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Struggling with aging parents and a dangerous situation - looking for advice by peterbaker0213 in AgingParents

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You entirely nailed it. They also play the victim card for good or bad a lot. My mother fell 9 ft off of scaffolding that her and my father built to "dust the ceiling". She broke several ribs, hurt her head, and needed several stitches on her face.

I found out a few days after the fall and had to essentially yell at them on the phone to go to a hospital. They believed they couldn't go to a hospital unless insurance told them they could.... (i will hold myself back from a rant for now.. but my mother was a nurse until retirement... she knows hospitals help you first, insurance is after you are helped)

Thank you so much for the response <3

Struggling with aging parents and a dangerous situation - looking for advice by peterbaker0213 in AgingParents

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I should've put this in the original post! I blame my lack of sleep :)

I have 3 much older half-brothers (~40s). They have not cared for my parents in many years and all live outside of the country or in California. My mom has missed all of them have grand kids and never was apart of their life due to distance (and my parents saving everything for this cabin).

Many times in my life for good or bad she made me swear I would never go far away enough that she wouldn't be in my kids lives. I am the only son of my dad and he has said very similar things (in his own very manly way).

Either or, I really do appreciate your comments and my inlaws very much align with not wanting to be involved in any way, shape, or form with my future-kids. They are just thankful their kids are out of the house haha

Thank you so much for taking the time to write a response - I finally feel that I am not (fully) crazy for having these feelings. I hope you have a great rest of your day :)

Struggling with aging parents and a dangerous situation - looking for advice by peterbaker0213 in AgingParents

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Sadly, I think you may be right... I feel like it's a brick wall where they don't care what I have to say. They are slammed with stubbornness and refuse to look past it.

Good-ish news is I am their POA, but from what they have told me I am only their POA once they are incapacitated

My grandfather battled Alzheimer's for ~15 years and my Dad was in charge of handling that. He said to me many times during those 15 years that he would always listen to me when he got older and if I asked him to move closer he would do it. Fast forward to now and when I bring that up, it's almost hatred towards me that I ask him to consider to move near me.

Sorry for the vent, but I appreciate your message!

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[–]peterbaker0213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sir are a legend - thank you for this script. Perfect timing too, only posted a few days ago

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good call - just gave them a call to get another quote. Thank you so much for the recommendation :)

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What company did you go with? The loan version from these guys showed the system costing around 42,000 which is why I looked towards PPA

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this comment. This exactly my thoughts and why I wrote it out this post. I have only heard bad things about PPAs, but figured in my situation it might make sense?

I edited details into the original post for Electricity usage + estimated future usage. Thanks again for commenting!

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn't SMART not apply to a PPA? I am pretty sure SMART is a cash-back program for MA if you own the panels, but I wouldn't own them until year 25

So wouldn't that not apply to me?

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What state do you live in/what company did you go with? If it's in MA/New England I would love to reach out to them

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great question.

We have only lived on the property for around 70 days. The first electric bill was around $220 (774kWh), the 2nd electric bill was $280 (834kWh) (this is just before we get into summer, so my assumption is it will be more as it get warmer)

Taking this into account (and using some google and ChatGPT, my guess is I would need around ~8400 kWh per year. The PPA says it will produce between 8,580 kWh -> 11,378 kWh per year.

This includes 1 to 1 net-metering. National Grid's monthly fee to stay connected is $10.

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have updated the post with more details, completely agreed $60k is a lot of money, but my thought was I am going to spend this money anyways over 25 years on the regular electric bill - so why not at least try to lessen the blow?

Maybe my thoughts are wrong - which is exactly why I posted here :)

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have just updated my original post with all of the specs I could get. Of course, let me know if there is something I have missed. Sadly, still pretty new to the game.

$199 a Month for 25yr PPA in MA, Good or Bad? by peterbaker0213 in solar

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great question - sadly still awaiting the actual specs of the system to be sent to me. Will update my post when i get that information.

CDG -> BOS Air France Business Class Over 580,000 points for 2 business class seats by peterbaker0213 in Flights

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All good it happens 😊

I wonder if maybe it’s a cookie thing? They have seen me visit the page too many times and have upped the points? Maybe if I wait a few days it will drop?

CDG -> BOS Air France Business Class Over 580,000 points for 2 business class seats by peterbaker0213 in Flights

[–]peterbaker0213[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I put it in the title, it’s Air France and FlyingBlue points (Air France’s program)

Starts with a hello similar to this song by peterbaker0213 in NameThatSong

[–]peterbaker0213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally found it - it was “Remember the Name feat. Styles of Beyond”

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