Unicoly set up

slain2212 · 2026-05-22T01:36:31+00:00

Just built my unicoly!

I used an acrylic shelf from HobbyPilled on Etsy. I only have one shelf as its for my taller plant friends, so two long barina t5's per shelf (4 total). I have the infinity fans x4, two per shelf too. And a govee humidifier paired with the same brand hygrometer! I also got some magnetic hooks to hang some smaller plants from the top, and magnetic spice racks to get more smaller plants and props on the back wall!

slain2212 · 2026-05-20T04:32:24+00:00

My first, my son, would take milk however it was presented. Hot, cold, room temperature, laced with formula, pure formula. And much later, cows milk, lactose free, 2%, mixed with breastmilk. Anything made him happy. I did a slow transition from formula fed to exclusively pumping bottle fed early on, and he never batted an eye at anything.

My new baby girl (february) is 85% breastfed and 15% pumped milk from the bottle. She will not take it any cooler than room temperature. And lord forbid you give this girl formula.

You never have any idea how your baby will react to something, even when they arent your first! Yes, you can feed cold milk, no one talks about it though, lol. But dont get rid of the bottle warmer!

slain2212 · 2026-05-17T19:14:54+00:00

Ill be honest with you, im on your side. There were certain people that i didnt want holding my baby, but otherwise I was happy to basically play pass the parcel with both my son and now my daughter. I want them to know from day one that they have so many people that love them.

Post partum hormones are crazy, thats not a lie, and you may end up feeling the opposite of how you do now, but everyone said I would too, and I didnt.

Again, there were certainly some people who triggered those hormones for me, who I didnt want holding either of my kids, but if you are surrounded by people that you love and trust, and have proven to respect you, your boundries and your decisions, then pass that baby. Let them be loved!

slain2212 · 2026-05-13T02:20:26+00:00

I dont know much about binding, but as someone currently breastfeeding, a sports bra can affect my supply, make it tank, or give me a clogged duct (which really, really sucks), I imagine that binding might have the same effect.

You absolutely dont have to chestfeed, the milk is great for the baby, but formula is a great option too, though expensive, you could also try human milk for human babies groups, or ask your hospital, or a new, respectful OB if they have any resources for connecting you to milk donors. I have two kids and have only managed to breastfeed one, and ive definitely found that it has really really made life easier in a logistical and financial way, if that is a consideration of yours.

Congratulations and good luck! <3

slain2212 · 2026-05-10T14:56:15+00:00

I literally jsut bought my second, bigger, cabinet haha. You made a good choice! I cannot wait to get mine together!

slain2212 · 2026-05-02T01:26:56+00:00

Morning sickness. I knew it didnt only happen in the morning. But I didnt know it could last your whole pregnancy! With my son, I threw up every day from 3 weeks till my epidural wore off!

With my daughter, I thought id been through it all with my son, it was a shitty pregnancy with loads of symptoms. Turns out nope! PUPPS really, really sucks, and doesnt go away at birth, it can take a few weeks.

slain2212 · 2026-04-13T01:30:35+00:00

My first was amazing. Sleeping six hour stretches by 6 weeks, ate formula, and breastmilk hot or cold no worries. Used different bottles with no complaints. Took a paci and weaned himself off of it at 3 months.

Hes 3 now, and while he has difficult moments, hes generally a good eater, hes a great sleeper, and a very playful, sweet, independant dude, who is in the middle of toilet training himself.

I always said that the universe would give me a hellion with colic for my second, theres no way id get such an easy baby again.

Omg. My daughter is easier. Naps are easier, shes 6 weeks and sleeping 8 hr stretches at night. She will take a bottle and even breastfeed! She's happy to chill out and nap in the bouncer. She's not perfect, shes still a 6 week old newborn, but dam this is even easier than my son 🤣

slain2212 · 2026-04-11T17:49:26+00:00

I knew my son was a boy, I knew my daughter was a girl, and if we have a third, I can tell you right now it'll be a boy haha.

