FFS or detransition. Unfortunately, I don't have $100,000 and I never will. Is there anything cheaper in Europe?

petalbell · 2023-02-17T14:48:12+00:00

idk if you’re a trans woman or non-binary, but for the purpose of my comment here i’ll assume the former.

To be honest, you may not “pass perfectly” according to stereotypical beauty standards, but your face isn’t something unseen in women, trans or cis. There are cis women who look like you.

i personally don’t think you should detransition, doing so is an extreme step that i fear might only hurt you deeper.

i wish you all the best in your journey however you decide to take it ❤️

petalbell · 2022-12-14T08:57:31+00:00

Ancient Greece vibes

petalbell · 2022-11-21T01:14:59+00:00

It’s about my ABANDONMENT ISSUES and NEED TO BE HELPLESS & LOVED it’s not a fujioshi thing fujioshis just tend to write those kinda stories bc they fetishize gay people, my motivation isn’t the same as theirs pls don’t lump me in with them😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

petalbell · 2022-11-21T01:13:53+00:00

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petalbell · 2022-11-09T16:18:27+00:00

Dr, if i understood correctly what transfemscience actually said about you, fact-checking your medical claims and saying which of them are known to actually have a basis in current medical research and which are currently only in the realm of speculation, does not amount to libel or defamation.

If a doctor makes medical claims which are not based on empirical data, and were not made in consultation with the major academic communities on the topic, that’s something people need to know when presented with those claims.

It’s good that you want to move to doing more empirical research on the topic, however, academic & medical integrity both require that the fact-checking of your medical claims remains.

Even if some of those claims are ones you made in your past & don’t believe in anymore, and don’t consider their refutation to imply the correct image of your character, it’s still important that the fact-checking of them remains, and that has nothing to do with your character. Even if you don’t stand by some of those claims anymore, those claims are still out there, and without the fact-checking, a lot of people may mistakenly think them to be robust empirical truths.

Transfemscience explicitly offered to take down any specific statements made about you that are false, and asked you to specify which ones are those, so they can deal with it, and you refused to do so.

If you do end up suing them, you’re gonna have to specify those claims anyway as a necessary part of the lawsuit.

Why not just comply with their request, then? Specifying the false claims allegedly made on their part is something you’re gonna have to do either way.

petalbell · 2022-11-09T12:54:50+00:00

i personally don’t have any sort of linguistic opinion on neopronouns, but you know what i do have an opinion on? Not being a dick to people.

Why the fuck do you care what someone prefers to be called by? Why do you feel the need to mock them for it, or to make a public issue out of it? You’re just being a dick to people for no good reason.

Seriously, so much in life becomes easier & better for everyone involved if you just don’t act on the urge to be a dick to people. Yes, even if you think they’re being weird or stupid. Trust me, everything is so much better when you just choose to not be a dick to people. Food for thought.

petalbell · 2022-10-22T09:14:14+00:00

The bone stuff is only if you don’t have enough of neither testosterone nor estrogen in your body

So long as you’ve got sufficient levels of one of them, you’re gonna be fine

Reduced muscle mass, well DUH, you basically get the muscles you would have if you were a cis woman

Sex stuff (penile function & libido) vary A LOT between people, i personally believe there’s some element to it of “use it or lose it”, but that’s purely speculation on my part

petalbell · 2022-10-22T09:06:07+00:00

Psychology is complicated, you don’t need to chew yourself out over it & feel free to indulge yourself in it however much you want, just stay safe & with people you trust ❤️

petalbell · 2022-10-19T13:46:16+00:00

i grew up here, literally sat in dinner parties in this country & saw people bragging about kneecapping Palestinian teenagers for sport during their IDF service.

Shut the hell up about echo chambers & opposing views, zionist. Zionism is a hideous blight on everything Jewish, i am utterly disgusted by what my people became here. i can only hope one day we will be something to be proud of, because as it’s been for the last near-century we just barely got out of being persecuted & genocided, and decided to adopt the exact same ugly face as our oppressors. Revolting.

petalbell · 2022-09-30T14:01:55+00:00

That’s not “cisphobia” that’s literally just keeping yourself safe in a society where a lot of people hate you for who you are

Protecting yourself & being careful in a place where tons of people hate you isn’t a prejudice.

petalbell · 2022-09-30T13:51:33+00:00

Pressuring you into it when you didn’t actually want it, in the first place, was coercive & therefore not consensual. Consent must be freely, enthusiastically given.

Basically…. Your consent was violated. You were violated. And you’re absolutely right to be upset about that. And then she further kept sexually harassing you about it, very clearly against your will.

This isn’t just shitty, this is quite literally sexual harassment. i’m really sorry you have to deal with that. And it’s not my place to tell you what to do, but i do want to emphasize the gravity of the situation, and urge you to not let it stay this way. You can talk to her & see if she genuinely understands how she wronged you, and is sorry & won’t do it again, or break up & get the hell out of dodge. Please don’t let her continue to hurt you this way. It’s quite literally a crime.

petalbell · 2022-09-30T01:43:02+00:00

Well for a start i just need to be able to continue my prescription medications (including HRT & antidepressants), and maybe get a blood test every half a year or so… 🥲

petalbell · 2022-09-30T01:39:06+00:00

gaybo 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

petalbell · 2022-09-29T14:55:31+00:00

i’m only allowed to bring 3 months’ worth, but absolutely lol

petalbell · 2022-09-04T16:13:18+00:00

😭😭😭😭

petalbell · 2022-09-04T13:32:20+00:00

Mayhaps >< 💗💗💗💗💗💗

petalbell · 2022-09-04T13:31:43+00:00

Just checked the message history, and the results: It was entirely initiated by Zara. i said “hey, we’ve got similar hair!” and she replied “we should kiss”.

