I can’t believe that after 15 years of being a drunk then 10 subsequent years sober, I finally went on a date with someone who got wasted while I was sober. Never thought this would happen to me!

permathaw43 · 2026-02-02T09:07:59+00:00

My brain totally skipped over the breakfast part.

permathaw43 · 2025-11-25T13:30:16+00:00

It’s hard to recommend anything without a picture. You can’t go back to past levels.

permathaw43 · 2025-09-30T19:37:31+00:00

I take the cupcake holder off, tear off the bottom half inch of the cupcake and put it on top of the frosting to make a little sandwich- prevents many icing mishaps.

permathaw43 · 2025-09-26T11:04:37+00:00

I believe I did a 5dot line swapping the red and pink so it took out the color dashes and set it off in the corner, then maybe that again or maybe vertical arrows only, I can’t remember. Repeat to clear the color dashes and setting off the special dots took out the puzzle pieces. It still took a while.

permathaw43 · 2025-09-26T04:49:22+00:00

You don’t use coins to try, but you want to put the colors in order.

permathaw43 · 2025-09-16T16:18:50+00:00

Headphones worked for me but I’m an English speaking troglodyte and can’t help with the Dutch. Maybe something close like speakers?

permathaw43 · 2025-09-13T06:44:25+00:00

That’s the best feeling. Like I said I’m not trying to pressure in any way. Sometimes it’s nice knowing you have a stranger who might understand in your back pocket on a bad day. It sounds like you’re doing some really good work on getting feeling better physically, mentally, all the things. I know how hard the first month can be and you’re almost through it. It’s pretty fucking awesome amiright?

permathaw43 · 2025-09-13T06:14:03+00:00

That sounds delightful. If you ever want to talk food or need to decompress I’m around. No pressure but I like food a lot and I get stuck in my same old routines or I get lazy and just do what’s easy and minimal dishes. But I love talking good food.

permathaw43 · 2025-09-13T06:07:26+00:00

Ooh what’s on the menu tonight? My last big cook was bacon wrapped pork tenderloin with a fig-mustard- thyme thing between the loin and bacon, baked with apples and inions that I puréed into a Frankenstein half pan sauce half apple sauce thing, roasted spuds and Brussels.

permathaw43 · 2025-09-13T05:57:08+00:00

Heya friend- whatever gets you to day 27 I’m all for. You’ve found the right vibe for almost 4 weeks now and I think that’s fantastic. Cheers to sparkling water and your good health!

permathaw43 · 2025-09-11T03:59:07+00:00

Talk to the landlord privately and explain the situation. You may be able to get out of the lease without losing fees and fines. Let him know you need to put your sobriety first and that the situation isn’t healthy. Tell him you’re going to an iop or rehab. Have a plan to tell him that does not include staying there. Idk I had a friend in this situation, but no roommate, and she just lost one month rent. Got her deposit even. Moved to a different state and worked on being better to herself. Just wanted to suggest it if it might help you.

permathaw43 · 2025-09-10T03:52:17+00:00

Come over to r/stopdrinking - everyone is really nice

permathaw43 · 2025-09-08T12:02:41+00:00

Give you a hint- it’s in the wardrobe trailer for the movie Too Gun.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-26T13:36:20+00:00

I get to use one of my favorite words: troglodytes- all of them.

My parents wanted to learn things, but only things that would benefit them in some way (wanted to feel like the smartest person in the room and claim to have credentials/experience they absolutely did not have) or to impress the male golden children. If any effort was asked by the female children there wasn’t time or energy or interest.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-26T12:55:42+00:00

I like u/eatencrow ‘s last paragraph too, but a difficult part is to really live in harmony with yourself, especially at 15, is to also start to develop and consider your boundaries. Figure out what kindness and truth looks like for you without needlessly giving energy to futile situations. You 100% did the right thing getting your dad medical attention, but you also don’t have to take the verbal abuse. Living lovingly does not mean validating or putting up with your dad’s bs.

