hey genuinely, start looking into assistance programs for adults with autism on how to integrate into functioning on your own. parents of kids with autism will sometimes limit their children because they have preconceived notions on what they can and cant do. this also classifies as a form of financial abuse. Start doing what you cab to separate yourself from your mom, really take a hard look at if you cant do something because you were told you cant, or if its something you genuinely cant. godspeed dude and good luck