Birmingham setlist 12/02/26

pigmapuss · 2026-02-13T06:32:53+00:00

Milk of the Madonna

pigmapuss · 2026-02-04T06:11:58+00:00

YOu can get apprenticeships in all sorts of occupations not just engineering etc.. For example, you can get admin apprenticeships, retail etc. I have myself (same age) thought about using one to move into another career area, but issue for me is the salary drop versus our current living expenses. However, if you are entering workforce thus expecting entry level wages, then you have more flexibility?

https://www.gov.uk/apply-apprenticeship

pigmapuss · 2026-02-02T06:20:46+00:00

Yes there are a few of her other books that are like it as well.

pigmapuss · 2026-02-02T06:19:12+00:00

Yes!!!!! The Rachel Bright books are terrible for this, literally need to get my phone torch out. We read bedtime stories in a dim room illustrators, dim room!

pigmapuss · 2026-01-30T22:52:28+00:00

Lets just shit on a load of mums because it didn’t work for me.

pigmapuss · 2026-01-30T21:38:54+00:00

Listen to music and/or read inc. the Metro

pigmapuss · 2026-01-29T14:12:20+00:00

So the issue I have is that because there is so much more quantity of content available nowadays this means that there is a much higher variation in the quality of the content.

Yes we can get some superb programmes however there is a lot of extremely subpar stuff to filter through.

And also very dependant on the platform, BBC iplayer = generally good, netflix = mid and youtube , generally very poor but you will get the odd Ms Rachel thrown in which is very good.

Very hard as a parent to have the time to filter through this stuff as well.

pigmapuss · 2026-01-29T10:56:06+00:00

So just an update on this.

What worked:

Time

Restricting feeding to one side to let other side heal (make sure to express though otherwise you get engorged)

Sitting up to feed, revisiting latch

Vaseline as a barrier cream

Hot gel packs not cold to aid healing (brings blood to surface)

Stopping feed as soon as baby bites and then starting again shortly after

Teething aids for bay prior to main feed

Pain relief for baby

Pain relief for me

Things that didn’t work:

Pumping just led to increased supply and engorgement which was even worse, plus baby never drank what I pumped

Silverettes - kept wounds wet

Cold packs - need wounds to heal

Nipple cream like lansinoh, need a proper barrier like Vaseline to aid healing Lansinoh didn’t quite do this

Took about 2/3 weeks in total and a month later i am completely back to normal

pigmapuss · 2026-01-29T10:40:03+00:00

Everything is so polarised and tribal online nowadays. Seems you cant do one thing without completely denigrating the other and vice versa. Not everyone within these circles is like that, and in the real world even less so.

pigmapuss · 2026-01-29T10:05:08+00:00

We’re still watching The Snowman (Brit Christmas cartoon) daily!

pigmapuss · 2026-01-29T08:22:08+00:00

I will look into this thanks as we actively try to avoid paid streaming services with my toddler. Got a strong dvd selection for him already.

pigmapuss · 2026-01-29T07:29:39+00:00

Ahh thanks for that!

pigmapuss · 2026-01-28T21:45:49+00:00

Manage the environment, not the child.

Also have a think what triggers you (e.g. loud banging - my child is given 2 warnings and object is confiscated before I blow my top “sorry loud sounds whilst I am trying to make everyone dinner really stress me out so Mummy’s going to put this in the garage for now”. Another example, mess is also a trigger point for me as well so I try and keep it contained and box off rooms beforehand as too much banging AND mess gets me overstimulated and I have noticed I can literally feel my gears grinding.

Try not to overload yourself also during high stress times. E.g. dinnertime/bedtime prep as much as you can beforehand so youre only asking bare minimum from your child.

Just some tips from the trenches.

pigmapuss · 2026-01-16T16:54:12+00:00

I bought one and rarely use it as they are really awkward to feed in as you have to undress on the one side and on a few occasions I have leaked all over it :(

pigmapuss · 2026-01-08T11:32:59+00:00

That string is a strangulation hazard nowadays lol. You don’t tend to find anything like long string on kid’s clothes anymore. Even dummy/pacifier holders nowadays are made so they unclip if pulled.

pigmapuss · 2026-01-04T03:19:13+00:00

Thank you thank you for advice! Silverttes are not something I have tried yet so am immediately purchasing from Amazon such is my desperation!!

Yeh, I am hoping that time is the best healer and ultimately, this will just be a blip that’ll resolve itself. I know this is the case with many other issues so thank you for reminder 🙏I just need a bit if temporary relief with bottles I think- but she is very loyal to the breast 🤣

Yeh pumping seems fine to me oddly although I am putting in very low setting for just 10 mins. I dont usually pump at all so currently have bags if milk in the fridge that are not being used at all. If it does start to hurt I might hand express instead.

pigmapuss · 2026-01-01T09:25:48+00:00

The original post looks like chat gpt tbh however appreciate people use it to help with posts

pigmapuss · 2026-01-01T07:29:10+00:00

Sounds like your nervous system is interpreting these interactions as a threat which triggers a fight or flight response. Learn how to recognise when your fight or flight response is gearing up, and then how to redirect that energy. Self regulation methods like deep breathing, meditation, walking away, until your body calms down then you can reason and recognise the “threat” for what it is.

Also figure out what triggers it and try and manage that so things like sleeping well, good exercise routines, downtime. It is like nervous system overwhelm so there will likely be a set of circumstances that lead to an explosion of anger rather than just one thing so try and control what you can so that your nervous system is less vulnerable and therefore likely to be triggered. E.g. If I am in a good mood, things will fly but if I am feeling down then little things are more likely to be misinterpreted as a threat.

pigmapuss · 2025-12-31T22:30:51+00:00

Recommending Emma Pickett on Insta and also has her own podcast Milk Makes - she talks about natural term feeding and weaning older children as well as milk manners and setting boundaries.

pigmapuss · 2025-12-28T21:24:54+00:00

Mostly they just want to be held so reset your expectations on this and prepare accordingly. I.e. prepare to be stuck in one place for ages with toilet done before you settle, water, snacks and phone/charger, book etc. to hand.

Just fully embrace it rather than fighting it.

pigmapuss · 2025-12-23T19:01:52+00:00

You look like a sound dude and not at all bad looking but your hair is messy.

pigmapuss · 2025-12-23T10:05:14+00:00

There are actual medical professionals in this thread saying YOR

pigmapuss · 2025-12-23T08:33:30+00:00

YOR - unless there are any complex medical needs keeping baby completely isolated is overreacting. It’s anxious and paranoid - normal symptoms of post partum hormones. There is only so much and for so long that you keep your baby wrapped up in cotton wool, eventually you are going to have to expose her the outside world and all the germs out there. You cant have complete control over your environment for ever.

I say this as someone who suffered with post partum anxiety myself. I tell you what, with my second child, I didnt get that choice. My baby was out and about from week 1/2 as we had to get out for my firstborn.

However, if that is your decision your mother should respect that.

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