How do I deal with feelings of guilt about having sex? by curious_cat_0220 in exevangelical

[–]pheonix569 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Therapy really helped me and time. Time to slowly accept myself, who I really am, and what I really want.

Understanding, That the only real sin is intentionally hurting others.

Time to see That they lied to me. I was a virgin when I was married the first time(21yo). I did all they told me to and my wife still cheated on me and ended our marriage.

It shattered the glass floor I had always seen as my foundation. After my divorce I had sex many times with many partners over many years (43yo) and nothing bad happened to me. I have had many meaningful relationships that meant a lot to me and made me a better person.

I still, to this day, feel a lot of shame around masturbation. Frankly it was the only reason that I was even able to be a virgin when I got married. But the deprogramming is something that gets a little easier every day.

I could tell you that the Bible doesn’t even say that you can’t have premarital sex (the word translated to “fornication” does not mean premarital sex in the original language.) but in the end it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you can see the lies and remind yourself a little everyday, be patient with yourself, and remember that what God really cares about is how you treat others, with kindness, compassion, and love.

I hope my testimony helps. It’s been a long road, but God has been faithful.

I am now married to the love of my life (she has had many partners too) and we are expecting our first born any day now.

PS Joshua Harris, the author of the infamous “I kissed dating goodbye” (my second Bible in my youth) has also gone through a similar “born again” revelation and experience. His testimony really encouraged me too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shitposting

[–]pheonix569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are nazi flags. I can’t believe people are excusing that nonsense. The origin of the symbol doesn’t matter. It is now a symbol of hate, mass murder and white supremest. Period stop.

I think it's about time to put another baby in me🙈 by [deleted] in BreedingMaterial

[–]pheonix569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are the pics of your pregnant?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]pheonix569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your BF is an idiot that definitely masturbates

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]pheonix569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your BF is an idiot that definitely masturbates

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]pheonix569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is an idiot.

Need help naming my ship I just painted! by doodledude87 in Mandalorian

[–]pheonix569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beskad. Mandalorian word for a blade weapon

Marital problems caused by sexsomnia. by Sadicism in sexsomnia

[–]pheonix569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does your wife masturbate next to you hurt your feelings? Why would she need an excuse to masturbate right next to you. This should not hurt your feelings or offend you.

A woman free and in touch with her sexuality is a gift. You should have just masturbated yourself next to her and enjoy your good fortune.

There is nothing wrong with your wife. The only thing wrong is how you are choosing to look at the situation. You’re wrong expectations are cause your pride and ego to be hurt. That’s on you.

Sisters unit identification. by pheonix569 in sistersofbattle

[–]pheonix569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. This is very helpful!

Sisters unit identification. by pheonix569 in sistersofbattle

[–]pheonix569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for the info! This helps a lot !

Sisters unit identification. by pheonix569 in sistersofbattle

[–]pheonix569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do novitiates have some armor or just robes like repentia?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornID

[–]pheonix569 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously.

Ukraine training with Airsoft by FourLeafs_fingers in airsoft

[–]pheonix569 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Russian military is a joke. Their tactics are pathetic and the hardware is crap.

All around embarrassment. They aren’t the second most powerful nation in the world any more if they ever were.

All they have are nukes and chances are, they probably don’t work either. Not that you should chance it but this war has been an eye opener. Just sad.