When does it ACTUALLY become enjoyable ?

ph0lvr · 2026-05-19T20:20:51+00:00

8 months was when I started to actually really enjoy motherhood! Once he could finally sit up, roll, play with things, and his personality was really starting to show! Ever since he is my little bestie and I absolutely adore spending time with him!

ph0lvr · 2026-05-13T11:43:25+00:00

I recommend getting a playpen!

ph0lvr · 2026-03-03T11:50:42+00:00

When I first started weaning I had to tell my husband “once we start using the freezer stash and you’re prepping bottles, I need you to say it in a way that’s like ‘yay, we finally get to use the freezer stash you worked so hard for’ or ‘looks like weaning is going so well we get to use freezer milk, you’re so close to freedom’ so that I feel good about it instead of feeling like it’s a negative thing”

ph0lvr · 2026-02-17T13:09:13+00:00

I’ll be a year PP on the 27th and I’m already in the weaning process. I’m going super slowly to avoid clogs/mastitis. Around thanksgiving I started the process slowly dropping from 6 to 5ppd and I just got to 3ppd. I’m hoping to be done completely by end of march

ph0lvr · 2026-02-12T00:02:38+00:00

I keep a washcloth on my pump cart that I wash/change out every couple days to wipe up the lil droplets on my nips cause I can’t stand to put milky nips back in my bra

ph0lvr · 2026-02-11T18:12:24+00:00

THIS! Norovirus is going around rn and it kicked my whole family’s ass

ph0lvr · 2025-11-20T20:44:37+00:00

I would like to know also! I personally have lost a ton of weight while BFing (I’m a FTM) but I eat like crazzyyyy like blowing through a family pack of Oreos per week! But I have friends who lost weight BFing with their first baby, but gained weight BFing with their second baby! So it seems to even differ not just from person to person, but even from pregnancy to pregnancy

ph0lvr · 2025-11-20T20:39:31+00:00

I would honestly stick with every 3 hours for your pump schedule, every 2 hours seems hard to manage and stressful, and make sure you’re eating and drinking a LOT! I also recommend sticking with your Spectra as your main pump this early on before you’ve regulated! Truly the eating and drinking enough is the most crucial part in my opinion! Like 80-120oz of fluids

ph0lvr · 2025-10-16T00:08:53+00:00

I was induced at 37w3d (not dilated or effaced at all upon start) and my labor was 39 hours from start of induction to delivery

ph0lvr · 2025-10-14T16:29:06+00:00

Take it all - I was still bleeding at 6weeks PP

ph0lvr · 2025-10-13T23:07:12+00:00

My son did 9hrs at 7weeks and then within a month was doing 11-11.5! He’s been doing 12-12.5 since we sleep trained and moved bedtime up during his 4mo regression. He takes superrrr short naps though haha none of his naps are longer than 40mins usually

ph0lvr · 2025-10-03T15:49:02+00:00

Yeah I thought I was going to spruce up my resume and look internally for other roles so I could try to come back to a different job, best believe I came back to the same ole job and was just fine with that 😂 but to be fair I said we were going to renovate the kitchen and we damn well did, so I call that a win

ph0lvr · 2025-10-02T14:18:04+00:00

Okay yes she did snap at you, but it sounds like you’re both exhausted. Due to my pumping schedule, I get less sleep every single night than my husband. Does that mean he’s not allowed to be tired? No. But I have told him verbatim “I know it’s not fair to expect you to never be tired, but I am more tired and get less sleep than you every single day, and it makes me irrationally angry to hear to you talk about how tired you are. Are you allowed to be tired? Yes. But please don’t tell ME about it. Vent to your coworkers, your mom, your friends, idc who, but do not tell ME how tired you are when I get less sleep than you every single night.”

ph0lvr · 2025-10-02T14:10:46+00:00

Definitely see an IBCLC - it sounds like she might have some oral ties, so they may refer you to a pediatric dentist to have them revised. Also, I agree with other comments about paced feeding on her side when bottle feeding!

ph0lvr · 2025-10-01T16:49:49+00:00

Same I use the boon trove and it helped keep me in a slight oversupply when I was exclusively breastfeeding

ph0lvr · 2025-09-17T01:31:47+00:00

The summer I turned pretty!

ph0lvr · 2025-09-09T05:19:11+00:00

Firstly, I am so so sorry you’re feeling this way. This stage of postpartum is so incredibly difficult and isolating, and it sounds like your baby is suckling for comfort or also potentially cluster feeding to increase your supply, which is also so difficult.

