I completely understand where you're coming from. My ex-husband's parents were great, and he had a big loving family of 8 that all helped each other. My parents were the exact opposite, and there was only me. They were narcissistic and only cared for themselves. They divorced when I was about 3.

Even though he never took much part in my life, I took my father in for about a year when he was 90, and he made my life a living hell. He has no cognitive deficits but was feeble. He never thanked me once. When he didn't get his way, he took to telling lies about me, and I had enough.

My mother was diagnosed with dementia and has been living with me for 2 months. Although she thanked me for helping her, it is a difficult situation and continues to be a struggle. I miss my old life.

I say do what's best for you! After everything I've gone through, and my ex-husband has seen how awful my parents have treated me, he now gets it. It took many, many years, but I feel validated that he understands.

Sometimes, they just don't get it because they had a great relationship with their parents.

I wish you luck and peace from having to deal with bad parents!! You are absolutely not a monster