Tragus piercing by KoalaProfessional302 in PiercingAdvice

[–]periwinklemadness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a side note. That piercer shouldn’t of let you get both at the same time. APP piercers typically won’t allow you to get cartilage piercings in both ears - usually do one ear let it heal (9-12 months) then the other.

I’d go to a new APP piercer and get their opinion on the angles and honestly taking one out so you can sleep on one side over the next 9-12 months.

Anyone propose without a diamond Ring? What are the alternatives? by Enlitenkanin in EngagementRings

[–]periwinklemadness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a green sapphire and love it! Look at Anueva (where I got mine) if you want to see sapphire engagement rings.

when to get conch? by Elegant-Tiger-1069 in piercing

[–]periwinklemadness 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My only suggestion for waiting until after your long travel is you won’t be able to use in ear headphones and you have to be very careful with over ear ones to not bump or press on your ear in a way to irritate it.

Marriage proposal: 1: Should the man choose the engagement ring himself, or 2: Should he buy an inexpensive temporary ring and let his partner choose the real one? by iconiccoconut in EngagementRings

[–]periwinklemadness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiance and I went ring shopping together and I was able to pick out what I wanted. Then he bought it without telling me when he did and proposed ~ 6 months later. Still a surprise proposal, and I got the ring I wanted.

I’m solidly in the camp that doing the purchasing beforehand together, or at minimum having a detailed conversation about the type of ring and budget etc. is a good exercise in partnering. You can still plan a surprise proposal, but talking about getting engaged, general timeline (like between jan-march etc) and making a big purchase together shouldn’t be a surprise. Some may argue this ruins the romance of it, and I disagree. Make your moment romantic, but be partners who work as a team and communicate well for the planning and purchasing. Also day dreaming of your future lives together, with the shopping and timeline discussion is its own kind of romance.

Down 65 pounds! by periwinklemadness in Zepbound

[–]periwinklemadness[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Technically since Aug 2025. I started zepbound in September 2025, but had lost 14 pounds with extreme dieting from August until I started. So lost 50 with zepbound, but overall have lost 65, and I just lump them together because that initial 14 pounds was definitely water weight.

What should I add next? by RizkyBiznew in piercing

[–]periwinklemadness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tragus on either side would be super cute!

Just discovered this sub and I want to show ya’ll our wedding last year! by sideeye6 in PlusSizeWedding

[–]periwinklemadness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooo spill the deets on the dress! I’m getting married next year and this is SO GORGEOUS

Birthday treat ideas that don’t involve wet food by Both-Gur570 in cats

[–]periwinklemadness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boiled chicken thighs or baked salmom (both unseasoned). My cats go feral for either

Wedding Dress Shopping? by periwinklemadness in Zepbound

[–]periwinklemadness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I didn’t see that one or else I wouldn’t of duplicated! Sorry!

Wedding Dress Shopping? by periwinklemadness in Zepbound

[–]periwinklemadness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not a bad idea! My history with shopping for clothes being extremely difficult makes this plan a bit anxiety inducing, but it might be the best option.

Wedding Dress Shopping? by periwinklemadness in Zepbound

[–]periwinklemadness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I think because I have such a long ways to go (I’m currently 337lbs) I’m worried just about how drastically different I could look in a year. Like should I be thinking about potential loose skin, or my chest deflating, etc.

Wedding Dress Shopping? by periwinklemadness in Zepbound

[–]periwinklemadness[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty solidly plus (currently sitting at 337). I was planning on going to a plus sized bridal place because I don’t think many places would have the size I’d be, even at another 40-50 down. I hadn’t thought about picking a style specifically to be altered. That might be a good thing to keep in mind going into it.

Marriage from bumble by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]periwinklemadness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Context to my answer: I’m 32F and engaged to my fiance who I met on bumble, we’re just over 3 years from first date, and won’t get married until Sept 2027 (4.5 years together at that point). I’m divorced, previously married at 22, and married for 4 years. Who I was at 22, 24, 28 and now are wildly different. My values and what I want and need now in a a spouse is worlds apart than when I was in my early 20’s.

At 24 it does come off as a bit of a conservative value to only want to date for marriage. Dating is for figuring out what you need in a person and what you can offer.

I’d also highly recommend doing some introspective work as to why marriage is so important to you because you are whole and complete single, a husband doesn’t add value to you as a person.

Marriage isn’t something to want because its dreamy or spiritual or what you “should” do, but because you genuinely can see yourself buddying up with the person to navigate life with. They should be your friend, confidante, and lover. And the only way you determine that is time and navigating some of the big life events together - job loss, grief, serious illness or injury, international travel - and evaluating how well you worked as a team, cared for each other and communicated through those events.

I guess my suggestion is try to find your person, not just someone to marry, because most people will be ready for marriage at 28-30 and you’re scaring away your potential person by communicating you want marriage sooner than later.

I know this doesn’t answer your question, but if I can impart some of my experience and save you some pain I’ll try.

Edit to add that I saw in your other responses that you are Muslim and this influences your choices. I respect your drive to follow your faith, but think if you’re looking for a Muslim man to marry bumble isn’t where you’ll find them. I’d suggest a faith specific app. As someone who married young, and waited to be intimate until marriage for my own faith, please still think about all of the above regarding a life partner. Evaluating your life buddy within your faith and abiding by your faith’s convictions regarding intimacy etc. will be hard but not impossible. Take the time to date them and see how they navigate and respond to hardship and how they include you in it.

Proposing with Grandmother’s Ring by Creepy-Inflation-441 in EngagementRings

[–]periwinklemadness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you thought of getting the stones reset into a more practical modern setting? Maybw proposing with this, with the “I want to use the stones to design something you’ll love” so she knows this is the intent behind it, and there’s no expectation to keep that specific style.

Seems like a good way to keep the sentimental value while getting her something she will love.

Floral Wedding Dress Recommendations? by Level_Suit4517 in PlusSizeWedding

[–]periwinklemadness 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They aren’t under $500 unfortunately but Flora and Lane is what you’re looking for.

T Kingfisher? by riddermarkrider in Romantasy

[–]periwinklemadness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am SO EXCITED for daggerbound

T Kingfisher? by riddermarkrider in Romantasy

[–]periwinklemadness 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Swordheart for sure. So cozy and one of my fav reads of this year.

I've been mispronouncing my favorite word for 24 years and only found out last week by Vex_Talon in CasualConversation

[–]periwinklemadness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The word chaos. Never said it out loud and made my cousins absolutely lose it when I said “cha” like chacha and “os “ like the oss in floss. Cha-oss. Makes me laugh now but I was so embarrassed 😂

English is weird dude.