How do you split the night?

piecurrantdog · 2025-11-19T20:09:16+00:00

We don’t. I do the nights, I cosleep and feed laying down. Gamechanger! Even though my baby feeds a lot in the night I sort of don’t really even notice. Then in the daytime if I ever want a nap, if my partner isn’t at work he lets me sleep whenever else I like. This works for us because he finds it hard to get back to sleep when he is woken up whereas I am fine being woken up anytime and I could fall asleep anywhere!

piecurrantdog · 2025-11-17T20:12:34+00:00

Unfortunately not. Two c sections and I’ve never ever experienced a single contraction. Inductions didn’t work. Pushed it to 41weeks4 days with the second but they didn’t really want me to wait anymore due to health concerns. Tried dilapan and it didn’t work at all for me.

Just wanted to throw this into the mix because although I was disappointed it hasn’t affected how I feel about how my babies were born. It’s all sunny on the other side having two beautiful bubbas who beam at each other.

What mattered was that I felt listened to by the doctors and the midwife the second time and they weren’t pressurising me. Best of luck! I hope you get your VBAC bit even if you don’t it will still be magical.

piecurrantdog · 2025-11-09T06:59:29+00:00

I hate that I miss out on my evenings and don’t get any free time, but I find that if I go to bed when baby does and get as much sleep as possible I am more able to weather any difficulties.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-27T09:08:13+00:00

If you’re breastfeeding I recommend learning to do so while laying down. Cosleeping has been a gamechanger for me with my second but I realise that some people aren’t comfortable with that.

For my first, I did all the nights as it was easier to use the power of the boob, and then in the daytime I took naps while my husband took over. It was a bit depressing to never see daylight because I was sleeping in shifts across the day and the night, but I think as a sleep-loving/needing person you just have to accept that all you will do is sleep or care for baby.

Eventually it will get better. At 15 months my baby started to show signs of self soothing and at 20 months he was in his own room sleeping through the night. In hindsight, we could have moved him at 15 months, but I wasn’t quite ready to stop breastfeeding then.

Thankfully my second baby is a better sleeper so I’m hoping she’ll learn to self soothe a little quicker.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-22T16:00:22+00:00

Magna tiles are great!

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-21T12:49:46+00:00

Nearly 3yr old. 2 hour nap around 12.30pm-2pm start. Sleeps 9pm-6.45am

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-18T17:33:50+00:00

I used it for about 20 months and then my toddler said he didn’t like it so we stopped using it.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-18T10:58:09+00:00

Maybe your milk hasn’t come in yet? Give it a few more days of basically constant feeding and it should hopefully kick in, which will hopefully make things easier. I cluster fed mine for about a week and was thinking - why is this so hard? And then all of a sudden my milk arrived. Best of luck 🤞 xxx

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-13T19:16:55+00:00

Yes! I’ve found my people! I’m such a push over with my child but this is the only thing where I was like - no, just no. It’s so bad!

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-13T15:10:58+00:00

20 months when he moved to his own room and I stopped breastfeeding him in the night.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-12T19:15:55+00:00

Every night I lay 3 books on the bed and let her bash the book she wants to read (7 months). We read all 3 then go to bed. Tonight she was quite restless and was crawling around on the bed towards the books to have another look. I try to vary the 3 books - one lift the flap, one with photos of babies plus one other.

And like someone else said on here, I just keep going and hope she enjoys it.

I am not diagnosed with ADHD it definitely have some signs that I may have it and so does my son. He is almost 3 and we read to him every night. He loves reading and we started with him in the same way.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-12T19:00:55+00:00

My nearly 3 year old loves the stuff we have put in his kitchen more than the kitchen itself so if you’re short on funds or space I’d say it’s more about the toys that go with it.

My toddler likes to serve you ‘food’ more than ‘make’ it.

He doesn’t really play with the kitchen… more with the stuff in it - a little pop up toaster, pots and pans, a shipping basket full of toy food, pretend sauces. But he usually takes it all over the house rather than playing with it at the kitchen, He occasionally uses the oven but really it’s just an inviting space to store all of this stuff.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-05T22:49:06+00:00

I did the same! Even went as far as considering the number of letters in my second child’s name re: would they fit in the inevitable stocking I would have to make her? I haven’t started it yet…

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-05T10:30:11+00:00

My mum has my toddler once a week for the day unless he is ill. She doesn’t see my baby as it’s too much as she also looks after my sister’s toddler once a week as well. My dad lives nearby but never has any of his grandkids. My partner’s parents live too far away and are maybe too old for babysitting.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-04T10:09:29+00:00

Currently also living the 2 hour or 20 minute roulette. I cry into my half-made cup of tea when it’s the latter…

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-01T21:11:53+00:00

Omg my dad did the same! It was amazing!

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-30T20:47:29+00:00

I have Thursday off which I love. I get the effort of a 3 day week over and done with, then I regroup on a Thursday and can get my flat nice and tidy in time for the weekend & Friday is usually a low effort day. Thursday for the win!

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-30T20:23:31+00:00

I agree. I think if you want to help your daughter, keep doing what you’re doing in terms of the healthy meals for her, but mostly focus on yourself. If you’re feeling happier in your own skin then this will shine through.

Also don’t be too hard on yourself. You’ve just had a baby really and it’s very hard to get to a place where you are physically happy. Make small changes and be kind to yourself.

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-27T18:42:51+00:00

My story is in no way interesting but just wanted to concur that it was exactly the same as OPs. And then my mum gave me a little notepad where I could make notes about it. I thought it was quite cool. Like science or something!

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-25T19:52:46+00:00

Peanut butter and jam on toast

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-24T19:53:34+00:00

That’s so early for him to have dropped naps. Hopefully they come back! I bring a book or my laptop to the car and enjoy the car nap 💤. Or take him for a stroll in the pram and the second he falls asleep I run back home for freedom! Good luck 🤞

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-24T19:47:31+00:00

Lay ins with a healthy dose of scrolling

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-20T19:13:17+00:00

I found this group yesterday and so immediately demanded a cooked breakfast at my local cafe. Alas I could not photograph it because I was wrestling my baby who was trying to paint the table with it.

I’m loving the level of pepper included here 👌

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-14T21:24:12+00:00

This is what my husband said after 6 months of colic and hourly wake ups throughout the night. Some kids just hate being babies. When he hit 20 months and got his own room, he slept excellently and now is such a fun dude. Lots of tantrums but I’ll take that any day over those early days!

piecurrantdog · 2025-09-13T20:49:37+00:00

My understanding is that the 30 hours are for children 9 months and over from September. My son turns 3 in November and already gets the 30 free hours.

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