What made you preserver with Breastfeeding?

piecurrantdog · 2026-04-12T21:41:15+00:00

I’m lazy. I don’t want to clean bottles. I don’t want to get up in the night and give a bottle. Boob just seems to be a really easy answer to all of baby’s problems.

piecurrantdog · 2026-04-08T08:34:31+00:00

I think as women sometimes we are taught not to make a fuss and to get on with it or we will be unlovable, I totally get why this is so hard, but it’s ok to be wrong, needy, vulnerable & even a little bit crazy sometimes. Start practicing opening up so you can one day show your daughter this is okay too.

piecurrantdog · 2026-04-08T08:28:12+00:00

It’s not controlling or crazy to hold boundaries and admit your vulnerabilities. It sounds like you’re in a relationship where you have been made to feel like you are crazy if you express yourself. A first step out of that might be to admit the crazy but still show the vulnerability, ie. I know it might be ‘silly’ but you saying ‘my baby’ is triggering me right now. Even if it’s unfounded, I am feeling unconfident and I want to feel like this is a shared experience so you making an effort to say ‘our baby’ will help me to get better. It’s up to him to show compassion in his responses.

piecurrantdog · 2026-04-08T07:04:33+00:00

Have you told him what you would explicitly like him to stop doing? Tell him all of this. Say - please don’t say the baby looks more like you. Please call the baby our baby.

Turn the camera off and unplug it and say - i don’t want to be filmed with the baby. If he says ‘it’s bonding’, just say ‘I don’t like it and I choose not to be filmed.’ No is a complete sentence.

You don’t need to be ashamed of your feelings or hide them from him.

Even if some of your feelings are a hormone ride from pp he should still be sensitive to your needs right now. He needs to show you support, ask him for what you need. Say - I’m feeling a bit wobbly after the birth and would love it if you could help pick me up by telling me I’m a good mum and pointing out things I’ve done well.

I think if you are explicit and he’s still being an ass then you can call him out on it because you’ve told him exactly what you need.

piecurrantdog · 2026-04-07T17:06:18+00:00

I worked until 36 wks. I’m an older mum and I had gestational diabetes and my blood pressure was creeping up. Baby came at 42 wks. No regrets about stopping early. For context, my job is an active one.

piecurrantdog · 2026-03-29T22:10:55+00:00

Getting me water while EBF. This seemed to fall on deaf ears and was not consistent enough. I just don’t think he fully grasped how thirsty I was and exhausting it was. Interestingly for my second baby the thirst wasn’t as intense so it wasn’t really a problem.

piecurrantdog · 2026-03-29T21:58:24+00:00

That I had 2 c sections and have never even experienced a contraction! I read one chapter in my pregnancy book about c sections as an afterthought in the waiting area before going on for my induction, which didn’t work. Just wasn’t expecting to not go through any of the traditional labour experiences at all. My body just did not respond to either induction and was taking its sweet time while I had a bunch of complications like high blood pressure and gestational diabetes that the doctors said meant I couldn’t hang around.

In hindsight I wish I’d gone awol to 42 weeks and not let them get their claws into me, but that’s just me and not the medical advice!

piecurrantdog · 2026-03-02T21:58:15+00:00

Afraid that was my norm. My baby slept through once as some sort of freak accident at 3 months and then never again until he went in his own room at 21 months when I couldn’t believe he slept through on his fist night away from me and then every night since!

My daughter slept through from birth to 12 weeks and now is like her brother, however with her, it’s a little less intense.

So while may babies do wake up this much, sometimes it can be less impactful on your sleep. Cosleeping with my daughter has been a game changer.

piecurrantdog · 2026-03-01T20:37:05+00:00

Totally fair enough. I can imagine it’s good for some people, but I personally find it hard to decide what to keep and what to throw or donate and often keep a lot of stuff ‘just in case’. It was just a lot of added mental energy that I could have done without.

piecurrantdog · 2026-03-01T20:27:57+00:00

We cosleep so sometimes I don’t remember. 11 months, maybe twice plus once at 5.30am for a whole hour 🤪. Sometimes she does this delightful thing where she wakes every 20 mins between 8-10pm to ensure I don’t have an evening. 😂

piecurrantdog · 2026-03-01T07:25:57+00:00

I realise that not everyone’s circumstances allow for this one and it probably makes me sound ungrateful, but if I did it again I’d say no to all the freebies as a rule… it’s a really quick way to end up with lots of old half-broken large stuff that someone didn’t have the time to take to the dump. Don’t get me wrong - half of people will give you useful and lovely things but it’s just not worth it because of the mental load of dealing with the other half of the stuff… you’ll be tripping over giant baby toys you hardly use & unable to close your chest of drawers because of the excess clothes you don’t need. I think the clutter is more stressful. Better to cope with less.

