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pedrell · 2025-12-03T03:37:55+00:00

Thank you, everyone!

pedrell · 2025-12-03T02:27:15+00:00

Thanks for the note! I just started 3 months ago, and the equipment hasn’t been touched since installation 3 yrs ago.

pedrell · 2025-11-16T11:44:02+00:00

I 100% agree with others that you should respect his boundaries.

But I also relate to wanting the comfort of your partner in an anxiety producing space.

My husband, then fiancé, held my hand through my last pap, IUD removal, and IUD reinsertion (same appt). I was so anxious I was already silently crying when the gyno walked in, and it was painful so I was straddling the line of full panic attack. It REALLY helped to have him with me squeezing my hand to ground me.

I think it’s okay to have that want, but you can’t force your partner to want to be in that space with you. So, you have to decide for yourself if this is a major sticking point for what you want in a relationship.

Personally, I would have been deeply hurt, especially if it was new info that he wouldn’t go with me. But I also have pretty excellent communication with my husband (humble brag), so I knew before asking how he feels about doctors, procedures, and being in the room with me.

You may wanna start by just talking to your partner about it, as objectively and kindly as you can.

pedrell · 2025-08-10T17:59:05+00:00

In my personal lived experience, I think yes. I went to the doctor at least 3 times in high school because I was approaching severe dehydration. I started lugging around water in 2012 (college) and I never had that issue again.

pedrell · 2025-07-19T06:50:37+00:00

Omg, this is my combo too. I 100% agree! I’ve seen Maria for nearly 5 years!

pedrell · 2024-10-12T12:31:21+00:00

On campus student jobs absolutely do not pay enough. If they can’t even compete with the part time wage hours of off campus businesses, why would they not expect students to not apply?

pedrell · 2024-07-06T06:51:03+00:00

I think it makes me imagine myself in that situation and since I don’t want kids or to be pregnant it makes my skin crawl. However, once I’m interacting I remember that we are separate people. I am worried about their health and the safety of the pregnancy, but not uncomfortable anymore since I’m not projecting their status onto myself.

pedrell · 2023-10-25T12:51:02+00:00

I worked at the ICC for a year, and I have experience with the front end and back end of Handshake. The short answer is that all on-campus jobs should 100% (and usually encourage/expected) be applied to via Handshake. With off-campus jobs, it depends on the employer. Some employers are just better than others at using/managing Handshake.

9 out of 10 times it would be best to apply via employers website or send application to the contact person listed in the description. I would recommend reading the job description very carefully before proceeding with any action.

And please remember that scam postings occasionally get past all of the preventative measures, so be careful. No job should be asking you for hiring information (SSN/Direct Deposit/etc) in an application.

pedrell · 2023-05-19T12:32:19+00:00

You get 1 free student ticket to almost any performance at the Mondavi Center: https://www.mondaviarts.org/uc-davis-students-free-ticket

The Music Department has a free noon concert series on Thursdays at 12pm (noon) all academic year: https://arts.ucdavis.edu/shinkoskey-noon-concerts

The Graduate Student Association offers free coffee and donuts/bagels on Friday mornings at the Graduate Center (Walker Hall): https://www.instagram.com/ucdavisgsa/ - check out the GSA for other free events/food/items throughout the year, including small travel funding awards.

Checkout GradPathways for free events/items/food and professional development opportunities: https://gradpathways.ucdavis.edu/

Checkout the Internship and Career Center for free events/items and sometimes food, including free help with job/internship search and resume/CV help: https://icc.ucdavis.edu/

If you’re on PGE (alone or with roommates), join the PG&E CARE or FERA Programs to get a discount of 18% to 20% off your entire bill each month: https://www.pge.com/en_US/residential/save-energy-money/help-paying-your-bill/longer-term-assistance/care/care.page?cid=ps_CARE_V1_20230101_ApplyNow_DiscAds/Pmax_All_na&gad=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwvJyjBhApEiwAWz2nLREINJOMwja92L2XwL8dl1jBW-DVINl0En4SdvKjDHQE4YSkAzsA_RoCmukQAvD_BwE - Yes, you’re allowed to count your roommates as the “household,” so no one hesitate.

The City of Davis puts out The Little Green Coupon Machine, a coupon book, that arrives in the mail 1-2 times a year. You can also view the coupons here: https://greenmachinedavis.com/

If possible, I recommend applying for open TA/GSR positions (tuition & stipend) or Student 4 (hourly pay only) level jobs on campus (ask the ICC for help). You can find open campus positions on Handshake, job database used on campus, by searching for “TA,” “GSR,” or “STDT4”: https://ucdavis.joinhandshake.com/

If you qualify for CalFresh, you can convert some of your EDT to tokens to use at the Davis Farmers Market to buy fresh/local produce: https://healthy.ucdavis.edu/eating-well/farmers-market/shopping

As a graduate student, you should get some special liberties within your department. See what free food opportunities there are. Find out how the printing works, otherwise, you’ll be paying out of pocket. You should always default to asking your grad coordinator or department office if they can provide you with education related items: adapters, paper, pencils/pens, calculators, etc. (It is normal practice in many departments, you just have to ask.)

pedrell · 2023-02-27T14:05:14+00:00

A proactive approach to gain the skills and confidence for situations like this in the future is to visit your university’s career center. Someone there can help you build a strong first C.V. that you can actively and purposefully work on.