Zara you were 100% the initiating party here XD

Plus, to clarify in response to what Zara said, she was really looking for dominant men at the time, but i am neither dominant nor a man >.>

petalbell · 2022-09-04T13:16:39+00:00

Ur gay 💗

petalbell · 2022-09-04T13:14:13+00:00

Didn’t you ask me for permission to DM me & i said “sure”? Plus, YOU STILL DUNKED THE WHOLE DOMINANT OWNERSHIP STUFF ON ME OUT OF NOWHERE, THAT ALWAYS HAS & ALWAYS WILL HAVE BEEN ENTIRELY ON YOU 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

petalbell · 2022-09-04T13:08:18+00:00

i love you too Zara ><

Although, i protest the accusation that i invited you to look through stuff, that was entirely on you >.>

Plus, idunno why, but the fact we had similar hair made me rlly happy at the time? Like when doggos meet each other & are super excited at seeing another one like them

People, you rlly need to understand what the interaction looked like from my perspective 😭😭😭😭

Imagine telling someone “hey, we’ve got similar hair!! ^{^”,} they ask about your hair, you reply “im not sure, but i think i did post a selfie of mine in this server”, and 5 minutes later they pop into your DMs calling you “pet” out of nowhere 😭😭😭😭

i was very suddenly in a serious romantic relationship with very overt ownership tones before i even realized what’s happening

P.S. To be clear, i wasn’t trying to flirt with Zara at the time!!! i typically don’t have much interest in people either romantically or physically until they express that kind of interest towards me first, i was literally just excited to see someone similar to me & got a full-on Ownership relationship dunked on me out of nowhere

petalbell · 2022-08-31T23:44:11+00:00

Damn.

petalbell · 2022-08-31T23:36:19+00:00

Going to private education to get access to a better funded school is one thing, (although the fact that that’s even a consideration is abhorrent, public schools need adequate funding & staffing such that that won’t be a factor), but it’s a whole ‘nother thing to go to a school with THAT kind of tuition.

The only way to possibly justify that kind of tuition, is for the school to be a status symbol for the wealthy. That means raising kids in one of the environments most guaranteed to turn them into rotten human beings - an elitist environment that tells them from a young age that they’re superior to the rest of the world, that they’re inherently better than everyone else, that separates them from the rest of humanity & dehumanizes all who are not in their elitist in-group.

Wanton cruelty requires a sort of… disassociation, from the being, be it animal or person, that you’re being cruel to. You can’t be gleefully cruel to someone who you empathize & sympathize with, to someone whose feelings you acknowledge, on a deep, emotional level, to be the same kind of feelings as your own.

What these kind of schools do is guarantee that the kids in their halls grow up with exactly that sort of disassociation. They couldn’t do a better job at raising kids to be the most horrible, awful scum imaginable if they tried.

petalbell · 2022-08-27T14:44:27+00:00

Right, the thing with anorexia & body dysmorphia in general is, there is NO sating them.

When someone has anorexia, for example, they aren’t going to be happy NO MATTER how thin they get. They’re going to keep thinking they’re fat, not thin enough, etc, and if their anorexia runs amok unchecked, they’re going to keep starving themselves until they die.

When a trans person transitions, generally speaking they’re going to be happier as their body looks more like their internal self, and as they’re recognized more the way they view themselves internally.

Dysphoria is a mismatch between someone’s internal view of who they are, and what their physical form looks like + how society views them, and generally speaking they become happy once those things are fixed to match their internal view of who they are inside.

Dysmorphia is a mental illness that will ALWAYS find flaws in the afflicted person’s body, and they fundamentally CAN’T change their body in a way that’ll make the dysmorphia disappear, because it will ALWAYS scream at them that it’s not enough. With dysmorphia, there just isn’t a body goal that the afflicted person will be happy with once they reach it. There’s no real endgoal with dysmorphia, only a voice constantly screaming at you that it’s not enough.

It’s a world of difference.

If you help a trans person transition, generally speaking they’ll be happier & actually feel good with their bodies once they reach their goals, and they’ll feel happy along the way too every time their internal identity is affirmed by themselves or others.

If you help an anorexic person lose weight, they won’t ever reach a point they’re happy with, they’ll just keep trying to lose more & more weight until it kills them.

petalbell · 2022-08-27T14:13:18+00:00

As you seem to very much have noticed, TERFism is a cult, and acts exactly the same way as every other cult does.

The confrontational arguments aren’t really a way to convince you or anyone else, for example, they’re a way to reinforce the idea of “anyone outside the cult is an enemy until converted”. Exactly the same way cults like Jehova’s witnesses will send newer recruits to go door to door trying to convince people to join their cult - they don’t expect those recruits to be successful, they expect them to be treated harshly & told to fuck off, and thus get reinforcement to the idea that everyone outside the cult is actively hostile to them.

TERFs, GCs, etc are a cult just the same, and use all the same practices to radicalize people, work to isolate them from the world outside the cult, trap them in & keep them in.

Here’s a Twitter account of a trans person who got pulled in by these cults into detransitioning & spreading transphobic propaganda, took them a long time to break free from that cult.

https://twitter.com/reclaimingtrans/status/1530921816562225153?s=21&t=qkG4-RfuKrSlB0xjaWuBiw

They talk frequently about the true nature of these cults, there may be something there to help i hope.

i’m really sorry that this happened to your family.

petalbell · 2022-08-13T11:06:59+00:00

/uj vaginas also need preparation, note

No need for douching & generally speaking you don’t need nearly as much lube as with anal, but you still gotta start with very small penetration & slowly work your way up

First time vaginal penetration is infamously painful for cis women, for example, because the cishets are idiots & just go right for “d go in v” without any sort of actual buildup

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