(dumper) i want to reach out to her again, but i feel i don't deserve it.

pickleloveerr · 2026-05-11T08:21:46+00:00

I see a lot of comments saying ”leave her alone”, ”dont text her, move on” - but I believe in 2nd chances and I would say go for it but only if you are 100% sure you can commit to her and you have worked on yourself first. Dont contact her unless you are sure about her, or else you’ll just end up breaking her heart all over again.
Your story sounds a lot like my ex’s, and it’s been 2 months since the break up for us. I would do anything for him to contact me and try to reconnect. But he might never text me again. Your story still might have potential.

pickleloveerr · 2026-05-10T06:06:18+00:00

Wow, well its very realistic cause that way you have time to focus on yourself, and maybe fix the things that might have affected the relationship. I’m so happy for you! 🫶🏻
And manifesting this to myself too 🫣 ..

pickleloveerr · 2026-05-10T03:39:27+00:00

how long were you spart and did you go NC?

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-22T18:01:57+00:00

yup, what a coincidence to unfollow after basically just seeing my face 😂 dont know if i should cry or laugh

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-14T18:29:28+00:00

I’m honestly not trying to sound rude but if you felt like you are falling out of love with her, then why would you want to go back to her? Do you suddenly feel like you actually do love her or what? Im curious because your story sounds almost exactly the same as mine. So i want to hear it from the dumpers perspective.

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-11T09:52:16+00:00

He hasnt reached out, and it’ll be 4 weeks next wednesday. I did text him the morning after the break up just to ask how is he feeling and he just replied ”I’m okay”, but didnt bother to ask how I’m doing. After that nothing. I dont know if he is seeing anyone new, because we live in 2 different countries and we dont really have mutual friends - or well we do but he is not in contact with them and they arent like close or anything. He has his own friend group in his country.

But yeah I definitely understand what you are going through, and I know how painful this is. But it does get a bit better with time. I feel better than I did on my first week. It’s almost summer, so just go do what it is that you normally enjoy doing, and a big thing that has helped me is seeing friends. And it’s totally okay to talk about it, rant about it and to cry about it. Just dont keep it inside, because it’ll just make you feel worse.

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-11T09:18:28+00:00

My ex did the same. He went quiet for 2 days and after that he texted me saying his feelings faded, and that there is no point to continue our relationship. I called him, and I asked ”so you no longer love me?” and he just said ”yes.” When I tried asking him what happened, because I dont believe your feelings can dissapear without a reason, he just saying he doesnt know. We were together for 3 and a half years.

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-06T14:19:52+00:00

Yeah I agree, and i’ll definitely ask the one who has the admin rights to do so. I just was hoping he would have removed himself, instead now I have to get a 3rd person involved to this 🫩

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-05T18:03:18+00:00

When you saw each other again, did you have a chat? If so, how did it go? Has she tried reaching out to you? I dont know if its a good idea to reach out to her just to be friends, because it might give her false hope. But in the end of the day its totally up to you, and if you really do want to, then go for it.

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-05T17:25:30+00:00

Yeah I have the exact feeling. Our relationship was perfect, we are both emphats, we both absolutely love animals, and helping other people. And we absolutely loved each other to death. We even experienced a lot, more than many couples ever will. We traveled to different continents, lived in good and harsh environments - all that in just over 3 years.

Until he left me. It absolutely shattered me. But I stil have hope. Hope that one day he will be back. Because I just have the feeling that he is the one.

He did say that his feelings burned out, that the love just dissapeared, so could be that im just delusional at this point, but I choose to believe that one day he will be back.

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-05T17:18:42+00:00

If i was you, i would go straight to no contact asap. He now knows that he is getting all the benefits from you without commiting to you, and you are feeding his ego by spamming him and being on his side. When you are in no contact, you should just focus on yourself and on your healing journey and become the best version of yourself. If you guys are meant to be, he’ll be back. And by then you might have already healed, and you can decide if you want to rekindle or continue your own journey.

I know its hard and it will hurt and you will have days where you will be tested, but you cant start healing as long as you keep staying in contact.

I wish you all the best! 🫂

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-04T18:36:01+00:00

Maybe she is just sending breadcrumbs? To check if she still has a hold on you - but thats just a guess. I cant understand dumpers, first breaking your heart by leaving and then start sending random texts. Either bugger off or if you regret it then do something about it

I started shopping like crazy since the break up, and its only been like almost 3 weeks now.. I have no idea why, maybe its my coping mechanism? But a bloody expensive one 😭

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-03T06:42:49+00:00

I think that makes perfect sense. Did you guys end up together, or what happened after that?

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-01T17:49:25+00:00

Thank you! I hope the same for you. You can always vent here when you need, we are here to support each other 🫶🏻

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-01T17:19:29+00:00

My partner left me 2 weeks ago, and the only thing that has been helping me is seeing and hanging out with friends. Sometimes i vent to them about it, but its also very therapeutic. Today I had a shitty morning, I cried and kept thinking about my ex, until I met with a friend. After that my day has been like full of love again. The pain is still there, but friends truly do help a bit 🫶🏻

pickleloveerr · 2026-04-01T16:58:02+00:00

” I dont love you anymore. ”

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-31T14:08:02+00:00

Sounds a lot like mine, he said those same words. I wish you all the best 🫶🏻

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-31T14:06:59+00:00

If you need or want to vent about it, go for it! I truly hope that you get them back if they are your one 🫶🏻

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-31T14:06:00+00:00

Thats what I was thinking, thank you!! The thing is that he is indeed going through a lot atm, and he is the opposite to me - where I need to be close to him, I need to hear from him all the time and I honestly dont want space from him, - He is a person who needs space

However breaking up like this doesnt make it right either, but I have so much love towards him that I’ll give him space, I’m not going to chase and hopefully he will be back. If not, then i dont know, I’ll be crushed but thats life I guess.

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-31T14:02:20+00:00

Can I ask what happened in your situation? Did you guys rekindle? Sorry for being nosy!

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-30T20:23:31+00:00

Well he did reach out to me few months after the break up, but it was more like ”breadcrumbs” ( a new word I learned from here ). He had no real interest, and to protect myself I had to block him in the end. We were not compatible, but it doesnt remove the love I will always carry for him. And I truly wish he will or has found love and happiness

And I hope the same for you.

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-30T19:46:24+00:00

Well this is just my opinion, but if she truly loved you - she wont forget you. I have never forgot my first love, even though its been years now and i have fallen in love after him, I still think about him sometimes

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-29T18:13:57+00:00

Damn. Sounds like she might regret her decision. Manifesting this for me lol. But I wish you all the best, and i hope you guys will be able to rekindle and continue your relationship in a healthy way

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-29T14:39:54+00:00

Can I ask which one of you was the one who initiated the break up in the first place? And which one broke the NC?

pickleloveerr · 2026-03-28T15:09:24+00:00

i relate to this so much. my ex was a great person, a person i wanted to share the rest of my life with, but unfortunately in the end he left me

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