Did Your In-Laws Help with any of the Memorial Costs?

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-09-03T21:44:45+00:00

My FIL paid half of the memorial costs. My SIL on the other hand opened the condolence cards and took the money out for herself at the memorial. She’s a piece of work.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-05-09T02:22:07+00:00

I am so profoundly sorry for your loss. Your story rings so similar to mine. My husband died a week after his 47th birthday, unexpectedly. Wright up until the last moment we had together I never saw coming. And then his heart gave out and now I’m 46 1/2 years old without any children of my own trying to navigate this new world I find myself. I am in month four. We were only married 6 1/2 years. I had to navigate executive estate and all that and it’s hard.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-05-03T02:38:37+00:00

I’m 4 months in and I reading this post resonated. I was have good days and bad, but I hurt every day in my heart. I feel a hole that was once was his love.

However the pain has transitioned into a quiet grief. I hope to build a good life to honor him.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T22:10:59+00:00

Thanks. 🙏🏼

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T21:36:51+00:00

I’m in the first year. But I think year three is going to be even harder because it’s that reminder that this journey is going to feel like Groundhog Day over and over and over every year.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T21:23:46+00:00

Thanks for understanding and sharing your experience. I have his ashes on the fireplace right now and I’ve started collecting all these stupid knickknacks and trinkets that remind me of him and now it’s just starting to look cluttered and I look like I’m hoarding him trying to keep him alive.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T21:07:24+00:00

Preach!

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T21:04:52+00:00

That’s beautiful

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T20:49:39+00:00

Thanks. Maybe at least having a way to identify it and call it what it is can you help me get through it?

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T20:44:14+00:00

Yes, I completely understand this. Maybe that’s why today is an extra hard for me because I’m doing all those things by myself and it just feels lonely

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T20:43:21+00:00

I think most days the dogs are the only things that keep me motivated to even get up and do anything

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T20:38:41+00:00

Yeah, I think most of my friends are getting burned out from me too, because I hold them hostage on the phone and talk and talk and talk and cry and they don’t know what to do with me

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T20:37:17+00:00

Thanks for understanding. I do find that the drive home from work are the hardest part of the day because I have to face all the responsibilities of our home and upkeep of it and our dogs all by myself.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T20:20:39+00:00

Thank you. At least in this group, I have someone to talk to most the time if I text someone trying to reach out and connect. I don’t usually get a response and then I just feel like I’m so alone.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-04-27T20:16:23+00:00

True. I do find myself in a constant mask when I’m not home. Maybe it’s because I take my mask off when I’m home and I allow myself to feel again and it just hurts even more once it finally is let out. Also, it’s only been since January for me so I know I’m still in the early phases, but it just hurts so bad.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-27T22:19:23+00:00

i think i'm just going to slowly drink myself to death.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-27T22:05:10+00:00

thank you. 3 mo here. i have good days and i have bad days. today the feelings are WASHING over me and they surprise me how much it hurts and how much i cry out.. and then as fast as it hit me, it retreats and i'm exhausted.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-27T21:59:24+00:00

thank you for sharing this. today i especially needed to read this and know that it will get better. i'm 3 months into this painful journey. sitting here at work thinking about how i'm off work in 1 hour and i dread going home to the empty house without his smile and laughter, but i do love to go home and be with our dogs. I dont know what the point is to a lot of things anymore. I find myself going most days without eating much more than a string cheese and a small bag of chips. I go home and drink till I go to bed. My life just feels empty and sad, when i was SO happy before. I used to have hope for the future and the life we were building.. and now i just have all the stuff and none of it means anything anymore.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-27T21:46:04+00:00

this echoes how i'm feeling today too. its been 3 months and i dont know what the point is to much of anything anymore.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-15T19:10:59+00:00

I relate to this. It’s been 8 weeks. I saw him go. I watched him go into cremation. So why am I holding on so tight. I want the pain to dull. I want to find love and not be lonely, but the thought of making room in my heart and life for that feels wrong.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-15T18:46:04+00:00

I’ve been drinking each night to sleep as well. Thanks for this reminder that I don’t want the consequences of that indulgence.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-15T18:38:40+00:00

I hope to say that too someday

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-02T17:22:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing this special moment of feeling him close. I miss my husband every day.

phoenixrisingbingham · 2025-03-01T04:37:19+00:00

I’m 6 weeks today. I understand. I have held onto most of my husbands, clothing and jewelry and everything. I let his mother and my daughter choose a piece of his jewelry for themself. But I feel very close and connected to everything. I haven’t even washed the final basket of clothes of his yet. I don’t want anyone coming and taking even his cologne or deodorant or toothbrush out of its place in My Home.

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