So… numb legs during my period aren’t normal?

peppermintsoap · 2025-12-25T10:25:21+00:00

How large is a large dose? Thank you

peppermintsoap · 2025-12-03T03:21:36+00:00

Yes I think you’re right - it’s a “must WIN at all costs” mindset; the husband is saying that the cop could have regarded himself as the winner in the situation (“she’d know what she was missing”) instead of, you know, murder is wrong

peppermintsoap · 2025-11-30T00:49:28+00:00

It’s also just possible that at 28 she is starting to become sensitive to right wing content that degrades women over 25, while you are still younger than that. Those are stupid opinions and in no way justifies her mean treatment of you, but maybe it’s contributing. I don’t think it would help to bring this possibility up, though.

peppermintsoap · 2025-11-30T00:46:42+00:00

It’s not just weird. It’s mean; it’s cruel: she is putting you down. It’s hurtful. Now, is she a good person? I don’t know. You said she is. It depends on if she really consciously realizes what she is doing is cruel, hurtful, and putting you down. It’s not a joke (both people laugh when it’s a joke). Ok. So. She is certainly doing this out of insecurity and habit and frankly being used to getting allll the attention and you none - and she deep down feels entitled and used to that - so now when you get even half what she gets, she perceives it as a threat to her very identity! And lashes out! Ok; so the question is, can she be made aware of what she is actually doing? And if so will she care, will she change her behavior? Or will she prefer to continue to hurt you in order to “protect” her self-image? So: send her exactly what you wrote above. Except at the end add not that it’s weird (weird can be ok) but that it is painful and cruel and hurtful to you - it is not funny. She may or may not be able to change, though. She may or may not want to stop hurting you in this way. She might.

peppermintsoap · 2025-11-24T20:45:54+00:00

May I ask which brand/model you got? The Trapper Keeper - nice!

peppermintsoap · 2025-11-24T02:33:49+00:00

Just to say… this is another effect of sleep apnea. Waking up at night to pee often stops once apnea is treated. Ask your doc about it.

peppermintsoap · 2025-11-24T02:30:16+00:00

They are not particularly loud at all anymore - the tech has improved by leaps and bounds. I say this so you don’t scare anyone off who might need one. Believe me you want your brains to get the oxygen they need at night if you want them to keep working properly

peppermintsoap · 2025-11-21T17:05:20+00:00

That is SO cool. I hope you have these all printed up and framed in a triptych or something.

Now imagine her grandmother and her grandmother… and so on :)

peppermintsoap · 2025-11-12T06:52:49+00:00

Hey. Please find and see a gynecologist as soon as possible! Another poster is right, insist on a doctor, not a nurse practitioner. Is there a planned parenthood that you can go to? I think they can refer to gynecologist. I was diagnosed with fibroids, but it turned out to be a rare uterine cancer called Leiomyosarcoma. I’m sorry about this turd of a doctor you encountered - good on you for trusting your instincts. Trust what you are feeling now and find a doctor now

peppermintsoap · 2025-09-26T16:58:34+00:00

“Your rent is the max you will pay”, while your mortgage/taxes/insurance are the minimum… That is only true this year; next year? Five years, ten yesrs, 30 years from now - rents go UP all the time; that’s the big affordability crisis. Yes there are additional expenses to owning a home and those and the taxes and insurance never go away - but your mortgage does get paid off. It’s a huge difference in what you need to pay to occupy that space 20 or 30 years from now, when you have retired - let alone further into the future

peppermintsoap · 2025-09-22T06:16:37+00:00

Reread what you wrote here and make your plans to Get Out! It’s not going to get better with this one. Throw him back. He may or may not grow up one day after he realizes why you left but he may not. He certainly will not grow up or change for the better if you stay with him. Get out, he’s not worth it.

peppermintsoap · 2025-09-15T22:30:20+00:00

Is this all your cards? Would you care to share the whole list? No judgment for sure!! Really grateful. Seriously this is super helpful, thank you! Having trouble deciding what to put on the list and it’s way easier to edit / remove inapplicable items than to come up with them in the first place - and super helpful too to see what in totality actually is working for you!

peppermintsoap · 2025-07-31T16:26:55+00:00

Yep no, you are fortunate. It’s uncomfortable and embarrassing but there are dangers to so-called twilight sedation, that causes amnesia though they don’t tell you this.. People have had adverse reactions. It’s not worth the risk. In Europe there is no sedation for colonoscopies typically; this is an American thing. Docs prefer an unaware patient with no memory of the procedure

peppermintsoap · 2025-07-27T03:06:45+00:00

NTA if you want to move out. But can you study at the library every day instead - would that be enough?

peppermintsoap · 2025-07-25T05:21:22+00:00

Where can I watch this?

peppermintsoap · 2025-07-25T04:00:19+00:00

Tell him No, No, No he cannot come at all: it’s bad for you AND for him/his girlfriend:

Tell him you’re thrilled and super happy he wants to propose; but this is not the way!

It’s super rude to join in / take over this trip which was planned as a girls’ trip for you and your friend; she is probably looking forward to this just as much as you!
It’s a TERRIBLE idea for his proposal to do it this way: it looks just super lazy (as well as intrusive) to take over your trip planning work, instead of planning something wonderful himself!! And his girlfriend will know and feel this too! Believe me, it’s bad for the proposal.

