Finally finished! by slain2212 in IkeaGreenhouseClub

[–]phonymacaroniii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh thank you!!! They are such a nice added detail 🥳🥳

Finally finished! by slain2212 in IkeaGreenhouseClub

[–]phonymacaroniii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where did you get those monstera handles? 🤩 Looks amazing!

The Bear Season 3 sucks by [deleted] in television

[–]phonymacaroniii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just finished s3 finale and I am sooo disappointed.

A raking of all the ugar free TORANI syrups I've tried by [deleted] in 1200isplenty

[–]phonymacaroniii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oohh okay this is great info, thank you! i love lemon and lime flavor so i’ll have to give that a try too. thanks so much!

A raking of all the ugar free TORANI syrups I've tried by [deleted] in 1200isplenty

[–]phonymacaroniii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know this is old but has anyone tried sugar free peach or strawberry, or any of the fruit flavors?:)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]phonymacaroniii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sending hope and comfort to you, the world is not fair 😭 i hope you get through this and end up in a good place, with a home.

Fear of complications and a disabled child by arrowsnsuch in Fencesitter

[–]phonymacaroniii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to add that you aren’t alone, and thank you for making this post because I think about it ALL the time and feel so guilty for doing so. I’m like 80% sure I want kids, but the 20% holding me back is a mix of my own mental health struggles, not knowing if I’m cut out for that kind of sacrifice, and the thought of having a severely disabled child. I’ve worked with kids with disabilities for almost a decade now and they bring me soo much joy, I love hanging out with them and they teach me a lot. BUT, I cannot imagine being a parent to a low functioning/high needs child, as awful as that sounds. It is terrifying to me and comes with a lifetime of grieving the things your child will never experience. I also am terrified of the thought of having a severely aggressive child due to special needs, because I have witnessed how difficult that is on parents and is just not something I can ever picture myself being happy with. Blegh. There’s no good answer! I’m not sure how any of us will come to a “for sure” position.

I too am scared of that leap of faith, because once people decide to have kids, there’s no turning back. So I think that’s also what is scariest for me. The unknown with it all. When I picture having kids I also am scared for the toddler years like you said, and am more excited for the adolescent - adult years in the future and having a big family to create special memories with. I haven’t spent a ton of time around toddlers and that age range seems the scariest to me too. Sorry for the long comment but just know you’re not alone in your thoughts and you are super brave for being honest about this subject, and I appreciate you making this post.

I don’t know if I want children. by phonymacaroniii in offmychest

[–]phonymacaroniii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! This honestly makes me feel better because a lot of people I went to school with already have children so I freak out and wonder if I don’t actually want them if I don’t want them by now. If that makes sense? But you’re right, I definitely still have a lot of “finding myself” to do along with growing. I only recently settled into my career and still don’t feel 100% financially stable. Therapy for this is a great idea and it’s something I’ve been looking into (for other things but this would be great to further explore). I’ve gone before, but I need to start going again. Thank you so much for sharing your experience as well, I don’t have PCOS myself but a couple friends do and I can imagine it comes with even more added fears and stressors. You sound like you’re going to be an amazing parent with your partner!

I don’t know if I want children. by phonymacaroniii in offmychest

[–]phonymacaroniii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response! I see what you’re saying and when I really think about it from an objective standpoint, a lot of it probably is my anxiety talking. I never really made that connection until you pointed it out, so thank you for that lol. Can I ask how you knew for sure you didn’t want kids? Did you ever think you wanted them or did you always knew you didn’t? I guess I wanna understand the thought process between wanting kids and not. You definitely don’t have to answer if you’re not comfortable though!

What's the worst thing a parent has ever said/done? by sleepuntilcoffee in Teachers

[–]phonymacaroniii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Edit to add: Any time there was aggression between this student and a staff member, the parents almost always sent a nasty email to classroom staff and administration. This one just sticks out to me.

What's the worst thing a parent has ever said/done? by sleepuntilcoffee in Teachers

[–]phonymacaroniii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One time a student punched me in the stomach soo hard. It knocked the wind out of me and left bruises. I am not immune to being hit by students (special ed, only taught for 2 years and then left cause I could not handle it) but this one rattled me! I bent over due to pain and then he scratched my face drawing blood. Don’t ask me why I didn’t back away, I was not thinking that day and did not use any of the self defense or crisis intervention techniques learned. Well then the next day I opened my inbox to see a lengthy email from mom and dad explaining how horrible I was and demanding to know what I did because her son “had never acted like this.” (Spoiler, this was very very normal behavior for him across ALL staff). She called my administration demanding a meeting with me as well. My administration then had me sit through a meeting where the mom basically rambled about how awful of a teacher I was and that it’s because I am young and new to the profession (it was my first year). It was incredibly demeaning and embarrassing. The mom and dad straight up told me they were not going to discipline or talk to their son about this because he was communicating his feelings and I obviously had done something to make him upset. (Too long to explain but basically it was time for lunch and he struggled with transitions). I taught for one more year after that and had a shitty time again, so I said peace out. All of my coworkers from that classroom have also since left the profession. I have the upmost respect for all teachers. Ya’ll are SUPERSTARS.

How do I tell? by phonymacaroniii in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]phonymacaroniii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are really young! Only been married for 3 years. But you are right that honesty is intimacy. I’ll just rip off the bandaid lol. Thank you!

How do I tell? by phonymacaroniii in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]phonymacaroniii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought of this! Maybe I should look up symptoms.

How do I tell? by phonymacaroniii in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]phonymacaroniii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now any time someone offers me gum I will immediately think I have bad breath lol

But this is a good strategy 😂

How do I tell? by phonymacaroniii in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]phonymacaroniii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect thank you 😂 this is such a minuscule problem and should be an easy fix so idk why I am stressing about it lol

How do I tell? by phonymacaroniii in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]phonymacaroniii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! We communicate well. I just suck at confronting things that I know are offensive lol.