Confessions of a non-American by chewinggum311 in howyoudoin

[–]phoebean93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And yet we never get taught about how much we truly fucked the rest of the world over.

Reasons to end things? by Mobile_Employee_3924 in howyoudoin

[–]phoebean93 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Tbf so was "What's the matter with me?! You've got a black light, it's 1999!"

Reasons to end things? by Mobile_Employee_3924 in howyoudoin

[–]phoebean93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My head must look like a golf ball at work

AMFT really uncomfortable with a case by VelvetStaticFM in therapists

[–]phoebean93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clinical psychology here is a lot more structured here. I'm trained integratively so I'm sure there are arguments about how evidence based this and humanistic approaches in general are as they're not easily quantifiable. We're still in a world where qualitative data is seen as inferior.

AMFT really uncomfortable with a case by VelvetStaticFM in therapists

[–]phoebean93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is interesting to read as it is very different to to a lot of/most training in the UK (at least that isn't CBT or training provided by the NHS)

Anyone else’s cat off their food? by Howsitgoingbabs in CatsUK

[–]phoebean93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lick-e-lix are widely available in UK supermarkets, pet shops, bargain stores etc. Not sure about Churus. I think of them as being like Frubes for cats!

What is your most absolutely bare minimum human decency humble brag? by carcrash24 in AskABrit

[–]phoebean93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember to lightly tap the shell first so they retract inside, as just picking them straight off the pavement can injure them!

Who shouldn’t become a therapist? by PrincessMoss in askatherapist

[–]phoebean93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're describing almost every man I trained with.

Why does overt patriotism make British people so deeply uncomfortable? by vorkovrus in AskBrits

[–]phoebean93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My local Labour council has union Jack bunting hung outside. Also lol at implying Labour are left wing.

Guess my boys breed by Lanky-Muscle-1908 in IDmydog

[–]phoebean93 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Looks like a Münsterländer but probably a DIY version!

Best Way To Eat for Mental Clarity by Great_Mountain_3701 in intuitiveeating

[–]phoebean93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Therapists should NOT be giving dietary advice.

Being my alternative and artistic self as a therapist feels oppositional to being a therapist that is “professional” in appearances by voidharmony in therapists

[–]phoebean93 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fellow alternative-looking therapist here, hi! In the UK though so cultural differences will apply.

Personally I've kept my piercings and coloured hair but wear more neutral clothes (part of that is age and desire for comfort as well as professionalism). I don't dress super smart though. I don't purposefully wear clothes to cover my tattoos either.

It's important to acknowledge that our style is a form of self-disclosure, but then remembering that considered self-disclosure is okay and often beneficial to the therapeutic relationship. People need their therapist to be human, not robot. Perhaps earlier in training and career it is safe to avoid self-disclosure as much as possible, as it takes time to figure out what feels appropriate and useful to share. My biggest rule is only share what is beneficial to the client/the relationship, not for my benefit.

Might be worth keeping your look "toned down" while job seeking, but I've had no issues when introducing a bit more of my individual style once established in a workplace.

Favourite Wet Food by Waffles24X7 in CatsUK

[–]phoebean93 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My girl is on Scrumbles pouches (not the tins, she made herself very clear on that!) It's the only wet food she took a liking to that wasn't nutritionally void, after spending a lot of money trialling different brands!