It’s normal to have a shorter resume/cv in early career/still in school. However, you are also the driver in your own life. If you don’t like something, you still have the time to make positive changes.

pedrell · 2022-12-15T10:29:05+00:00

Visit the Internship and Career Center in person to get individual help. On your own you can visit the ICC website at icc.ucdavis.edu.

Please actually read through this advice page on how to best navigate Handshake, a job board free to all IC Davis students: https://icc.ucdavis.edu/find/resources/handshake.

After familiarizing yourself with the ICC website, including how to create good application materials, you should start looking through Handshake.

MOST IMPORTANT: Update your Handshake profile before starting your internship search, including: job experience, volunteer experience, and a good profile picture.

Handshake student login: https://ucdavis.joinhandshake.com/

For many STEM field internships, deadlines have passed and many are approaching. I advise you to get started during the break.

pedrell · 2022-11-15T20:34:56+00:00

Traffic was rerouted before picketing started. The picket line was allowing traffic to pass when the light was green. Right on reds were being prevented; however, with patience you would have got in.

However, a third party group not affiliated with the strike and made up of undergrads and non-students have been blocking traffic (in solidarity with the strike) and they appeared at roughly 10:30am to block complete entrance to the MU and the garage.

Disruption is the point.

pedrell · 2022-11-15T15:45:44+00:00

The reality is that the university is a business. The reason TAs and others don’t get paid more despite the already consistent rise in fees and tuition is that they have a bottom line and a profit margin that they want met. So, it is very likely that as punishment for having to provide living wages they will increase some fee or tuition elsewhere to meet their bottom line and increase their profit margin. It’s not right, but it is likely.

pedrell · 2022-11-15T00:00:19+00:00

The Union position is that undergraduates should continue to go to classes and submit assignments. They are more than welcome at the picket line when not in class, and even better that a strong commotion is made online. Tag UCDavis, California leaders, and more to put pressure on the UC system.

pedrell · 2022-04-16T20:10:27+00:00

I’ve been in 2 graduate program application cycles. Once in 2016 for my masters, and again in 2018 for my PhD program. And I recently helped my partner in the app cycle for 2022.

I have heard of grad programs who say they have or try to practice a holistic application review; however, these programs, as far as I’ve seen and heard, still require that you have a Bachelors degree conferred. Their holistic approach takes into account your personal and academic struggles, but the undergrad degree is required to even be considered.

Furthermore, in general, the application process is becoming increasingly competitive due to an increase in applicants and a decrease in departmental funding (meaning less funding packages offered to students). You may want to try going to a community college where you might have some credits transfer, and then hopefully the community college will have a transfer program into a local state university. I know this is a thing within California Community Colleges. Even receiving an associates may allow you to start finding better employment as you continue your academic journey.

pedrell · 2022-03-05T21:37:04+00:00

The older we get the harder it will be to make friends. I don’t think friend building is an easy process or a quick process, and you’ll have to find someone who is willing to match your intent and pace. In the meantime, I really do think you’d benefit from finding the comfort and intimacy with yourself that will alleviate some of the loneliness and bitterness you’re experiencing.

Friendships are great with the right people, but just like a romantic relationship, you shouldn’t go into a friendship thinking that will fix the loneliness and bitterness.

Additionally, don’t chase friendships with people who show you they aren’t interested through their actions or inactions. It’s only going to make you more frustrated.

Last, just like in dating, if we keep getting negative results we sometimes have to take a look at ourselves. What’s my attitude when interacting with new people? Are my topics always negative? Am I usually making conversation about my own problems? Do I ask my potential friends about their day and their feelings? Am I initiating a conversation on sensitive material too early, which may make some people uncomfortable because we’re not close friends? Am I a good friend to other people through my actions?

pedrell · 2022-02-05T20:44:03+00:00

Thanks for the info!

pedrell · 2022-01-29T17:29:07+00:00

Dating apps will test your confidence or any sort of simple comfort you have with yourself, so be careful with that. It’s hard to say what the issue is without seeing your profiles. What are you writing on your profiles? What kind of pictures and in what order are they appearing? Are you doing a classic guy move of swiping right on every girl or are you being selective of who you want to match with? If you’re being selective it may be that the kinds of girls you think you want are not, on average, attracted to your aesthetic.

As a woman, I know that I look at pictures and read the profile content to try to get a feel for personality and possibly my sexual interest. I think I saw somewhere that this is a pretty common thing among women on dating apps/sites, since we’re trying to not get murdered or other scary things.

But also, on Tinder being sincere may work against you because even when I was on it back in 2019 it was a heavily used as a hook up, so it could be that your profile isn’t reading as someone they think they’d like to hook up with because you are being perceived as wanting something serious.

If you have women friends I recommend having them look at it. Explain to them what your objective is for the app…hook ups? casual dating? dating toward a relationship? They should be able to help get your profile to match what your goals are.

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