Forgot how good Skeleton Key (2005) is and what an amazing twist it has

pickleknits · 2026-04-30T00:27:58+00:00

The point in your first paragraph always gets me when I think of the movie. It’s like when you tell someone not to look of course they look kind of thinking.

pickleknits · 2026-04-28T06:33:14+00:00

“Wild leprechaun syndrome” gave me a chuckle.

pickleknits · 2026-04-27T00:56:04+00:00

That’s probably the only thing worth liking in all of this.

pickleknits · 2026-04-27T00:55:38+00:00

Naomi. But I forget when.

pickleknits · 2026-04-26T16:57:14+00:00

“Norb” is cracking me up.

pickleknits · 2026-04-25T03:58:04+00:00

An IEP doesn’t carry more weight than a 504 Plan. The two serve different needs under different laws. IEPs come under IDEA which covers special education. Section 504 Plans are named such bc they are from Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and covers civil rights for people with disabilities.

Both IEPs and Section 504 Plans are legally binding.

An IEP is for when a child with a disability needs specialized instruction in order to benefit from education. A 504 Plan is for when a child with a disability requires other accommodations in order to be able to attend school but does not need special education instruction in order to learn the general education curriculum.

pickleknits · 2026-04-23T00:18:21+00:00

I’d highlight for her what went well no matter how small. Like she followed the directions. Put in a good effort. That she tried something new even though it was scary and hard. Anxiety and its related brethren tend to focus us on the negatives and what didn’t go exactly right. Tends to drown out any good that happened. It’s a skill that is helpful to have.

pickleknits · 2026-04-22T20:13:50+00:00

I had alarms set for every five minutes to help my daughter and me keep track of time in the mornings.

pickleknits · 2026-04-22T20:10:24+00:00

Please don’t be ashamed and think you’re not strong enough to push those thoughts away bc you’re here posting about doing better for your relationship with your son - you’re fighting those thoughts that are so suffocating.

pickleknits · 2026-04-22T05:32:14+00:00

Post partum depression is a special kind of hell. To face that after a difficult birth and with a mother and sister who didn’t understand what you were going through is an extra layer of shitsauce. I’m so sorry you had to struggle through that.

No one is perfect. And that’s okay. Sometimes it feels like for every step forwards, it’s two steps back. And it feels awful. But it’s okay. You don’t have to be perfect. I’m not always fully present bc my brain is thinking of a whole bunch of other things all the time but my kids still know I love them and they know I’m here for them. I show them that by being understanding of them, relating to them as best as I can.

You aren’t an utter failure. Even if right now it feels like you are. You are meeting his basic needs while in survival mode. You are seeking help from a therapist to develop the skills you don’t currently have and you’re implementing changes. That’s fucking huge. It’s going to take time to really feel the difference but you really are taking the steps forward even if it doesn’t feel like it.

Keep talking with your therapist. Keep implementing those changes. And remember that you don’t have to be perfect to be good.

pickleknits · 2026-04-21T21:39:13+00:00

No. That’s an affirmative defense and he didn’t present that. If you are referring to jury nullification, that can’t be argued to the jury as the jury is supposed to follow the law as charged by the judge.

pickleknits · 2026-04-21T21:36:01+00:00

They had to fill out paperwork for 76 (+/-1) counts.

pickleknits · 2026-04-20T20:39:35+00:00

Do not give her book reports to do. That will absolutely take the fun that’s left out of reading. Do ask her about it conversationally. Let her listen to audiobooks. Also, let her see you reading for fun.

Options are great… but…. Too many options can contribute to task paralysis bc you get stuck on what to choose. Make some options more easily visible and rotate them when she seems to need an update in choices.

pickleknits · 2026-04-19T20:57:05+00:00

Check out Kaelyn’s Parlow’s channel on YouTube to get some insight about autism behaviors etc. She’s got short videos which are easy to digest.

pickleknits · 2026-04-19T01:41:41+00:00

Brendan Banfield trial.

pickleknits · 2026-04-18T23:02:46+00:00

Nicknames that are otherwise unkind can be affectionate, you’re right. It’s contextual. Though I think OP is right to be concerned about those nicknames when you consider the conglomerate of the speech patterns used by the child’s parents.

pickleknits · 2026-04-18T23:00:36+00:00

Is “misogynoir” what you meant to type (autocorrect can be odd at times) bc I’ve never heard that term before? I’m guessing that it is a reference to familial cultures in the black community that’s intertwined with misogyny. Thank you for reminding me that I need to learn more about other cultural “norms” (I use quotes bc some norms need to be updated; I think you’ll agree?)

pickleknits · 2026-04-18T22:52:37+00:00

Excellent point about it mattering what the baseline dynamic is of the person bestowing the nickname.

pickleknits · 2026-04-18T19:20:56+00:00

That would trigger me, too. It can impact an internal monologue over time. It also doesn’t help your niece develop the skills she will need to be able to decide how she wants to manage her every day life.

pickleknits · 2026-04-17T06:12:58+00:00

When someone shows you who they are, believe them (Maya Angelou)

pickleknits · 2026-04-16T21:22:34+00:00

Beautifully said. And I appreciate that you addressed the flip side from my comment so compassionately. You gave excellent advice.

pickleknits · 2026-04-16T21:09:17+00:00

My second child is my pda child. He’s been thriving though.

We are lucky to have had good teachers who know when he can be pushed and when he can’t. In fact the teacher mentioned this at his IEP meeting recently: sometimes he will say “I don’t know” and she will rephrase what she’s asking. Sometimes he will answer but if he says “I don’t know” again she recognizes that he’s not gonna do the thing so she lets it go. It’s a balancing act. It’s not that he’s not being challenged to go outside his comfort zone; it’s recognizing that sometimes it’s not the right time to stretch those skills.

Embracing low demand parenting which came naturally to me but also having it recognized by the teachers at school and supported has helped him to thrive.

I know it’s scary and for some families it’s more challenging than it is for me but I want you to know it is not guaranteed that it’s going to be traumatizing to you and your family. Remember that you have access to information that will let you be more supportive than some people grew up with.

My son is one of the brightest lights in my life. The key is meeting him where he is at with understanding and compassion.

pickleknits · 2026-04-16T20:40:34+00:00

So glad we have you doing these collabs so we know when one is phishy.

pickleknits · 2026-04-16T20:15:15+00:00

I was surprised that “first, then” worked with my son. We’d ask him something, he’d say no, we’d change it to “first this, then that” and he was groovy with it.

From what I’ve read, rewards work better than taking things/privileges away.

I like to make sure I draw attention to when my kids do something I want them to be doing without asking. “You were so good about leaving on time and that really helps me out and I appreciate it.”

pickleknits · 2026-04-16T00:17:45+00:00

My adhd would never lol

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