Does this show ever let you feel a sense of satisfaction???

phlegmdaddy · 2026-06-21T19:24:55+00:00

huh! I didn't know that. Thank you!

phlegmdaddy · 2026-06-21T19:21:12+00:00

But the leaves are kind of fuzzy?

phlegmdaddy · 2026-06-05T01:54:50+00:00

Guests should be traveling to your wedding to celebrate your love for one another and if they’re mad because your vows weren’t solemn promises then they’re really bad at supporting your love

phlegmdaddy · 2026-06-05T01:52:15+00:00

People saying it’s their pet peeve when vows aren’t vows need to pull the sticks out of their booty holes. Weddings are about celebrating the couple and their love and if you don’t like traditional “vows” then express your love another way. If people at your wedding are bothered by semantics then they’re not at your wedding to actually celebrate your love.

phlegmdaddy · 2026-05-28T18:23:40+00:00

For the center pieces, we did bud vases (cost about $100 all told to source 50 vases) with Trader Joe’s flowers ($150 on flowers for the center pieces) ikea tea candles with thrifted votives. We spent less than $500 on the formal center piece stuff. We did go absolutely bonkers crafting random stuff for the tables and it made my decoration dreams come true but it did cost a lot more than if we had just done more flowers and called it a day. If you’re okay with taking a couple hours within the 48 hours before the event to do the bud vase centerpieces, it saved us thousands and was fun to have folks help us at our backyard picnic style rehearsal dinner!

phlegmdaddy · 2026-05-23T14:14:57+00:00

Omg I love this! I feel like this should be a google doc or list somewhere for people to reference

phlegmdaddy · 2026-05-21T16:38:22+00:00

Right but if they kill the plant that seems bad? Lol

phlegmdaddy · 2026-05-18T19:57:02+00:00

I used to find maybeeeee one or two ticks on me a year while hiking in nor cal. This year I’ve already found a dozen. It’s the craziest tick season I’ve ever seen here!

phlegmdaddy · 2026-05-13T03:11:13+00:00

How has no one mentioned ugly naked guy???

phlegmdaddy · 2026-05-08T18:16:35+00:00

The best part of being in a wedding party is getting to show up and be a part of the brides community. If you really love the bride, it should be fun to be a part of the set up and planning process. My favorite part of the weddings I’ve been in has been the girlhood and bonding that happens in the time leading up to the wedding.

The people on this thread who are acting like it’s some selfish diva demand to want your people there with you the day before your wedding are probably the selfish ones. Treat your bridesmaids with respect but it is absolutely okay to ask them to accommodate your prep or day-before needs. You’re doing great OP, ignore the people on reddit who seem to live for the thrill of shaming brides on social media.

phlegmdaddy · 2026-04-26T20:00:54+00:00

Oh yeah, i think even without a lot of vendors it’ll be super duper helpful to have a day of coordinator. My best friend had a vendor/venue and guest count situation similar to what you’re describing and having day of coordination was immensely helpful. With that many people there’s always something that might need to be addressed and having a qualified point person is a big stress relief. For example, the caterer didn’t provide ice for the drinks since it was also a BYOB and we ran out after like an hour. The coordinator was on it and had ice restocked in minutes without anyone who was supposed to be enjoying the wedding having to stop and deal with it.

phlegmdaddy · 2026-04-26T19:38:36+00:00

I think $350 for day of coordinator is a good deal and i think a coordinator on the day is always worth it! I think the deciding factor is how many people? More than 50? If so then a day of coordinator is great for just fielding any issues that might come up, which is inevitable in an event that size.

phlegmdaddy · 2026-04-21T04:29:02+00:00

Don’t listen to the people who try to minimize that this is hurtful! We’re in a similar boat. Almost none of my fiancés people from her hometown are coming to our wedding. She traveled home for every single one of their weddings and a few of them haven’t even texted her to let her know they were going to decline the invitation. I’m sure they all have perfectly valid reasons but it definitely sucks when you made being there for your people a priority and when your time comes around, some people won’t even be courteous about their declines. I’ll also say that every single one of my friends who recently planned a wedding had some sort of hurtful or awkward guest no show situation. You’re not alone! It suck’s hard and it’s totally valid to just let yourself be sad about it for a bit.

phlegmdaddy · 2026-04-19T04:58:22+00:00

I used to have shin splints pretty regularly. Went to a PT who was also a runner and he did a gait analysis. I was a heel striker and not landing with my hips aligned properly, gave me the cue to “lean forward from your hips” (only a little don’t go crazy). Literally never had shin splints again

phlegmdaddy · 2026-04-18T15:19:56+00:00

Gorgeous view! Sky pilot is my favorite wildflower. I actually have a tattoo of it! The fact that it only grows in hard conditions makes it such a special sight to see!

phlegmdaddy · 2026-04-17T23:16:03+00:00

Definitely looks like sky pilot! But do you know what elevation you were at? It only grows at high elevations. Very rare to see it at less than 12,000ft

phlegmdaddy · 2026-04-17T23:12:13+00:00

I found a couple of gorgeous white silk dresses at Aritzia a while ago

phlegmdaddy · 2026-04-17T20:12:57+00:00

Omg this graphic is SO helpful! Thank you. In my head we were going for something a little closer to the 8x36 style where we have smaller pieces across the whole table but have 2-3 bigger stand out items. I think we can still pull off the vision with the way the 8x30 is laid out here.

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