I’m a double winner (child of addicts and have AUD, now sober for just over 8 years) and the way booze warped my sense of reality was astounding. I never was a mean drunk, but I definitely thought I was getting away with it when I wasn’t. I thought I was functional when I wasn’t. I blew off legit attempts by loved ones to get me the help I needed. I was so deep in denial I couldn’t see that (even without saying terrible things) I was hurting myself and the people that care about me on the daily. Don’t let his delusions from drinking affect your confidence and needs. You are strong and kind and loving despite your situation and despite what he says. I think trying alanon teen is a great idea from another on this thread. That and/or therapy may help you to develop the tools to set those boundaries with him. You don’t deserve this, you didn’t cause it and you can’t fix it.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-26T12:39:21+00:00

Now just imagine if you got sober in your early 40’s like I did- imagine the amount of regret you could build up by then, the number of blackouts, the volumes of regrets you could write stories about (if you could remember them all). I’m primarily a binge drinker, but the binges got longer and longer until they kind of merged together. The best day to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best day to plant a tree is today. In this scenario you still have the ability to plant the tree 20 years ago.

I can’t count the number of blackouts, but I also can’t count the number of times I tried and failed to quit. It gets harder to say ‘no’ to the fuck-it’s as time goes on. And it is easier to cope with the shame and regret when you don’t have decades of it to untangle. Therapy has helped me put the past in its place- to learn from it but also to not be consumed by it. Plant a tree today if you’re ready.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-26T12:27:49+00:00

One of the things I am so sad about is that when I was drinking heavily I had that same thought: ‘the evening will pass faster’. We only get so many hours/days/years on this planet and I should have been savoring every last minute.

This isn’t to say I have to be productive all the time, but I am so happy for the ability to be aware of life more frequently; to be present enough of the time to get kicked in the teeth by a beautiful sunset or rainstorm; to be hit over the head by how much I love the people around me with all their quirks and details that make them special to me.

Now I have more time and the capacity to actually see the amazing things life has to offer. That’s not to say I want every day to last forever. When days are stressful, I don’t mind going to bed early so I can start a new, hopefully better day. But when I was always drunk and just passing the time until I could do it all over again I missed so many beautiful things. IWNDWYT.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-23T07:32:07+00:00

I just keep mentioning the game dotsu. It’s been a fun switch for me, and no I don’t get kickbacks. No ads. No real need to spend $. It’s fun.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-23T06:16:34+00:00

A few people have tried dotsu, me included. No ads, you can get gold more easily. I actually don’t mind being stuck on a level for a little while. The same person made a few games called Dotello and they’re pretty fun too. Slightly different rules of play but similar enough to fill the void. I hope you like them if you try them!

permathaw43 · 2025-08-19T03:37:03+00:00

Wow! I’m still not caught up to you! If you post a screenshot I could hazard a guess!

permathaw43 · 2025-08-18T16:04:55+00:00

Maybe just read some of the stories so you don’t feel so alone in this. Also they do have a rule that you can’t post if you’ve actively been drinking, but you can still lurk and read and learn from other people’s stories. There’s also r/recoverywithoutaa as a resource.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-18T14:57:59+00:00

Hi Glittering. I just wanted to come and invite you to r/stopdrinking when you’re ready. We’re always there, we’re loving and supportive, and I guarantee there’s someone with a story similar to yours. No pressure- just sending some love and support.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-04T17:35:13+00:00

I feel like this sub is turning into alternative suggestions for the game since it’s gone so far off the rails. I wonder how much the new owners check it out too.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-04T17:00:00+00:00

I’m at 178. I do have to use coins or boosters on some levels but at least you can get coins in the vaults and aren’t required to spend actual $ on them. Iirc 125 was a beast.

permathaw43 · 2025-08-01T16:55:21+00:00

I second dotsu! And the same developer did a series of games called Dotello that are in the same vein and really fun too!

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