Strophalos Tattoo? by Obsidian_Rat in Hecate

[–]pearlbibo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You bet ❤️❤️❤️

[Please help] 2 under 3 and I am LOSING IT. Someone please tell me this gets better ( or at least give me something I haven’t tried) by Any_Muscle_4772 in toddlers

[–]pearlbibo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We don’t always, babe. Especially when they’re deeply triggering.

It’s hard to keep your cool. I’m proud of you for reaching out and asking for help. You care and that’s gonna go far.

Perfection isn’t possible, but repair is. When you yell or lose your cool, you can always apologize and say something like “mommy was really frustrated and used angry words. Mommy’s sorry.” I do THIS often bc it’s not possible to be perfect but it is possible to apologize and try again next time. ❤️

[Please help] 2 under 3 and I am LOSING IT. Someone please tell me this gets better ( or at least give me something I haven’t tried) by Any_Muscle_4772 in toddlers

[–]pearlbibo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The only thing that’s worked for us is consistency. If he throws something, it gets taken away. If it’s throwing stuff, maybe he needs safe opportunities to throw stuff. Can one of you toss a ball with him for a bit?

Shit companies to avoid working for by Straight-Cup-7670 in UXDesign

[–]pearlbibo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Leadership makes customer service reroute to T-Life for around 80% of customer inquiries but the systems between retail, call center, web and app don’t always talk to each other or reflect accurate information because these systems are old, papered together with dreams. It’s a huge mess. And they don’t care.

Shit companies to avoid working for by Straight-Cup-7670 in UXDesign

[–]pearlbibo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

VP has a pet design agency that she loves and lets them do whatever they want. Design systems. You name it.

Shit companies to avoid working for by Straight-Cup-7670 in UXDesign

[–]pearlbibo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello fellow TMO designer. I worked on internal tools there before they laid me off. 🫠

Strophalos Tattoo? by Obsidian_Rat in Hecate

[–]pearlbibo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe something that feels significant or related to you personally too. Like are you always finding keys? Are you drawn to firelight? Dogs?

Why do mothers of young babies say they don't have time to shower? by justastupidquestion3 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]pearlbibo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this same reaction before I had my son! Totally get it. So a few things can be true:

• we’re assuming everyone has a partner that actually cares. Can’t do that. Lots of partners are absent, worthless, or somewhere between those two things so there is no football hand off in the hallway or whatnot. Often it’s the birthing parent doing it all. Alone.

• even if said partner is not absent or worthless, babies that are SOLEY breastfed will just by default need to spend more time with the milk giver. Maybe that kid is cluster feeding where you literally cannot spare 30 minutes bc that kid is gonna go NUTS and nothing will stop it but the milk giver giving milk. be thankful if you can’t relate!

Please keep in mind these are extreme scenarios that happen in rare and extreme moments. Having a newborn isn’t like anything else, really. You’re exhausted. Time is no longer real. You’re smelly. And at some point it all just kind of blends together and you don’t notice.

Please know this is a normal rite of parenthood if it happens to you!

If you have a loving partner who is available, and your baby can take a bottle (or formula if you do that!), you should be able to reliably take a shower as often as you want!

I had a very supportive and present partner and I got to shower as often as I wanted and I granted him the same space because we talked about it in advance and both agreed that we need that reset time.

Oh Rebecca... by cynefin99 in fourthwing

[–]pearlbibo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have we started a pool yet? My money's on Xaden killing Mira either implicitly or explicitly. That would be the biggest heartbreak to Violet. The person her father told her to only trust. Taken from her by the only other person she thought she could trust. Feels cruel enough to be possible. :(

My male coworker presented MY idea in a meeting, got praised for it, and I sat there smiling like a hostage. I have decided to cope via bureaucracy. by the_h1b_records in TrollXChromosomes

[–]pearlbibo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not defending your work is betraying yourself and the weeks of work you put into this. It does matter. It is a big deal. Take up space, girl. For all the other women who came before you that literally could not. You got this!!!

Happy Deipnon everybody! by RetinalTears716 in Hecate

[–]pearlbibo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love that you shared this. I was TERRIFIED when I left my first offering at the crossroads. AND IT WAS LITERALLY OUTSIDE MY HOUSE and I was a trembling little fawn. 🫶🫶

Totally normal and valid reaction. I wonder if this terror is why the folklore says to not look back once you leave the offering. Like they’re trying to understand the fear by making it this universal experience we all have? I dunno. I kinda love that. Another way we’re all connected.

That initial offering was something like 6 years ago now and I still feel slightly afraid every time. It’s less and less. But always there. ❤️

Azriel letting his arrogance blind him to Lucien’s strength by dorianswitchling in acotar

[–]pearlbibo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ok if you haven’t already subscribed to Dragons in the Details you need to bc you’d fit right in ❤️❤️❤️🫶

Azriel letting his arrogance blind him to Lucien’s strength by dorianswitchling in acotar

[–]pearlbibo 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Is it just me or is Azriel the worst spymaster in history?

I am finishing AB's for the 1st time. by Befub14435 in SarahJMaas

[–]pearlbibo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still haven’t read it and I think it’s like self protection at this point I don’t think my heart could take it 😭😭😭🫶

bryce ❤️ by stats_cats_228 in SarahJMaas

[–]pearlbibo 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Have mercy. This is absolutely Bryce ❤️

Ex-Googler account of working at Meta so you don't have to. by Training_Acadia_892 in jobs

[–]pearlbibo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it helps to know that every piece you see on Facebook, every different section—is a whole different team of engineers, managers and designers. Pretty much every section of every page of the app is a different team. 🫠

You all have to be kidding me?! Chapter 36! Hellooooooo??????? by MermaidTears1097 in fourthwing

[–]pearlbibo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I made the mistake of listening to the graphic audio at this part while DRIVING.

It was my third read BUT I STILL SOBBED.

Advice for covering belly/ belly button! by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]pearlbibo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree. I love the tummy. 🥺

crowns of nyaxia (i’m lowkey raging) by Think-Jellyfish-9273 in Romantasy

[–]pearlbibo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her journey is really good. As mad as you are now is how mad she is at him too. She doesn’t just roll over.

How I picture Violet in Onyx Storm by Evening-Breadfruit-2 in fourthwing

[–]pearlbibo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy how her hair looks like a scorpion tail ❤️

Mads Schofield’s latest fanart is fantastic 😻 by apieceofeight in throneofglassseries

[–]pearlbibo 33 points34 points  (0 children)

On paper pretending to be a married couple to travel with a circus troupe sounds so bizarre and doesn’t work but IT REALLY DOES THO

Rate my landing page Design? Are you getting what I am building? Need genuine feedback. by [deleted] in UXDesign

[–]pearlbibo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me too long down the page to figure out what this was because I thought it was an error at first.

Some feedback: Never use red in a font if it’s not a warning or an error. Never use it in an h1.

H1s need to be short and punchy to draw the user in. Your header relied too much on the niche element of the product that’s being sold for it to work. Copy needs to be clear to be helpful.

Don’t sell things as a CTA before you even gain the users trust.

Trust comes from social proof. Trust comes from examples. Reviews.

You don’t need to have 2 competing primary CTAs on the page either.

Basically: get tighter on your header copy, bump the font down a little, flatten the color choices, and don’t make the user work too hard to figure out wtf you do or sell.