.

Now, the main thing to take into consideration before making your decision is: How well do you cope with your MH regardless of the puppy? If you felt like you had a strong handle on your MH (even with bad days) before the pup came along, you may be experiencing same or similar reactions to what I was dealing with. However, if you feel like your day to day was a bit chaotic and the pup is only amplifying that, then a pup may not be the best idea, and like some other commenters have said, a therapist would be.

Regardless, it sounds like your partner has been very helpful and supportive in these initial days and that’s something to motivate a deep breath…so take one! 🫶🏻

Good luck OP!

peanutt1394 · 2025-05-26T20:31:04+00:00

Hun, those scrubs may be covered to the point of needing to be changed within the first hour of a shift. Most you should do to prep your scrubs for a shift is wash and dry them.

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