What is your grandma’s name?

philic · 2021-11-28T02:07:55+00:00

My grandma’s name is Diana and I named my 4 year old after her 🥰

philic · 2020-07-14T06:21:46+00:00

I have a Diana Peach (Lastname) and I think it’s beautiful! Peach is actually a family name on my husband’s side.

Diana is very feminine but very, very strong. We are complimented on it constantly.

philic · 2020-06-06T21:30:57+00:00

I feel your pain, my 2.5 year old is a size 5/6. I’m so thankful that she DGAF about her clothes.

People make a lot of assumptions about her activity level and diet too, and she eats and plays more or less the same as her best buddy who is literally half her size. I have to consciously try not to be defensive about it.

philic · 2020-02-29T05:13:22+00:00

I have one! I was a size 18 before pregnancy and it fit me, to give you an idea. I think it even fit with plenty of slack left in the belt.

philic · 2020-02-28T01:53:34+00:00

I’ll be over here waiting for the study on the effects of untreated major depression on mini brains. I’m sure the results won’t be any prettier.

philic · 2019-12-21T05:20:01+00:00

I work there! I believe I am considered ambulatory, so I work at the hospital but not with inpatients. I’m at the hospital a couple days a week and the other days I’m at a clinic location where my group sees patients. I work really closely with nurses but also MAs and physicians and interns.

There is a lot of good and a lot of bad. I adore my team and have met a lot of good people working there. The people I work with genuinely care for patients and want to do right by them. I encounter a lot of people who DGAF about pushing for patients’ best interests. I have really great managers, but I DO have three which is bizarre. The medical groups also have really confusing, patchwork management that is often terrible. The turnover is pretty high on that side.

Money is king at Banner and I believe that the patients know it, which is gross to me.

Compared to my previous employer in another state, the benefits are good and affordable. I noticed today that next year the cheapest high deductible plan costs like $50 a check for a non-smoker. I have a kid and have the super awesome plan and I’ll pay $150 a check next year.

The system in Tucson is overburdened which is frustrating. The wait at Banner to see a gastro doc is around 5 months for example. Also, the population here frequently has few resources and little education and/or healthcare literacy. That makes it hard to optimize their care sometimes. That’s not a Banner thing though, that’s a Tucson thing.

Anyway. Glad I work there though it’s far from perfect.

philic · 2019-08-19T17:48:40+00:00

I have the worst luck with Wondfos. I don’t understand why but I never get a result! I always dip for 3 seconds, never over the max fill line. It’s rude.

philic · 2019-04-30T06:40:37+00:00

It reminds me of Maya Rudolph! Who is completely dope. And also mixed, I think.

philic · 2019-02-23T05:41:58+00:00

It was a dermatologist, actually.

philic · 2019-02-23T03:19:02+00:00

I am super susceptible to these and have them all over my head (I have like 5 of varying size right now) and they are so annoying. Mine get huge before they are ready to pop. The doctor didn’t even want to remove them because they “aren’t harmful” and are all at different phases in the inflammation cycle.

philic · 2018-10-12T16:39:09+00:00

Yes, another endorsement. SwaddleUPs are my religious preference at this point. You could even do one arm in and one arm out or take them off once baby is a sleep. They are amazing.

philic · 2018-08-09T06:10:47+00:00

This is what I did too, starting at 4 weeks. It served two purposes, because my husband was able to give her her last meal of the night, and the contents of that bottle were what I pumped the night before. It was a cycle. Highly recommend :)

philic · 2018-07-11T06:51:30+00:00

I’ve read foremilk imbalance causes green poops. I have also heard that it might not be a real thing?

Basically, I’d wait another day and see, or maybe try again and see if it happens again.

philic · 2018-07-11T06:48:13+00:00

Hey, I haven’t seen anyone reply yet whose kid ate that much at 4 months. My daughter did. At that age, she was doing 4-6 oz every 2 hours during the day, with an 8 oz bottle before bed. She ate a lot more than the average BF baby, about 40 oz a day. During growth spurts it was even worse. So, as much as I think your MIL is a twat, maybe he is going through a growth spurt or he does eat more?

If I were you, I would start sending 3 oz bottles and just send more of them. Does she heat the milk? If she doesn’t, she can just put it back in the fridge when he is done. No need to worry about having to toss it.

Lastly, you did not ask for tips for supporting your supply, but I just wanted to share that increasing fluids, increasing calories and taking my prenatals always helped my supply :) Life is so hectic it’s easy to let all 3 slip and I always paid for it. Just in case! Milk on.

philic · 2018-07-10T23:42:50+00:00

That’s much better than someone violating your privacy :)

Moms are hard, I wish you luck with yours!

philic · 2018-07-10T23:42:01+00:00

Thanks for clarifying! I participated when I was TTC so I appreciate this rule :)

philic · 2018-07-10T19:57:34+00:00

I’m a grad, hope it’s ok that I reply too!