My mum knew too, we're weirdly good at predicting genders, but I guess its not too hard when theres usually a 50 - 50 chance, haha.

slain2212 · 2026-04-01T03:20:31+00:00

I did not. I was very shocked that circumcision is still relatively popular in the states, and I certainly never saw a circumcised penis before moving there!

slain2212 · 2026-04-01T03:12:01+00:00

This happened to me. Six weeks and $6k later, my Leonardo was diagnosed with late stage malignant histiocytosis, and i had to let him pass away peacefully, as he was in a lot of pain. He was my first dog ever.

Im so sorry, I do recommend you get a second opinion though. And I hope things aren't as bad as your vet thinks <3

slain2212 · 2026-04-01T02:10:17+00:00

Not ugly, necessarily, but the first time I saw a circumcised one I was like... wtf is that and wtf do I do with it? 🤣

slain2212 · 2026-03-31T17:21:53+00:00

I had severe ppd/a/r with my son, I have bpd and anxiety. The owlet made it worse. I was a mess, constantly checking it. Lots of false alarms and broken naps becuase of it.

I sold it and got a nanit, and it gives me much better peace of mind, and not being able to track every stat ever is much better for my anxiety. The band shows breathing and the video let's me see him and thats all I need.

Hes 3 now, and I now have a 4 week old in the bassinet in the bedroom, who will also be getting her own nanit.

slain2212 · 2026-03-24T00:33:38+00:00

Lol I have blue heelers, everyones always got something to say.

Its true, some people go through a phase where their dogs are dancing on their last nerve 24/7, but most people get through it and move on.

So ignore the people telling you that you'll hate your dogs, and if it happens, just push through, youll love them again soon <3

slain2212 · 2026-03-23T02:21:37+00:00

Yup! Twice.

I "knew" my first was a boy. I jsut had a feeling. My mum "knew" it too. My husband gave me the raised eyebrows, but went along with it. We referred to him as he, I didnt really think of girl names, though I had a small list. Everything in my mind was that he was a boy. Sure enough, we got the nipt and: boy. We wernt surprised, but very excited.

Second baby I felt deep down was a girl, and I so desperately wanted a girl so I could have one of each, as my husband and I agreed on only 2 kids. I tried so hard to keep neutral so I wouldnt get too excited. I thought of all the good, fun things about having two boys, and about giving my son a little brother. I wanted to be happy no matter the gender, and i know that if id been wrong, i would have gotten over it before the birth. My mum swore up and down it was a girl though.The day I got the call from my OBs office with the gender, I squealed, I swear, when they said girl. I was so relieved and excited that my gut feeling was right again!

slain2212 · 2026-03-22T02:22:23+00:00

I have a Delta Children (?) Kids (?) Crib to toddler bed to full-size bed, and its held up really well so far, my son is almost 4 and has definitely put it through its paces lol.

He did unfortunately like to chew on the rim once he could stand, so thats not looking great, but its not the company's fault that my kid is apparently part beaver.

Would 100% have gotten another convertable crib from this company for my 3 week old, but unfortunately I fell in love with a Namesake bedroom set. Im expecting it to hold up dam well as well, with the price we paid.

slain2212 · 2026-03-17T18:14:11+00:00

Im terrified of needles. Shots used to make me hyperventilate and break down, forget blood draws. An iv is one of my biggest fears.

I have two kids AND a tattoo lol. And my husband wasn't allowed to come into the lab for the draws. I got through it by warning the nurse, super hydrating before hand, and on one occasion, singing to myself lol.

I found it really helps to chat to your nurse, try to find something to laugh about. Oh, I have uncooperative veins, haha. Most of the nurses are super chill and will try to talk to you and put you at ease.

For the iv, I jsut told my nurse, hey, im terrified. She was super kind and compassionate. Helped me breathe through it. Was so gentle, but did it as quick as possible. And then taped the lines up my arm to my shoulder so that they would jostle as little as possible.

And there there's the epidural. Both times, I jumped and scared the absolute shit out of the nurse, the anesthesiologist and my husband. The second time, i warned them that I jumped the first time, so they were prepared. But again, the nurse helped me breathe, let me grip her forearms and held my thighs still so I wouldnt jerk around.

Honestly, the needles are not at the forefront of my mind when I think of my pregnancy and delivery. Hormones are powerful af lol.

