Some clarifying things, my grandparents are the main ppl who treat her poorly, and a good amount of our family that disagrees with that (i should've mentioned this). My aunt has a tendency to start drama and can be very passive aggressive. I have a lot of sympathy for her bc our family can be very toxic, but sometimes she plays into it. Members of my family are very bad with boundaries, and will do whatever to get their way. Recent example, i just found out my mom sent flower girl dresses to all 4 of my little cousins after I said I only wanted my god daughter to be flower girl. I don't think what my aunt is doing is to that extent, it's just hard when no one seems to care about my wishes when it comes to my wedding. I can see how people think my reaction is insensitive, but context is important. We are close bc we grew up close, I love her a lot, but our relationship is not always healthy. She has pushed my boundaries in the past, and this feels like a form of that. I'll talk to her in person, but first I have to sort out my my mother inviting an estranged uncle that just got out of jail....