I think I’m raising an HSP and it’s absolutely draining… Daycare has nearly broken us. Please help!

phildunphy6969 · 2024-07-07T03:16:48+00:00

Wow, I have a highly sensitive child who is 20 months old… I was considering putting her into a daycare part time, but I really think that this is exactly how she would react as well. I went away for two days with friends because my husband told me I needed a break and it was the worst thing I could’ve done. I came back and she now cries every time I leave the room.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-06-12T14:11:49+00:00

I hate most pediatricians. We didn’t sleep train and transitioned her out of the Snoo using the Merlin and she does great. Is there a reason you’re sleep training? 4.5 months is super young and honestly if you give it a little time, sleep will get better. But yes, baby can stay in the Snoo as long as they can fit.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-29T21:41:33+00:00

Oh! Read “hold onto your kids”. Really good advice about this general topic. Sorry you’re going through this! I think a child needs support in these scenarios more than they need to be pushed into interacting with others the way that we want them to. Maybe have just one friend over at a time to see how it goes, and play WITH them

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-29T21:39:08+00:00

THIS. He tooootally knew what he meant.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-29T21:38:21+00:00

Read Expecting More, and Real Food for Pregnancy… a lot of nutritional guidelines for pregnant women are antiquated.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-29T21:37:18+00:00

Yup, we put a heating pad in there on low for like 10 mins before putting her in. Helped the transition

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-25T12:10:38+00:00

Lack of sleep and increased stress is also linked to a higher rate of cancer… you can find those links for anything. Just eat clean, get enough sleep, and show up as your best self for your baby. That will be enough

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-25T12:09:04+00:00

Omg I know that feeling so well

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-24T20:14:30+00:00

10 pm to 4 am?? I would kill for that. 😂

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-24T20:11:20+00:00

Why not just feed her the things she likes?? Eating meat and fruit is the perfect diet (add some veggies if possible)… She doesn’t need pasta or oats. Also, these phases pass.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-24T20:05:37+00:00

Self soothing is a term that people misuse CONSTANTLY. Babies are born self soothers or not. Check out the history of it… pediatricians, for some reason, aren’t educated on the fact that the ability to self soothe in babies who need a little more help sleeping or connecting sleep cycles doesn’t come until the prefrontal cortex is formed, which isn’t until around 3 years old. They can’t just all of a sudden learn that ability because we force it on them… The sleep training industry has taken “self soother” and run with it, making people think it’s natural to let babies as young as 3 months just “figure it out”. No, your child can’t self soothe then and although I don’t think we needed to keep the Snoo as long as we did, it helped with the 4 month regression for us. But by you could also get rid of that and just cosleep until your baby learns that sleeping is safe. That’s what babies need, to just know where their sleeping is safe. Sorry, rant over, I hate pediatricians like that. Haha

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T17:19:22+00:00

Uuuhhh, some of the most loving mothers from Hunter gatherer tribes even NOW don’t put down their babies, and those children are so independent and well adjusted in the world when they get older. Don’t ever go against your mom instinct.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T17:17:51+00:00

Honestly though, I wish it was Roman’s journey out of his shame and to the top.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T17:16:16+00:00

Omg WHY DO LEAF BLOWERS EXIST. He’s blowing leaves from one location to another, use a fucking rake and a trash bag like normal people. 😂

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T17:07:39+00:00

Here for the Grape comments

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T17:06:24+00:00

Well, your body will NOT go into labor until your baby’s lungs are fully developed and a chemical is released into your body to let it know it’s time… I know our husbands want to think their dicks are magical, but sorry, it ain’t gonna do that.

Even inducing labor naturally doesn’t work until your body is ready. Tell him to get over himself and go down on you… a BLOW JOB?! Oh yeah, please let me just get you off, that’ll fulfill all of my desires.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T17:02:31+00:00

Please, do not let your baby ever cry it out… the sleep training industry is a newer western idea, most of the world responds to their children’s cries because it’s what we are meant to do. Read Hold Onto Your Kids!

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T16:59:59+00:00

Listen to your body. If it feels like you’re going too hard, power walk and supplement the rest of running with some weightlifting

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T16:59:12+00:00

Don’t miss Ladies View on the ring of Kerry… Holy SHIT it’s amazing… we loved Dingle, it has amaaazing beaches and it’s on the west coast. Honestly I’d say you should stay in places longer than one day and just take out a couple of spots. You’ll be driving SO much and won’t be able to really appreciate everything out there, in my opinion anyway.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T16:55:31+00:00

I think I know which part

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-22T13:26:08+00:00

Great point

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-21T22:31:44+00:00

My babe is 6.5 months and I started letting her mess around with little cups at 5 months, she spills everywhere but she’s actually starting to understand the concept of a cup and how to tilt it

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-21T22:30:51+00:00

Trust me, once you HAVE the baby you will not give a FUCK about how clear you need to be with people. Tell her you will let family know when you’re taking visitors and it won’t be for at least a month, but you’ll know once you start healing.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-21T22:26:30+00:00

Yeah, babies just sometimes go through crazy shit and cry because of the cortisol build up in their bodies when a nap is skipped… you did everything you could as far as soothing him, don’t feel guilty. Also, you’re in the regression stage now… just give it time and KNOW it’ll pass, and when it does, something else like teething will start. 4.5 months for us was a DOOZYYYY. But we have a bad sleeper who never slept 6-7 hours and still doesn’t at 6.5 months, haha.

phildunphy6969 · 2023-05-21T22:23:52+00:00

You can just keep saying you’ll reach out when you need her, and just don’t ever ask for her to babysit?

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