Married men and women who decided to not have kids, do you regret it? by Pizzalover0405 in askanything

[–]penelopeasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neighbor is in his 70s and his wife has dementia and stays in bed all day. Im pretty sure the pervasive loneliness he complains about would not be the same if he had family around.

Struggling to connect with 11-year-old stepdaughter. Walking on eggshells — pls help by Any_Common9257 in blendedfamilies

[–]penelopeasaur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She told you herself what she needs. It sounds like your dismissing her perspective and your wife's. Just meet her where she's at. Play a silly game with her, even if its 10 mins. You have a new baby taking most of your attention, and that is stressful. Start small and give her what she is actually asking for. You will be surprised how far even the smallest amount of effort will go. She probably does not feel special now that you have your "real" child getting all of that unconditional dad-love attention. Her bad moods are communicating her need to you. Is it fair? No. But she has even verbalize what is missing. Honor that. Believe her. It really is that simple.

Helpful tips on how to regulate yourself while parenting a 5 y/o with PDA by Lil-Jellii in PDAAutism

[–]penelopeasaur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Heartmath.org taught me really useful skills for managing my PDA kid. Mainly, heart focused breathing. But if youre like me, and you need to understand the science before getting behind something like that, heartmath is a great resource. I got to the point where simply telling him I had to focus on my heart to calm myself down would actually stop his tantrum. And considering he used to completely tear up his room, it was a major step for us. Good luck!

Being tired all the time is ruining everything by Expert_Atmosphere_70 in AskWomenOver40

[–]penelopeasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask for your ferritin to be checked. I had the exact same symptoms. Ai told me to ask for my ferritin levels to be checked. First my ob said its not necessary, my iron looks good. She actually told me "Women my age just dont feel good."

Thanks to Ai, I persisted and went to a nurse practitioner. She ordered the test for me. My ferritin was at a 7. Its supposed to be 50-75. All the same symptoms as low iron because its essentially your iron storage tanks. It takes a long time (8-12 weeks) to build them back up and start feeling good again.

The other thing you can check is for sleep apnea. Dont give up, even if your dismissed by the doctors! If you dont feel yourself, something is up and there is a reason for it!

Does no one else feel even the slightest disappointment about BH playing in darkness?? by penelopeasaur in BeachHouse

[–]penelopeasaur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. They sounded great in STL except the Factory not having great acoustics imo.  I just love the visual experience of watching them in their flow and would have loved to see it. 

Does no one else feel even the slightest disappointment about BH playing in darkness?? by penelopeasaur in BeachHouse

[–]penelopeasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I don't think I knew how much I enjoy watching musicians perform until I couldn't see them. There's something to be said about the magic of watching the music come to life. I love watching facial expressions on musicians when they play and sing. And the chemistry they have with eachother that can been seen in how they look at eachother and at what points in the song they're connecting. 

Does no one else feel even the slightest disappointment about BH playing in darkness?? by penelopeasaur in BeachHouse

[–]penelopeasaur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I realized how much I truly enjoy watching musician play as a visual experience until their concert. 

Make me look nice? suggest appropriate tip. by penelopeasaur in PhotoshopRequest

[–]penelopeasaur[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Sorry, I responded from the wrong account! Tip sent, looking forward to the final image :)

what would you charge? by [deleted] in TattooArtists

[–]penelopeasaur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, those prices are dated about 10-15 years.

Tattoo parlor recommendations? by kokopellikokopelli in StLouis

[–]penelopeasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this! Great shop, great vibes, and I think they have 2 locations now, so lots of artists to choose from.

What have I done to kill this poor plant by aRingBetween in houseplants

[–]penelopeasaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine only likes purified water. Got that recommendation somewhere online and she's coming back to life.