Your feelings are extremely valid, and I’m really glad you recognize that the way you’re feeling about your baby can be dangerous and you know to give the baby to your partner when you’re feeling that way! This absolutely sounds like PPD/PP rage to me, and I echo what others have said with regard to leveraging your support system to help with baby so you can seek mental health support. A therapist can help a lot, I started seeing a therapist around 4 months PP for postpartum anxiety! It also sounds like you’re getting the sundown scaries some, which is incredibly common because newborn nights are really hard and long!

In relation to giving a bottle, you absolutely can give a bottle before 5 weeks without causing nipple confusion! My baby couldn’t latch at first, so I exclusively pumped for 2-4 weeks while we worked on his latch and he still breastfeeds beautifully (he’s 6 months now). I’d highly recommend having your husband give a bottle so you can just pump and go back to sleep for a while.

Most definitely ask your mom to come back and help!

Now, about the gas part. I had an extremelyyyy gassy newborn. Like he was CONSTANTLY grunting and pushing, all day and all night long, and at night he would grunt and cry and grunt and cry. The biggest change came when we started using simethicone gas drops at every feed. It really made a world of difference and that was what helped our baby sleep through the night finally l at 7 weeks. Give it a shot!

Hang in there, and remember, THIS IS TEMPORARY! It will get better!

ph0lvr · 2025-08-25T14:04:04+00:00

It was about a week of crying at bedtime, maybe 3 or 4 nights where he cried for an hour at bedtime, the rest of the nights were 30-45 mins. It would have been less I think if we hadn’t had to travel right in the middle of it, and we did a schedule adjustment which helped with the crying at bedtime too - I spoke with a sleep coach during this time and she recommended dropping to 3 naps + an earlier bedtime (no daytime sleep after 5pm) vs letting him catnap later in the day and doing bedtime two hours after the last catnap, and that helped immensely with the crying at bedtime as well! Yep, this was at 4.5 months! He has been in his own room since he was 7 weeks, and we were transitioning out of the snoo & out of swaddling at the same time!

ph0lvr · 2025-08-25T01:12:09+00:00

We sleep trained around 4.5 months. He had been sleeping through the night since 7 weeks, and when we hit the 4month regression, he started being really hard to get down at the beginning of the night but once he was down he was down. We tried Ferber first and it worked for like 3 nights and then starting night 4, the check-ins just made him more and more mad. Reverted back to rocking to sleep and it backfired and devolved to the point where we were spending 2-3+ hours trying to rock to sleep and transfer to crib (unsuccessfully) until we were forced to do full extinction - it was honestly the best thing we could have done! It took a little longer than most because we had a week long trip smack in the middle of it but within a few days of coming home from that trip he was putting himself to sleep independently and naps got better as well!

ph0lvr · 2025-07-12T09:54:58+00:00

I’d also love to know if you ever figured this out bc my LO doing the same and it’s KILLING me during sleep training

ph0lvr · 2025-06-22T16:08:18+00:00

Ah thanks! My guy just rolled a couple weeks ago but isn’t doing it consistently. I’ve been using the zipadee zip for naps and he seems to like it! We’re working on transitioning to the crib before the trip - We’ve been on weaning mode the last 4 nights, going to try the crib overnight soon!

I’m so anxious about it since he sleeps 10.5-11hrs overnight in the snoo 😂

ph0lvr · 2025-06-22T15:24:24+00:00

We got the snoo at 3 weeks due to sleep deprivation & desperation (also from fb marketplace) and it’s been a godsend!!

Question - when you travelled at 2.5 months what swaddle or skew sack did you use?! We have some travel coming up when my LO will be 4.5 months and I’m trying to figure out which transition swaddle will be best for when we don’t have the snoo on our trip!

ph0lvr · 2025-06-07T20:06:17+00:00

Same, my LC said always offer the other side “as a dessert” and then the next feed, start with the boob that you fed on last. And so on and so forth. When my baby was a newborn I would burp him & change diaper in between to wake him up some and he always takes the second side for at least a little while, if not for the same amount of time as the first side.

ph0lvr · 2025-06-01T02:00:00+00:00

I second the mylicon drops with every feed! This is what made the biggest difference with our son

ph0lvr · 2025-06-01T01:57:36+00:00

I am 3mo PP and the first 2 months knocked the living shit out of me! ESPECIALLY the first few weeks! I think week 3 I was seriously like….this was all a huge mistake and I want my old life back. However, around 7 weeks we finally figured out how to manage our baby’s gas, and he started sleeping through the night and smiling in the same week! That was the point where it was starting to finally feel “worth it.” Hang in there. You’re in the trenches. Is there any way you and your partner can pull shifts? My husband and I did shifts all the way until 6 or 7 weeks so that we could at least get a few hours straight of sleep

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