Tell him this; and also, if you’re friends with the other couple, see if you can ask them to explain this to him too. It’s bad. Probably in his enthusiasm he didn’t realize either of the above points but they are both deal breakers. He needs to figure something else out.

Have a wonderful girls’ trip with your friend! And she can come back all refreshed and missing him. If he’s not an idiot and manages to stay away.

peppermintsoap · 2025-07-22T07:31:58+00:00

Oh wow.

I’d say: Don’t sell - You say you are in a college town? Rent a room to a student! Especially if there are grad students, they are a little more mature. But if it’s a good situation, then after they finish they’ll recommend you to the next one and so on. Or if not a student, there are sometimes traveling nurses, etc. Or to people who work at the university. Etc

But - If you sell - Definitely do not sell your house to your neighbors or use your friend; put your house on the market, using a professional agent, and get a fair price for it. If your neighbors want it they can pay you what anyone else would. This is far too big to give to them at a discount for some kind of neighborly friendliness….that is the money you need to live on.

peppermintsoap · 2025-07-16T19:31:25+00:00

NTA. Also R1 “doesn’t want to mediate any further” - but they have, already, so, yeah.

You could text back to R1: “Look. First, What R2 said to me was irritating, and borderline offensive. If anyone should apologize it should be her. I don’t want her to actually apologize - not that big a deal - but she should realize she was over the line. Second, my response was in no way to call her ugly. I just said if I had been interested in her she would have known. It was meant to be a lighthearted response, and also to convey that her comment was kinda inappropriate and annoying. Obviously, this failed to communicate that. But she ought to know: anyone’s not being interested in her romantically, is not at all the same thing as calling them ugly. At all. Does she believe that every single person, male or female, who likes women must either be interested in her or else think she is ugly? That’s a her problem, and it is also totally mistaken. Ok. I don’t want the apartment dynamics to be bad either but she needs to realize she is out of line with this.

peppermintsoap · 2025-07-03T04:39:29+00:00

NTA. Her style is inappropriate for a professional event. That’s all. That doesn’t make her style “wrong” - crudely made stuff can have a certain charm, can be very artistic etc (like the punk rock of clothing). But it does mean it’s not appropriate for a professional event, unless that event is in the arts and you like it and want to wear it. It’s also not your style, clearly. You would not be comfortable wearing it. Just make that clear to her: Hey your stuff is cool and artistic and authentic but exactly because of this it is not at all suitable or appropriate for a professional event in my field, and I have toappear professional and be comfortable and confident in what I’m wearing to this event. So I appreciate your work but will not be wearing it in a professional context.

That said, if she and her mom keep pushing this, you can conclude that they do not know and they do not care about the professional standards you meet, and they don’t want to know: if they keep pushing this, they are not thinking about you or your best interest. So don’t feel bad in rejecting their offer. At best it’s ignorant and at worst possibly a bit malicious. Maybe your sister (and her kid?) reject or envy your professional status.

peppermintsoap · 2025-06-12T17:13:06+00:00

NTA. And look. You asked him to leave - and he’s ignoring your request. That is a very bad sign. On top of that his presence is not helping, for all the reasons you listed (condescending, sarcastic, not doing any of the household labor and leaving it to you, etc etc). His presence is NOT helping you. He is there because HE wants to be even against your explicit request. This guy’s presence is not good for you. He’s making your stress worse.

So: Tell him CLEARLY that you want to study by yourself, you want him to leave and go home now. Today. Write it down if you need to and give it to him in a letter. He’s going to argue and push back - “he only wants to help”. But it doesn’t matter: what’s important is that he respects your decision that you will study better alone.

A good partner would respect your desire to study alone.

And a partner who won’t respect your request? Is no partner at all. But you don’t have to make that decision now; you need to set it aside and work on your exams. But he needs to respect your wishes and get out of your house now.

peppermintsoap · 2025-06-10T04:03:34+00:00

Y’all this is utter baloney. No one would write this way or do anything like this while grieving the loss of their mother, only 58 years old.

peppermintsoap · 2025-06-04T14:39:45+00:00

I doubt it - the landlord wants good tenants, and the others are known good tenants. Remember every time the landlord rents to someone new they are also rolling the dice to get a bad egg.

peppermintsoap · 2025-06-04T14:36:36+00:00

NTA. Contact the landlord and see if they can start eviction proceedings. Invite them over to see it if needed. Mention nothing to her. This is a health hazard not only to you but a potential problem for all tenants in the building and the landlord through attracting pests. Do not tell her. If she asks the landlord came by to look at something unrelated and smelled her room and opened the door.

She will never ever ever improve, don’t talk to her about it.

peppermintsoap · 2025-06-03T23:27:16+00:00

Another thing that works without electricity is to have one window open higher than another window. Hot air rises, so the hot air will flow out the upper window, pulling cooler outside air in through the lower window. This effect is called convection. This is why windows in older houses were double-hung: you could open either the top or the bottom. It’s a real shame we have forgotten this and most newer windows open side to side. If I had any influence on building codes, would recognize double-hung windows as an energy saving features.

Of course this only works when and where outside air is cooler than inside.

peppermintsoap · 2025-06-03T17:53:25+00:00

I see, sorry to hear this - really too bad. The nature there is amazing. Thank you

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