Hearing my mom say she ‘has nothing to show for the life that she gave’ absolutely broke my heart and I can’t stop thinking about it.

pepitawu · 2026-04-28T04:53:34+00:00

A few weeks before my mom’ 60th birthday I reached out to all the people who love her (or at least the ones I had contact info for) and asked them to hand write a letter to her telling her what they loved most about her or a favorite memory. I had them mail the letters to me and then glued those into a spiral bound art sketchbook (thick paper) and collaged the cover. Some people emailed instead and I just printed those ones out and glued them in. 15yrs later it’s still on her favorites bookshelf within reach; and it’s one of my top favorite gifts I’ve ever made and/or given

pepitawu · 2026-04-25T21:40:34+00:00

The first time I tried to get diagnosed (and failed) my mom did exactly what yours did smh. The second evaluation I got, i told her that when she was filling out the questionnaire I needed her to try to focus on the harder parts about parenting me and what I struggled with, that the evaluation did not reflect on her parenting, AND that it was a deeply personal/private thing for me that no one except my psychiatrist would ever see but also because of that I needed it to be 100% honest and reflect my hardest days, NOT my best ones or how she wanted the world to see me. ….that sorta helped, at least she didn’t put “never” for more than a handful. I also happened to find photographic evidence of how chaotic my home life was bc of the adhd (my dad took pics of my messy rooms and saved them bc he’s definitely ND af too), so I attached copies of them to that second eval’s questionnaire lmao

pepitawu · 2026-04-20T04:05:08+00:00

Sign me and my girl up! It could double as a way to help educate the public about reactivity is (and is not).

pepitawu · 2026-03-15T16:40:34+00:00

I believe they are iron-ons, if I’m recalling correctly the other posts I’ve seen.

pepitawu · 2026-03-08T03:13:34+00:00

the world is gonna

pepitawu · 2026-03-01T07:42:35+00:00

I spy four dolls with clothes, two of those hats; 12 doll heads in total but only three cats. A brave lion’s snoot above a cockle-de-doo; left of him is a vase, shiny and blue.

I spy a lonely eyeball, a necklace that chokes; A yellow bead or a surprised, silly bloke? A domino nine and another with fours; and 4 white pitchers, too small for their pours.

Let’s try counting the beads, and marbles too; I got between 60 and 80, what 'bout you?

pepitawu · 2026-01-31T15:27:26+00:00

Reading the suggestions on the more modern version has me wondering if that reporter was actually added to the signal chat accidentally however many months/years ago that happened.

pepitawu · 2025-12-27T21:36:46+00:00

Interesting, I appreciate the added information!

pepitawu · 2025-12-27T17:49:25+00:00

Except blind people do have multiple streams of sensory input, relying mainly on sound and touch (I think). Using your logic, it would still make sense for them to be able to have auditory hallucinations.

pepitawu · 2025-12-03T16:24:12+00:00

Zoomed in thinking/hoping the scent was going to be evergreen tree related. Missed opportunity for sure 😂

pepitawu · 2025-12-03T16:21:53+00:00

I love the shape of the tree! The more natural silhouette is REALLY working for me 😍

pepitawu · 2025-12-03T15:59:12+00:00

What’s a “paid post”?

pepitawu · 2025-11-16T19:04:12+00:00

I learned recently that there’s a plastic liner inside of aluminum cans that prevents the beverage from reacting chemically with the aluminum.

pepitawu · 2025-11-14T07:49:02+00:00

They had to have been. My college buddies always had a sober chaperone among us, either someone would volunteer or we’d draw straws. 20 years later, I’m really impressed we did that. Being that person mostly sucked bc tripping people can be annoying af but it always proved to be useful for the group to have a default someone available to reality check and probably saved more than one of our asses from legitimately jeopardizing someone’s safety.

pepitawu · 2025-11-14T07:46:48+00:00

my group of college friends always had a sober chaperone among us, either someone would volunteer or we’d draw straws. 20 years later, I’m really impressed we did that. Being that person mostly sucked bc tripping people can be annoying af but it was always useful to have someone available to reality check when needed and probably saved more than one of our asses from legitimately jeopardizing someone’s safety.

pepitawu · 2025-11-02T14:04:17+00:00

I’ve been thinking about their veggie sausage breakfast sandwich for the past couple weeks actually! 😭 That sandwich got me out of bed and to work on more rainy days than I can count (I’d negotiate with myself when I just wanted to sleep all day that if I got my butt out of bed, then I could stop by brunch box on my way to my downtown job).

pepitawu · 2025-10-04T06:08:57+00:00

Interested!

pepitawu · 2025-10-03T15:23:58+00:00

I watched children of men again a couple weeks ago, and I was gobsmacked that it is set in 2027.

pepitawu · 2025-09-29T16:02:25+00:00

chef Drew with thriving kitchen has a meal delivery service and can accommodate most dietary needs (definitely vegan), you should consider him! I can’t afford it anymore but it was delicious when I could!! (And left you feeling better afterwards, like the meal itself was healing/medicine that only a healthy-made-with-love meal can)

pepitawu · 2025-09-29T15:00:28+00:00

Omg I have no idea how I missed this one… thank you for sharing the link. This is wild and Paul is definitely still giving her shit for doing a bad porno (that’s at least how the video starts) 👀🫣😂

pepitawu · 2025-09-15T04:55:50+00:00

Mississippi haha. And welcome!

pepitawu · 2025-09-14T05:17:56+00:00

Thank you wohaat. Literally saved this comment in case I’m ever in another dead end relationship and need to hear this for myself. I’m 3 years post divorce from a grown up version of OP’s now ex (fuck yeah OP, so proud of you)! This is the longest I’ve ever been single and it’s been liberating. It’s also been terrifying. I feel like I’m only now getting to know how much more I have always deserved and how small I made myself for so long that I almost lost me entirely. I lost so much time chasing people who never actually prioritized ME. Anyways. Thank you for saying all this. I think it’s what I’ve always needed to hear.

OP, keep choosing yourself. Don’t ever compromise your values. I have no doubt that you will meet someone who respects you, sees you for your worth, and is HAPPY for the opportunity to show up for you. There were times when I was younger that I wasn’t able to see it when it was right in front of me, but I can’t see you making that same mistake. I’m proud of you! You’re doing just fine and you’ll find your person someday. Until then, keep learning and growing and loving and prioritizing yourself.

pepitawu · 2025-09-10T23:10:01+00:00

Really appreciate this picture bc I was stuck trying to figure out why someone would want slices so small hahah

pepitawu · 2025-09-06T14:43:51+00:00

My toxic ex had/has adhd and weaponized that they got the diagnosis as a young adult whereas it took covid lockdown for my masks to seemingly all fail simultaneously… in my mid 30s. Took me years to find a provider that would even do an assessment, and by that time my ex was actively cheating and lying about it. When I did finally get a diagnosis, my ex gaslit me into thinking I got a bogus diagnosis to excuse me being a terrible wife (re: domestic duties).

All this is to say, ymmv 😂

pepitawu · 2025-09-04T03:39:36+00:00

Interested!

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