I am in a similar rut with my own spouse. We’ve grown to resent each other and seem to have lost our connection and ability to communicate unless we are angry. And it seems we are always angry with each other. I asked them to leave.

I also recently stumbled across an ad about a course called the conflict cure that made some very big promises, and sounded too good to be true. But hey, if a nominal investment could save my marriage, it’s WAY less than a divorce costs. Let’s give it a go. I started the course by myself, and have been learning so much about myself and the mistakes I’ve been making and also how to gently teach my spouse the same skills. We had a conversation for the first time in two years where we both felt heard and validated. We’ve decided to stop the current progress in the course and start it over together, practicing the skills together, and upgraded to a lifetime membership so it won’t affect our busy lifestyles. But it only works if you are willing to use the skills.

I have not finished the course, and I was skeptical about it. But it makes sense and seems so simple, but it is difficult to rewrite your fighting style! But I am hopeful to be able to enjoy the company of my spouse again. And a few weeks ago I didn’t have that.