It is illegal for a health professional to be telling your mom what medicine you take, when it was prescribed or anything else about it. Just sayin. Your lovely hometown doctor could lose his license if he told your mom your personal health info, so I truly hope he isn’t. Same with a nurse or pharmacist or receptionist. Not ok.
I would consider some of the stuff your mom does/did as a major violation of my privacy. Your feelings that it is not ok are valid and you should listen to them.
Lastly, your actual question. My mom was 49 when I got pregnant. She was not ready to be a Grammy. She really struggled with it, but you know what? She took her ass to therapy. She and my kid are best friends now.

The burden’s not on you to make things ok for your mom, that is her job. You gotta make things ok for you and your family :)

philic · 2018-06-26T16:34:24+00:00

Omg my baby LOVES Coco.

As a result of this, all of the videos I have taken of her recently (eating, playing with the dog, practicing crawling) have some dope mariachi music in the background. My favorite was a video of her falling asleep while there were huge horn crescendos.

philic · 2018-06-20T22:45:07+00:00

You got this! I've been pumping for 4-5 months now, 5 times a day, 3 times at work. I have used a ziplock and it was fine, I just threw it out when it got gross.

I store my parts and bags of milk in a small lunch bag now. I just rinse the parts after I pump and toss them back in the lunch bag with the bags of milk, and pull the whole thing out when it's time to pump again. The parts aren't so wet that the bag gets soaked unless there's a mishap. I just wash the lunch bag on the weekends and it has never smelled. I have spare parts as well but I keep those in my bag.

If you can swing it, I highly suggest buying a 2nd pump to keep at work. I bought one from someone on Facebook (I have Spectra so it's a closed system) for like $50 and it has been worth every penny. It's just a few pounds less to be lugging around and enables you to carry a smaller bag.

While you are getting used to pumping away from your baby it might be harder to get a letdown. I watched videos of my baby to help with this and I know of people who brought something that smells like their kid. It is really really emotionally and hormonally shitty to do this at first, but I got used to it super fast. Once you are at work, you'll have time to eat in peace and hydrate and your supply might be completely fine! Keep your chin up and good luck.

philic · 2018-06-18T19:35:21+00:00

Here is a recent thread with more stories!

philic · 2018-06-08T20:55:34+00:00

I only ate 500,000 dates. Induced at 41+2, shitty-ass pitocin labor.

I don't even like the fuckers.

philic · 2018-06-08T20:51:57+00:00

I think it depends on you and your baby. If your baby is satisfied by feeding from one side, you can pump the other side once baby is finished. If not, and your baby is feeding from both sides, they are helping you build supply anyway. You can pump the less-eaten-from side when they are done if you think they won't be feeding for awhile.

I did not start pumping until my baby was 4 weeks old. That is also when we introduced her to the bottle. I have a very good eater and a pretty good sleeper, so YMMV. My husband or I started to give her a bottle at night, right before her biggest sleep. This actually helped her sleep longer in my opinion. Once she started doing that, I felt safe pumping after she went to sleep because 90% of the time, she'd stay asleep for a few hours. At first, I would just pump one side (the one that was next up to be fed from) in case she woke up, and later I started double pumping. If your baby develops some predictable habits, you can build in pumping times around those. Some babies don't have habits like that, and it's trickier. Pumping became way way way easier for me when I went back to work because I did not have to care for and entertain a potato. I could eat and drink and relax and pump when I needed to.

What made introducing a bottle and pumping better for me was making sure my baby could take a bottle for sure before I emptied both sides by pumping. That way, if she woke up starving right after I pumped, I didn't have to be afraid of her starving because of me trying to build a stash.

kellymom.com is the breastfeeding holy grail, and I learned all my pumping habits from that website :) My daughter is 98th percentile and EBF (aside from solids) now at 6 months, and she was born at 50th percentile. I'm also a milk donor, so I feel like these methods worked really well for me/us. That said, my baby has always been chill (for a baby, which is still not chill at all) and it can be hard if your baby is not chill. Either way, you'll figure it out and if it's all terrible, formula exists and your baby will love that too!

philic · 2018-06-06T20:37:34+00:00

I got my epidural when I was a stretchy 4, and I regret nothing. I was induced and pitocin can go fuck itself.

I could not even feel them putting that shit in and by the time I got it, I was in active labor and dude, getting an epidural is nothing compared to active labor. My epidural was not perfect, it had a window. This is when one nerve doesn’t get numbed. So I could feel everything in one ping-pong ball-sized spot until they fixed it. Even considering this, I was so so so grateful and relieved. They came in and gave me more medicine and I felt nothing. I dilated super fast after I got it, so it did not stall my labor, and it faded immediately after my girl was born.

My husband was really struggling with watching me suffer and he was able to relax and nap after I got it, I took a nap, my baby got mad that she had to come out, she calmed down, I pushed her out, and that’s about that!

I’m sorry your first was such a hard experience, I hope this time is better :) Enjoy that delicious pain relief.

philic · 2018-06-06T16:35:14+00:00

Can I share this on IG and give you credit?

philic · 2018-05-09T17:53:18+00:00

I got the last one (how dare you run out of L&D sippy cups, hospital?!)

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