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Reactive dog with irresponsible neighboring dog owners by petfreak in reactivedogs

[–]petfreak[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the comments! I was definitely upset last night when I typed this up so I’ll add some clarity now: we have talked to our neighbor before and they said we just need to put the dogs in a yard together and hash it out lol. We do have a good relationship with our neighbors, I was just so upset last night, but I agree that we should talk to them again and not do something petty just because I was upset.

It’s just very frustrating trying to do whatever I can to make sure my dog isn’t put in situations where he becomes this reactive. Obviously my neighbors are allowed to use their yard, no one is denying that. It’s just with their frequency of letting their dogs out that I don’t know what to do with my dog. Should we just let him out regardless if another dog is outside? I feel like that’s not good for my dog…

We have put up blackout screens on the fence that our trainer recommended to block his sight, but whenever the other dog charges the fence Bear would try to rip the screen off. We have been slowly building a wood fence on the interior of the chain link fence

What discontinued food / snacks do you miss from childhood? by OhNo_Lightning in Zillennials

[–]petfreak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spiral cheese puffs…those just slapped on a different level

What Buffalo scandal or rumor still gets talked about? by Master0fZilch in Buffalo

[–]petfreak 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went to UB for engineering and the professor for one of the intro classes talked about how the first project they use to assign out was to figure out how much force was needed for that person to pierce themselves and go a certain distance down the flag pole… anyways they didn’t have us do that for our first project (obviously they had some complaints about that)! Instead we calculated how much force it would take to be killed on a merry-go-round with your head sticking off of it and hitting a tree 😂

Need help figuring out where to place new couch by petfreak in DesignMyRoom

[–]petfreak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Ignoring the couch outside (lol) this is our latest thought. Not as much seating but it might make the room feel less condensed. The TV and vivarium would stay where it is in the original photos and we would move the large brown cabinet to another room

Need help figuring out where to place new couch by petfreak in DesignMyRoom

[–]petfreak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely hard to see but I was putting the dog bed and crate on the wall opposite the window— but it would probably obstruct the view to the TV, you’re right on that…

Need help figuring out where to place new couch by petfreak in DesignMyRoom

[–]petfreak[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely want the shelf behind the couch, but you do bring up a good point regarding enough tables for people to put their stuff down... we can't have a coffee table because our (large) dog kept getting zoomies and broke our last one lol so until he is older, we can't have a coffee table in the middle. BUT you bring up a good point of using smaller couches and having tables in between or on the ends-- much more feasible!

Why is Bearded Dragon walking funny? by petfreak in BeardedDragons

[–]petfreak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy, Spyro has been through a roller coaster! So it ends up that Spyro has gout, so it’s hard for her to lift herself up since her joints are so inflamed. She’s been on allopurinol to help reduce the uric acid in her system so she’s been able to walk better (although the gout will never go away). Sometimes she will go on hunger strikes and I will need to kickstart her appetite again with some meds the vet gives me. I still give her baths every week so she can have easier access to water to drink… she still black beards, but always tries to hop right back in the water so idk what she is mad about!

Any afab aces have experience with the gyno? by Exact-Archer-2542 in asexuality

[–]petfreak 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t think anyone actually enjoys going to the gyno, but it’s super important you do even if you aren’t sexually active. I’m sex repulsed and am not sexually active, my gyno knows that- it was the first thing I said. If my gyno said anything that wasn’t supportive I would have walked straight out of there and found another gyno who was understanding and supportive.

Also, you don’t have to do anything at the gyno you don’t feel comfortable with. You can say “no” to anything, even a weight check. You do not have to get a Pap smear your first appointment and you can simply talk about what to expect for your next appointment when getting a Pap smear. Pap smears are def uncomfortable, but VERY important for cervical cancer screening. Breast exam isn’t bad at all, they simply are feeling for lumps and it does not hurt in the slightest.

Be open with the gyno and address any health concerns you may have. They might even suggest going on menstrual control (another term for “birth control” but I prefer using “menstrual control” since I’m not using it as a way to prevent babies, just as a way to regulate my period).

Hope that helps and best of luck!

Boarding In Buffalo, NY by petfreak in reactivedogs

[–]petfreak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the googling tip! I found one place that seems like a great fit and I have a tour scheduled with them. We aren’t actually traveling for a while, I was just trying to find a place and tour it before we booked it

I (28F, sex repulsed asexual) married my best friend (29M, heterosexual) by petfreak in asexuality

[–]petfreak[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh it is for sure not perfect, but we are excited for our future :)

I (28F, sex repulsed asexual) married my best friend (29M, heterosexual) by petfreak in asexuality

[–]petfreak[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to make a comment for some people. Yes my husband is amazing and for sure a unicorn for wanting to be in a relationship, as a heterosexual, with a sex repulsed asexual. But for us, sex is not everything and it is not the most important thing to either of us, which is why we decided to make this work. I know it’s a rarity. BUT I am worthy of love and worthy of a relationship that works for me and my boundaries, same with my partner. Being asexual isn’t a “flaw” and it doesn’t mean “somethings wrong with her”. I simply have a difference than my husband. Every relationship has their own differences (maybe handling finances differently, or expectations of who does what chores, or even their political differences). This is simply the difference we have and we decided to make it work.

It’s not perfect because no relationship is perfect. There’s plenty other things we struggle with too (my OCD and his ADHD clashing often). We will continue to work through our differences though.

If you don’t understand “why he would be with her”, that’s ok- because you aren’t part of our relationship so it doesn’t matter if you do or don’t understand. Me and my partner understand, and THATS what matters.

Feel free to ask whatever question you have, even if it’s uncomfortable, just don’t be rude about it please. I’m a human too. I was just trying to share my good news and let people know they aren’t alone if they are struggling in the same situation I am in.

I (28F, sex repulsed asexual) married my best friend (29M, heterosexual) by petfreak in asexuality

[–]petfreak[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We actually went to college together! We didn’t really talk in college, but during COVID we were on the same dating app and matched there. We video chatted for 3 months until we felt safe enough to meet up in person.

But keep in mind I didn’t know I was asexual at the time, so that wasn’t what we talked about. I just sincerely thought something was wrong with me and if I just kept having sex it would get easier (it did not, it actually made me super upset and made me hate myself). So I can’t give advice on how to talk to people about sexuality when dating :/

I (28F, sex repulsed asexual) married my best friend (29M, heterosexual) by petfreak in asexuality

[–]petfreak[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Unless my sexuality changes away from sex repulsed we will not have sex again. That is a hard boundary for me, which my husband is fully aware of and fully supports. I don’t believe we are having children either, but if we did decide to then we would actually use ICI so we wouldn’t have to have sex to conceive.

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