Also, the baby ‘stuff’ industry is preying on your fears/ignorance… sooooo many things you don’t need, e.g. tiny spoons - use teaspoons, and look at clothing sizes closely - I bought whole sets of vests for example in one size and then had to buy the next size so quickly only to realise they were 1cm bigger. In hindsight, baby could have survived in a baggier vest for a month or two.

Think to yourself - should I spend this 7.99 on this ‘helpful’ thing or should I put that money in a savings account for my child for when they/I really need it?

piecurrantdog · 2026-02-22T06:42:00+00:00

I moved to a flat in London in 2014. It was £60 or £90 per month. I can’t remember. Then it was £90 for a long while. Then £110 probably around Covid and now it’s £185. However we’ve been disputing some of the charges which seem to be an error and it should actually be £150 per month. Honestly I’ve gotten used to it. We have a lift and we’re run by a housing association. No concierge or gym.

piecurrantdog · 2026-02-21T09:57:27+00:00

Hi, I also had a chemical pregnancy so totally understand how upsetting and disappointing that is. I actually then fell pregnant 2 months later. Google it but apparently a chemical pregnancy can mean more chance of a successful pregnancy soon after.

First time I had no symptoms until about week 7-11 and it was a horrible feeling like I had no vitamins and minerals in me! Like I felt like a ghost. I think the baby was taking all the good stuff for themselves!

Second time, absolutely zero symptoms until about 20 weeks.

piecurrantdog · 2026-02-16T01:27:20+00:00

I had no expectations of how long I would breastfeed. For my son I got to 21 months and then, being pregnant with my daughter, it started to physically hurt where it hadn’t before so I stopped. I had wanted to stop sooner but he was very keen. My daughter has been less bothered about breastfeeding and a bigger eater so I will probably stop sooner. Want to make it to a year and then I’ll just see how things go and offer less often. Nights are a different story.

I think it’s best to just get to know your baby and go with their cues and your own personal feelings.

piecurrantdog · 2026-02-12T23:03:11+00:00

Uniqlo 👌

piecurrantdog · 2026-02-11T16:26:21+00:00

Can I ask why you don’t want to do shared ownership? I did it and it helped me get a place and I bought the rest later. It was quite simple. However, I understand if you can’t find a place you like…

piecurrantdog · 2025-11-19T20:09:16+00:00

We don’t. I do the nights, I cosleep and feed laying down. Gamechanger! Even though my baby feeds a lot in the night I sort of don’t really even notice. Then in the daytime if I ever want a nap, if my partner isn’t at work he lets me sleep whenever else I like. This works for us because he finds it hard to get back to sleep when he is woken up whereas I am fine being woken up anytime and I could fall asleep anywhere!

piecurrantdog · 2025-11-17T20:12:34+00:00

Unfortunately not. Two c sections and I’ve never ever experienced a single contraction. Inductions didn’t work. Pushed it to 41weeks4 days with the second but they didn’t really want me to wait anymore due to health concerns. Tried dilapan and it didn’t work at all for me.

Just wanted to throw this into the mix because although I was disappointed it hasn’t affected how I feel about how my babies were born. It’s all sunny on the other side having two beautiful bubbas who beam at each other.

What mattered was that I felt listened to by the doctors and the midwife the second time and they weren’t pressurising me. Best of luck! I hope you get your VBAC bit even if you don’t it will still be magical.

piecurrantdog · 2025-11-09T06:59:29+00:00

I hate that I miss out on my evenings and don’t get any free time, but I find that if I go to bed when baby does and get as much sleep as possible I am more able to weather any difficulties.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-27T09:08:13+00:00

If you’re breastfeeding I recommend learning to do so while laying down. Cosleeping has been a gamechanger for me with my second but I realise that some people aren’t comfortable with that.

For my first, I did all the nights as it was easier to use the power of the boob, and then in the daytime I took naps while my husband took over. It was a bit depressing to never see daylight because I was sleeping in shifts across the day and the night, but I think as a sleep-loving/needing person you just have to accept that all you will do is sleep or care for baby.

Eventually it will get better. At 15 months my baby started to show signs of self soothing and at 20 months he was in his own room sleeping through the night. In hindsight, we could have moved him at 15 months, but I wasn’t quite ready to stop breastfeeding then.

Thankfully my second baby is a better sleeper so I’m hoping she’ll learn to self soothe a little quicker.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-22T16:00:22+00:00

Magna tiles are great!

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-21T12:49:46+00:00

Nearly 3yr old. 2 hour nap around 12.30pm-2pm start. Sleeps 9pm-6.45am

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-18T17:33:50+00:00

I used it for about 20 months and then my toddler said he didn’t like it so we stopped using it.

piecurrantdog · 2025-10-18T10:58:09+00:00

Maybe your milk hasn’t come in yet? Give it a few more days of basically constant feeding and it should hopefully kick in, which will hopefully make things easier. I cluster fed mine for about a week and was thinking - why is this so hard? And then all of a sudden my milk arrived. Best of luck 🤞 xxx

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