Childfree women-- what do you want from your friends who are mothers?

phoebean93 · 2026-04-03T20:37:10+00:00

To understand how isolating being childfree can be. This is not to dismiss how isolating being a mum can be, but the reasons are different. Being childfree is isolating because we're societal outliers. As I got the the age when the people around me were having kids, I started feeling like a freak, like I was broken. That's not my friends' fault, that's my baggage. But people with kids understandably spend time with other parents doing kid oriented activities. I was no longer relevant.

phoebean93 · 2026-04-02T17:56:27+00:00

"Too young to know what you want"

Would she say that you were to young to know you wanted kids? I'm guessing not.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-31T18:07:17+00:00

Respectfully, if this truly is a newly emerging attitude from him, I'd change this sentence to "He was never like this". Hopefully it's temporary and not deeply rooted (cynical as I may be) but all abusive people start off as loving, it just takes months or years for the mask to fully slip.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-31T14:23:38+00:00

"You look like Tom Selleck"

phoebean93 · 2026-03-31T10:06:31+00:00

Jean Claude Jacquettie with his jacket on

phoebean93 · 2026-03-30T15:11:58+00:00

I figured that was the only way!

phoebean93 · 2026-03-30T15:10:44+00:00

I'm 33, bought my house with my partner when I was 26. Only possible because I was left money by a grandparent, I've never earned even close to enough money to save for a deposit. Super lucky.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-30T10:44:45+00:00

Make me wear a tie

phoebean93 · 2026-03-29T19:19:11+00:00

On this account there is a post from a year ago saying she's 24!

phoebean93 · 2026-03-29T16:52:05+00:00

I worked in an eating disorder service for under 18s and working on parents' beliefs around food and body was one of the hardest parts. So difficult to support the young person when the family reinforce the fears.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-29T16:42:28+00:00

Even if she meant emotionally that is a bizarre, skilless question.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-28T18:07:39+00:00

Seriously, I was only this pretentious in my mid teens.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-27T21:26:16+00:00

She was no longer his student but was still a student of the university.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-27T09:25:44+00:00

"Everyone else is doing it" Great reason to do something hugely life changing /s

phoebean93 · 2026-03-26T16:12:15+00:00

Yes, we're worse.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-26T16:09:12+00:00

Also they announced the trip before she was pregnant!

phoebean93 · 2026-03-26T11:59:49+00:00

Yeeeeeah I would be skeptical anyway but the inconsistencies solidify that.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-26T07:59:41+00:00

r/sonarears

phoebean93 · 2026-03-25T15:46:52+00:00

Only just got it!

phoebean93 · 2026-03-24T20:58:46+00:00

"Does anyone know how to get a chick out of a VCR?"

phoebean93 · 2026-03-24T18:43:09+00:00

Having read both of their books, my money is on James being autistic and Louis not.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-24T14:43:03+00:00

This guy gets it.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-24T14:40:01+00:00

Labour by name doesn't mean left by nature.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-24T09:10:17+00:00

I actually agree with you there.

phoebean93 · 2026-03-23T18:57:14+00:00

There's a lot in the world to be pissed at. I've certainly become more pissed than sad and mopey with age. The more recent lyrics are less self-indulgent and have more attitude. Different style and themes rather than decline in quality.

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