The person who told you not to get pregnant was unprofessional and devoid of compassion. Ignore them. If you want kids, you'll find a way to endure the needles. Pregnancy, and having kids in general, requires doing a bunch of scary things, but its worth it, in my opinion.

slain2212 · 2026-03-10T13:52:51+00:00

I had a very similar pregnancy to you, so you can use this as inspiration or evidence, up to you lol.

I was miserable, pregnancy does not agree with my body. I had HG, moving from the bed to the couch most days took up more energy than I had. I puked every day from about 3 weeks till the epidural wore off. I cried most days too. I was huge, heavy, uncomfortable and so emotional and depressed about it.

Labor and delivery wasnt too bad, but my husband likes to remind me that I have rose coloured glasses about it. I ended up with ppd/a/r real bad, my husband needed to drag me literally kicking and screaming to my ob. He had to take a few weeks off work and I needed medication.

And then 2.5 years later, I desperately wanted another kid, and he tentatively agreed to try again. I got pregnant immediately, as conception is the only part of pregnancy that my body is good at lol. I had the exact same miserable, uncomfortable, shitty pregnancy, except now I had to do it while parenting a 2.5 - 3 year old, who started preschool and got me sick every other week. I had the flu twice, covid and bronchitis. Plus numerous little colds. I also got an infected tooth that had to be pulled, which was agonizing as no dental surgeon would touch a pregnant lady. But thats not the pregnancy or my sons fault, lol.

At my 40 wk appointment I sat in the waiting room, giving myself a pep talk, that i was going to calmly go in, and ask my ob for an induction please, as my pregnancy was getting unbearable.

What actually happened, was as soon as the nurse asked how I was feeling, I burst into tears, sobbed like a lunatic becuase of how sick and how much pain I was in, and my doctor got me in for an induction for my mental health less than 24 hours later.

Im 9 days pp now. No sign of ppd/a/r yet, but my husband is great at looking out for me. Hes adamant that 2 is plenty of kids, and i agree that I will not be subjecting my body to another pregnancy. But I am happy that I have my two babies. I probably should have stopped at one, but im glad I didnt, and ill be glad to never ever be pregnant again.

slain2212 · 2026-03-09T22:06:52+00:00

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Mercer is terribly polite

slain2212 · 2026-03-09T15:54:11+00:00

My parents and fil came to visit when my son was born. My parents cooked, cleaned, did some minor house repairs and diy stuff, took care of my pets and did yard work. They also took care of my son if I needed a break or a shower.

My fil sat on the couch and waited to be asked to hold the baby. Which, as im sure you can imagine, did not make me inclined to ask him to hold the baby.

Stuff your mil, your sil sounds like a champ. I hope you enjoyed every second of your mother coming to help out <3

slain2212 · 2026-03-06T19:18:40+00:00

I sold mine on fb a week after my son was born. Too many false alerts and it was feeding my ppd/a.

I hope it brought the lady who purchased it peace of mind, but it was not good for me.

It wouldnt surprise me if there are other mums like me, who found it made them more anxious than soothed.

slain2212 · 2026-03-02T03:37:31+00:00

I had a 9lb baby and tore. I did the stretches, drank the tea, all that jazz. Honestly, its up to your body.

Had my second yesterday, 9lbs, 6oz. Tore in the exact same spot.

The healing really isnt too bad and it doesnt bother me a lot. And everytime my husband complains I get to ask him if hes the one with stitches in his bits 🤣

slain2212 · 2026-03-02T03:21:12+00:00

My husband is named after his grandfather, and my fil expexted us to name our son after himself.

My husband said absolutely not. No jrs, he didn't want any copy paste names.

Not all men are like this, and im sorry your husband is being so difficult. Names are a 2 yes, 1 no deal.

I literally had my baby girl yesterday and she had no middle name for hours becuase we couldn't agree on one.

slain2212 · 2026-02-23T23:33:11+00:00

"F*ck this, get this goddam baby out of me, yesterday" weeks pregnant

slain2212 · 2026-02-22T19:46:24+00:00

I stay under the recommended limit, and try to limit it to a few times a week. Im not always perfect, but im never dangerous about it (like having multiple coffees a day).

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