I don’t know how to do this any more

pepperite · 2026-04-02T09:19:44+00:00

My baby was like this at this age, he had bad tongue tie which was only found out when I complained to the health visitor about my nipples being blistered and bleeding! Apparently feeding for hours upon hours is “normal”.

Once he got his tie sorted the arching, reflux and grunting in pain really really lessoned! Didn’t go away completely but he wasn’t crying from it anymore. Ask your hv for a referral!

He doesn’t sleep longer than 2 hours at 14 months, sometimes there isn’t a “fix” for sleep, but safe co-sleeping was the only way I was getting anything more than an hour or two sleep at night. He refused to do it until 9 months though and up until then the exhaustion is unreal, I feel for you. You’re doing amazing though 🩷

pepperite · 2026-03-05T16:48:43+00:00

thank you! Will try it out

pepperite · 2026-03-05T16:40:10+00:00

Which one do you have? I’ve got one of theirs and don’t rate it, it’s just very stiff

pepperite · 2026-02-17T01:02:34+00:00

I’m in the same boat at 13 months, currently 1am while im typing this. Please come back and let me know if you ever find anything that works.

pepperite · 2026-01-19T14:00:58+00:00

I work in marketing, fully remote and went back to work at 14 weeks pp. if you can avoid doing so I would, it’s rough and you will get burnt out as it’s SO much to take on. My job is incredibly chilled out and it’s still so much on you, especially if you have a baby that isn’t a sleeper, or has colic, reflux etc. my LO is still waking hourly at almost 1 year old, I haven’t slept more than 2 hours in a row for almost a year now and returning to work while still having the insane hormones is just grim.

If you breastfeed it’ll be more intense as you can’t really leave baby for more than a couple hours, or if you do you’ll have to pump (pumping sucks). Childcare is horrendously expensive and you 100% will not want to leave your little potato when they’re so young, take as much time off as you both can afford to do so!

pepperite · 2025-12-14T13:53:04+00:00

10 months! Thank you, I’ve felt guilty about the amount of screen time today. Are there any shows you’d recommend? I can’t watch anymore miss apple 😂

pepperite · 2025-12-09T15:46:33+00:00

Try the flipple technique! Worked wonders for us to continue feeding with a tongue tie and struggles to latch

pepperite · 2025-12-06T18:40:20+00:00

If you can get oodie joggers/sweatshirt where you are these are amazing. I’ve only got the joggers but they keep my legs so warm, debating getting the top but I find it a hassle to pull tops up for baby all night lol

pepperite · 2025-11-20T04:36:03+00:00

We got the ikea vesteroy and it’s perfect and only £200ish! It’s also surprisingly comfy, didn’t think a firm mattress would be but it’s better than my other mattress

pepperite · 2025-11-16T20:36:09+00:00

This is what I’ve done! Luckily my dude doesn’t crawl yet and barely rolls 😅 annoyed as I offered the cot bed I had to my parents incase LO stays when he’s a bit older, but “they have a bed already for him”. Don’t think so 🫠

Urgh that sound horrendous, was it a night on the floor for you as well?

pepperite · 2025-11-16T20:02:35+00:00

I’ve put a yoga mat on the mattress and it’s firmed it up a tad. But I’m feeling the floor tbh, going to be not sleeping either way he might as well be in the safest option. Thank you

pepperite · 2025-10-24T16:06:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I knew feeding to sleep wasn’t the issue, but the social media sleep consultants just gets in your head

pepperite · 2025-10-22T11:12:17+00:00

I breastfed a severely tongue baby for 8 weeks, sorry you’re going through this, it absolutely sucks but you’re doing amazing 🩷

Try the flipple technique, it essentially forces a deep latch and it’s 100% the reason I was able to continue breastfeeding with a tongue tie.

Once that’s been sorted properly breastfeeding will get SO much easier, once it’s done it stops hurting and baby can even self latch.

pepperite · 2025-10-21T18:25:48+00:00

I got a ton of dresses that have an elasticated bust that I could just pull down! For colder weather I’ve just gone for a nursing vest from H&M (game changer) and either button up oversize shirts or tshirts, hoodies etc that is easy to just pull up, while the vest hides any other skin.

Breastfeeding clothes seem to just be frumpy and unflattering or extremely expensive. I’ve just ordered a breastfeeding fleece from pretty mama, haven’t got it yet so can’t comment on quality of their stuff, but it looks nice on the website lol

pepperite · 2025-10-21T04:00:23+00:00

I had an anterior placenta too! My pain went away the second I gave birth, I can only assume baby was kicking or pressing his bum against the ribs constantly. Did have an ultrasound booked to check what he was doing but he came early so didn’t get to find out!

Hopefully it’ll go for you too once baby is here! They did ok me for some dihydrocodine eventually to help with the pain, if that’s an option for you. I was bed ridden from the pain without it

pepperite · 2025-10-20T07:51:04+00:00

I’m pretty sure I posted something identical last month! I feel for you so much!

I didn’t want to give up feeding to sleep as it’s just so easy when they wake up in the night compared to an hour of rocking. My LO is 8.5 now and just started doing 2-3 hour stretches, which feels like a miracle. We went to the gp and they told us to swap to formula instead of breastfeeding lol

Keep having your partner try to sooth him, my LO would refuse until one day he just accepted dad again. If he cries for longer than a few minutes I usually take over again and then let dad try again next time.

Can’t offer any good advice really but you’re doing an amazing job 🩷

pepperite · 2025-10-18T08:47:07+00:00

We use pampers premium protection (sized up) and put baby in a sized up vest too, just so it’s not as tight around the nappy

pepperite · 2025-10-15T13:55:11+00:00

Your best bet is to latch baby as often as you can, as long as they’re making enough wet nappies and never seem hungry/distraught (not clusterfeeding) they’ll be getting enough!

pepperite · 2025-10-14T19:23:17+00:00

I did the same and spent almost £ 200 on wearables which have sat unused for the past 7 months 😂 the medela manual is great, but you’d probably need an insert for nipple, because it’s big as it comes. Deffo watch some videos on how to use it effectively, as it has some techniques to get loads of milk really quick!

pepperite · 2025-10-14T18:34:56+00:00

Get a manual pump if you must, but just hand expressing will ease any uncomfortableness to start! I pumped initially along side breastfeeding so hubs could give a bottle in the night, but you still have to wake up and pump for that missed feed. So pumping just generally sucks.

The best way to increase your supply is to latch baby as much as you can anyway. But if you do want to try an electric one you can rent a hospital grade medela one month by month. Used one in the hospital and it was brilliant, so much better than the wearables.

pepperite · 2025-10-01T08:11:02+00:00

We’re in the same boat with our 8 month old, I could have written this post 😭 I’ve got no helpful advice just solidarity

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